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My 2 year old Breitling 42mm Superocean 2 watch, brought new by me from costco, original purchase receipt supplied with sale, all boxes, papers, tags etc. unregistered guarantee card, back has never been removed, high street retail on this is currently £3600, I'll take £2400 or closest offer, can post RM next day insured delivery, prefer cash on collection, LU55ed dunstable area

This is where we are at, she had become so selfish and egocentric it's was beyond a joke, she clearly loves her daughter but has absolutely no idea how to parent or be parent/wife, it's very sad to watch really. She was increasingly out after work with her "work buddies" as it always seems to be someone's birthday or leaving do it got unbearable, me and my daughter would always go out for something to eat alone when she did that and it got to the point the car knew it's own way to the wimpy bar, chip shop and every pizza place in town, the final straw was seeing my five year old staring out of the pizza shop window looking for her mum to see if she was coming to eat with us on more than one occasion, sports day she couldn't come as she had to get false eyelashes done because she was out for dinner that night again without us, tbh the more I look back on the more I realise we will be better off without her now, thousands of pounds in the last year on hair, beauty treatments etc. Madness, and last night she admitted that she had not put any thought whatsoever into who our daughter should. Live with and when and how we should share her time when the divorce is done despite knowing we have mediation to come in the next week or so. But of course she is the font of all parenting knowledge and sees fit to demand and dictate how I should act, when I should act and what is best for my daughter

She won't ever admit to adultery I'm afraid, that destroys her fantasy moral high ground she believes she has as sh etalks in a soft nice tone of voice :-), lots have changed recently regarding divorce and family /finances and there is absolutely nothing to be gained by adultery anymore, the court favour no fault divorces, children no longer automatically reside with the mum as they used to historically and the courts main interest is whatever is in the best interests of the child so far as the court is concerned, finances are divided up on the needs of the parties where it has been a long marriage and not who put what in so the ability to get a mortgage in future due to age and health are all taken into account when the judge decides, it's all so different now and actually a lot fairer than it ever was before, I shoud come out of this a lot betrer than she will when the law is applied it's just a year of pain until its all finished unfortunately, what disturbs me now I am wiser to her is just how easy lying comes to her, about the smallest of things, she lies so much its become like second nature to her which clearly makes me question most of what I was suspicious about ofr many years now, she alps has a habit of saying things then denying she did, it's like an illness she has

Thanks chap, my. Solicitors instructions will simply be "rince her" as I am disabled with a huge clinical history any funny business will simply mean I will need a ground floor home at her expense Oh yes, always has been, hope you are well my friend, thanks for the chat the other night

Thanks, I get what your saying about the drama but aside from some expletives and an angry tone of voice on my part she has already built herself a stage to protect her ego it appears and is Indeed away with the fairies and detatched from reality in most aspects, with regards to finance I have absolutely no interest in playing her games at mediation, been here before when they put a nice fluffy cardigan on and appear to be all sweet and innocent for the camera, I am going to take it all the way and simply tell my solicitor I want as much as she thinks I am entitled to regarding finances, not interested in plea bargains I have to put my daughter and I first now, Im 50, she is fully aware that I can never go back to work or get a mortgage whereas she can as she is 38 and I have given the last 20 years of my life and deteriorating health to this relationship, I have a clean conscious here so don't feel in the slightest bit guilty about carrying this through to the very letter of the law, I have no interest in my wants but will push 100% to get my legal entitlement

She is a small unassuming Indian lady, the type you wouldn't see coming :-), from my best guess I went and found the best I could locally and the wife went and found the cheapest and probably ended up with the clerk

Indeed I do, she has 25 years of just family matters, I also visited a different solicitor after my initial consultation with her to confirm what I was told was accurate and the other solicitor (23 years experience) was singing the praises of the first one so I dotted the I and crossed the t so to speak

Nearly managed a conversation last night,turns out she just wanted to discuss how I should alter my behaviour to make her life easier for her and admitted that she hasn't given any thoughts whatsoever to our daughters living arrangements after we split which is what the mediation process is all about, it beggers belief that the singularly most important person in this entire facade isn't worthy of her thoughts or attention over herself, my solicitor has told me that the divorce isn't relevant to the family or financial matters and I should just sign her papers anyway, thanks for all the input and advice everyone

Lol! She has already been caught over the other side but clearly denied and continues to deny it, I have ensured that I have exhausted every avenue to sort this amicably now and regardless of whatever the future holds my conscience is clear which as this is my second divorce now somehow seems of primary importance to me, the last one was 30 years back, so much has changed now

Very true, yep, I will be wary thanks, I have offered to loan her one of my spare spinning rods a few times now to aid her fishing expeditions she seems to embark on regularly, did you know you use and apple I watch to record things without the phone being present? Amazing what you learn when uou have to, I think there has been a bit of that going on previously but I'm usually quite Aware if the things I say so naturally cautios

Hope so, twenty years and I have done everything in my power to try and sort it out for the sake of my daughter but she clearly isn't interested In playing ball in any way

Yep, you got it

I don't feel. I have a right, the law does though, its not up to me to interpret it as I see fit that's what I pay someone else £300ph to do

That the law, I didn't make it or decipher it, I am. Unable to go get job and accrue a pension I guess as I have been stay at home dad for 6 years and am disabled, I'm 50 and she is 38 apparently all that is relevant, I'm. Just quoting what 2 solicitors told me and is freely available on the net, the families act 1973 sec 23 or 25

She had the bank in her name, I get non means tested disability benefits that go into that account, she refused 4 times to allow me to access any money which as my solicitor said is domestic abuse, separated my money now, and what is this sex thing mentioned in the list?

