Drugs ( 2 )

[Jega]

Yeap I can tell you that, never took anything more than the odd beer. As far as over reacting when someone you trust completely tells you they have taken drugs you tell me how do you react because I don't know.

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You give yourself a massive pat on the back mate.

Firstly for raising an honest(if slightly easily led )young man.

Secondly for caring ehough to let this little episode concern you enough to seek advice and help.

Ask yourself what if he denied taking anything ,where would you be then?I'll give you a few pointers bud,your relationship would never be the same again as once the element of trust and honesty has been compromised thats pretty much the end .

This young man on the other hand has enough respect for you Marty to openly admit to something he knows full well you are dead against,regardless of this he values your relationship enough to not put it at risk by lying to you.

So in short i dont think you've got a hell of a lot to worry about mate.He simply gave into temptation and peer pressure ,and regrets it enough to admit his mistake to the one he repects above all others ................You

[keg]

Whilst i agree with Bry-m that alcohol causes a lot of problems, at least you know what is in it. As several have highlighted, it's what drugs are cut with that is the problem.

As to the comment from four wheel drive- No i have never taken any form of drugs ( other than medical) and when drinking, have never caused any trouble.

 

Two daughters of a friend are now in full time care with schizophrenia after trying their first drug ( i believe they were smoking very strong canabis) and will never lead independant lives.

 

 

Whilst not putting all drug users in the same category, having seen the misery in my mums face when she was burgled the year after my father died by some drug crazed scumbag feeding his habit by taking all my dad's stuff, I would quite happily put them away for life when life means life.

Edited May 13, 2012 by keg

[evo]

he has done the right thing by owning up to you,,well done him,,that was the hardest thing he will ever do in his life,,at least he has showed you respect,,good luck in the future to you both :good:

[storme37]

i dont think this lad will become mentally ill or a scum bag because because he experimented. lets face it the university's of the uk are full of kids like your boy just finding their way in the world and doing the same things they will go on to be doctors and lawyers. my only advice to you as im no expert on drugs is keep the relationship good the rest will work out.

[Catweazle]

A one off or occasional use of recreational drugs does not automatically mean a one way ticket to Trainspotting - He's tried it and didn't like it - Move on, be supportive and encouraging and try not to turn his return from a night out into the Spanish Inquisition - That will just make him keep his distance.

 

Hope all goes well.

 

Well said. Loads of youngsters do this every day, the vast majority dislike the experience and move on.

[leeds chimp]

replied to your PM

 

As said above its how you handle this that will make the differance..dropping a pill and he did not like it MIGHT put him off for good but hen again he might try it again with a bit of peer pressure saying it was a bad pill thry this mitsu, claw and hammer etc...

 

All you can do is sit down and talk about it and explain the risks.

 

Personally I would rather deal with 10 people on a pill than 2 people that are ******....simple as that and I do think the media whips all the hysteria about drugs up.

[Big Marty]

Thank again Lads just needed someone to tell me that it wasn't that bad.....

[Havana]

Thank again Lads just needed someone to tell me that it wasn't that bad.....

 

I would not be to worried in the overall scheme of things as many people before in this thread have stated the fact he has admitted to his actions is a massive plus and shows he is obviously a sensible lad.

 

I myself have dabbled with most of the controlled substances mentioned in this thread at one time or another and while my parents were very worried about their boy, I was brought up to be a sensible lad too.

 

I strongly believe the youth of today are far better off armed with the FACTS to make their own informed decisions than be told

 

"if they smoke pot they will think they can fly and jump of a building!" (i was told this)

 

If you are armed with the facts you will be less likely to take the view that;

 

"they told me this or that and it was wrong so what else are they wrong about"

 

Smoking pot, taking E and the other illegal and "legal highs" to which I would include drinking.

 

All have associated risks involved with them, it is how you understand those risks and deal with them, it may sound silly but the (http://www.talktofrank.com) website is full of accurate information.

 

Because the truth is thousands if not millions of people take E and smoke weed because it is fun.

 

If you have ever been drunk and had fun, it is just the same but one is deemed legal the other not so.

 

I am a successful 30 something now, and barely drink I don't smoke and never do any of the things I did in my youth.

 

I would not change the "experiments" I had when I was younger as rightly or wrongly in other peoples eyes, they made me who I am today.

 

I was blessed to have a group of friends that although through them the opportunities arrived to take substances, we all looked after each other and have all gone on to have successful careers.

 

So I would not come down to hard on your lad and encourage him to be honest and do not judge him harshly for the company he keeps as these people ultimately if true friends will look after him, and him them.

 

please feel free to PM if you have questions

 

 

 

p.s.

 

sorry for the essay