This was my thought as to the attempt to hurry that part through, maintenance for me and my daughter, a home, half her pensions, wondered if the rush a way to try and subvert that somehow, either that or she has been promised a pot of gold by her new man as soon as she is divorced

She has proven herself a liar now many times over this matter so whatever she says I can not believe, and yes, very cunning and sly and confident she has been planning this for a while but she doesn't seem so up on the legalities yet, I think some bloke has been promising her the earth to get in her undercrackers and offering her his very bad advice to get her confidence, she has always been the woman who would scour the Internet to get a 2% off voucher for a £100 purchase yet nothing matters whatsoever aside from pushing the divorce through, total tunnel vision to the detriment of everything else so my assumption is "of course I'll leave my family for you but I won't until you are divorced". Its the only thing that makes sense out of it all really, six months of regular false eyelashes, eyebrows, new clothes and nails, restless nights,fortune on face creams and hairdressers etc. Changing passwords on everything

Is that 100% about the financial issues must be resolved before the divorce is granted? She has done an Internet special and served me with papers that was supposed to return within 7 days for unreasonable behaviour, I did like any man faced with any sort of instruction manual and shredded them instantly in disgust

Thanks, she is basically screwed, I'm disabled so don't have the capacity to get a mortgage whereas she does so she has to buy me a. 2 bed property outright, half her pensions, spousal maintenance etc. , she is also younger than me and I have been our daughters primary carer for the last 5 years now, I was so gobsmacked at how the law has changed now I had to go see a different solicitor to double check! , used to be all about the mum but not anymore, we have over half a million in equity. At the end of the day my conscience is clear, she was supposed to be out with her girlfriends for a night and my mate caught her alone with another Man in his car in a deserted pub car park late at night down a country lane, of course she claimed innocence and had a million reasons to justify her behaviour but then I found a message on her phone two days later to the girlfriend she claimed to be going out with "his friend caught us together in the car but didn't see anything, thanks for your help jess". So aside from. Actually catching her in bed with someone it's pretty conclusive I would say

Thanks, amicable this will not be I'm afraid, I so wish it could be though

OK, so, after 20 years it's all over, is there anyone here with any legal expertise? I have been to see a couple of solicitors already so I'm not trying to skimp and save on the important stuff, I just have one question and my solicitor is on an as and when basis atm and with the vat £300 an hour! It's quite straightforward, once we are all said and done most debts will be taken from the equity in the property, the Mrs is pushing for a quick divorce and has already served papers on me, she knows that financial circumstances dictate for me that I am going to have to rack up massive credit card bills to pay for my legal representation as she holds all the financial cards and legal aid is non existent, my question is if we are divorced before the finances are dealt with do any debts I accrue after the decree absolute still get taken from the equity? Or is this a case of they were accrued after the divorce was finalised but before the court felt with finances so they are all on me? We are and still will be cohabiting until the property is sold, thanks for any advice Atb Paul

engine carbon clean is a giant scam thats why you have to have it repeated every few months, the ignorance of the idiots doing it is astounding though as they all want a fast buck. You connect the machine to the intake and it pumps oxygen and hydrogen in, the hydrogen acts as a fuel and over the 30 mins it is connected the extra fuel is recognised by the o2 sensors which re-learn their fuel tables and make your engines management system inject less fuel so when you remove their device your emissions appear lower as the engine is running lean and not adding enough fuel to compensate until it re-learns its parameters, this gives the engine the feeling of more power as its not bogged down with an over-rich condition(all engines are set to run a little rich as a safety margin). I know this because I was one of the first people in the UK to attempt to commercially manufacture these devices. I sold 50 of them at £3500 each to a big biofuels company and 49 owners came back claiming fuel savings but none of them provided any data to back it up so we went to milbrook, paid a ransom and had them tested on a double decker bus, the unit was supposed to be a fuel saver and drew 16A from the cars alternator to make the gas so more load was added, it made fuel consumption about 15% worse but showed a slight reduction in emissions while it was running. So the lessons learned were that the placebo effect is vastly underrated to the point that 49 people (hauliers mostly) experienced a non existent fuel saving when it in fact made it worse which I can only attribute to them changing their driving style. I ceased with my endeavour after seeing the results but a friend of mine kept going, he made a few quid but now the proverbial cat is out of the bag and everyone's at it dot com.

£150 if you can collect tomorrow (Wednesday) or it'll be sold to my nearest RFD

i think its funny, all those people driving round in electric teslas to reduce their c02 output and then the boss decides to completely undo their good planet saving work by sending a huge rocket up so he can watch a car orbit the earth

reduced to £40 plus p&p before i put it away in the wardrobe again, this really is unmarked and as new gents