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My wife love Christmas and decorating the house up , myself , I just go along with it to keep the peace , neither of us drink so the big day itself is like any other with a decent meal around 3pm after we get back from going for a walk around the old roman castle just outside our village .

Boxing day is and always will be a day when we both please ourselves with what we do , mine involve something to do with shooting and my wife either have her friends round mine or she go to one of hers .

This might not suit everybody but we have done the same for nearly 50 years so if it isn't broke then there is no need to mend it .

MERRY CHRISTMAS 🎅

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10 hours ago, Davyo said:

...So on the 25th if its dry,it will bikes on the car and a day in Hamsterly forest.

 

Sounds like a good way to celebrate it, together! My S-I-L and husband have steak eggs and chips for dinner on Christmas Day but otherwise celebrate like the majority.

Enjoy your day!

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People are definitely putting up their decorations earlier this year, maybe it's to take their mind off the election and Brexit. 

You don't have to participate in the commercial side of Christmas if you don't want to. All these terrible TV ads, black this, cyber that, you've got to have the Christmas you want and one that means something to you, whatever it is. 

I'm not religious but I love churches at Christmas, carols, nativity plays and all that. I enjoy Christmas more by avoiding shops and television (unless I've recorded it and can skip the ads). 

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Whilst I can relate to the ''over the top'' madness of it all, the greed,the over spending and waste. I quite enjoy Christmas. I personally think it is also weather dependent in relation to the overall enjoyment of the occasion.

Cities are usually not my preferred places at the best of times, but if it is cold and crisp then their is is a certain amount of seasonable enjoyment to be had whilst in town shopping in the lead up to Christmas. Overlooking the ignorance of some people (The type that will push and shove their way about) with no manners or apologies..! Then their can be plenty to enjoy. 

Having two young kids then it is also about them and not me. A lot of it nowadays is farcical but although being not well off and having grew up in a fairly poor household, I can safely say I never had a bad Christmas and have wonderful memmories and I want my children to have the same.

All this Christmas trees and decorations up in November really does take a lot of the goodness away from it all. Do your own thing and make the most of it with the people you care about, that's the approach I take. And also make time for yourself. After all the madness of the occasion,crowds noise ect..Then it's when our sport can really be appreciated and for me sitting at dawn awaiting for flight,or a days roughshooting,or roost shooting really is priceless. Time to reflect,recharge before going back to humdrum of it all.

 

 

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I said to my wife last night. Can we just get one of them little trees with baubles already on your old Nan would have. Came out every year sat on TV and then covered with a cloth put away till next time.  Think my ears just stopped bleeding from the diatribe.

I love having family over for the day, my parents and children my grandsons second Christmas so he likes toys this year, that'll be fun watching him.

Wife has four Christmas trees all with their own colours and themes.  She usually puts three of them up. I don't mind the trees it's all the other bright spangly cack hanging everywhere I detest.

We now go and pick some ivy and Holly for table and lights over the table decoration. More natural I like.

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Bah humbug...........what i have noticed around here is the decreasing lack of interest for xmas.........in years gone by lights were up by now.....and even guy faulkes nite is now quite around here..........3 years ago it was a MENACE...........THIS year and last year ....zilch...........

i think people are suffering from xmas fatigue......which i think is brought on by the retail industry.......they reaped the rewards several years ago by getting people to shop more and more and ealier and earlier............and now people are getting wise to it..........

i like xmas but not in the commercial sense.........i see it as a punctuation mark to the year and a time of reflection........

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I have always loved Christmas, all bar the task of getting gifts for people you don't know well enough to think of a gift for.  Children are easier, you can take a best guess. Adults though? If you don't need anything why bother? That's middle age though. For years there was always something I needed. Now all I want is some really, really sharp knives. 

I am trying to make sure we make our own Christmas traditions as a family. We go to the crib service on Christmas Eve rather than church on Christmas morning. We have a little turkey crown because we like a bit of turkey but not all the legs and wings, which were my mother's favourite. We choose a different colour artificial Christmas tree from my collection instead of geting a real one (which I actually rather miss, but they are much harder work, moving and cutting the end off and much bigger to decorate and until my child is old enough to help I'm skipping it). 

All the bits I like most - trees, feasting, mistletoe, Yule logs, gifts - are pagan. 

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31 minutes ago, ehb102 said:

I have always loved Christmas, all bar the task of getting gifts for people you don't know well enough to think of a gift for.  Children are easier, you can take a best guess. Adults though? If you don't need anything why bother? That's middle age though. For years there was always something I needed. Now all I want is some really, really sharp knives. 

I am trying to make sure we make our own Christmas traditions as a family. We go to the crib service on Christmas Eve rather than church on Christmas morning. We have a little turkey crown because we like a bit of turkey but not all the legs and wings, which were my mother's favourite. We choose a different colour artificial Christmas tree from my collection instead of geting a real one (which I actually rather miss, but they are much harder work, moving and cutting the end off and much bigger to decorate and until my child is old enough to help I'm skipping it). 

All the bits I like most - trees, feasting, mistletoe, Yule logs, gifts - are pagan. 

As is the whole midwinter death/rebirth celebration, nicked by the Christians for their version of the fairy tale. At least the Pagan festival has some merit.

Funny how Easter was also misappropriated from an old Saxon Festival of Eostre, goddess of Spring.

Oh, no Christmas for me!

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2 hours ago, ehb102 said:

All the bits I like most - trees, feasting, mistletoe, Yule logs, gifts - are pagan. 

Not so sure they have the copyright on the above.

2 hours ago, Penelope said:

As is the whole midwinter death/rebirth celebration, nicked by the Christians for their version of the fairy tale. At least the Pagan festival has some merit.

Funny how Easter was also misappropriated from an old Saxon Festival of Eostre, goddess of Spring.

Oh, no Christmas for me!

I think it is called being culturally appropriate

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45 minutes ago, strimmer_13 said:

**** Christmas. Buying over inflated rubbish, to give to people who aren't truly grateful, for it to end up in the charity shop about july time. Only reason the tree is up is i am trying to do something for the boy, but still not having a roast, its a bbq as standard and has been for years if its not raining. 

I'm with you here. We will however have a turkey but it'll be cooked in the Big Green Egg. Christmas has been spoiled by commercialism and all those carpy dodgy Xmas songs on the radio. I have reached the point where I no longer use the radio and instead, its Spotify for me. 

4 minutes ago, figgy said:

We are a grumpy bah humbug lit on here, seems to be theme across country and sporting folks. Hate the commercial side of Christmas, love the social and family side.

I agree Figgy, that I am a Bah Humbugger. And yes, I would much rather be doing something of a sporting nature than be thinking of the January sales. But to those Pigeon Watchers who genuinely enjoy the festivities, I wish you well and hope that all on here have a wonderful time on the big day. 

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I can't stand Christmas since we moved close to the wife's family. Now we have had the in laws every Christmas for 15 years despite my wife having a sister and two step brothers. My F-I-L walks in, sits down and hogs the remote - being unable to watch anything longer than 5 minutes without him changing the channel is really irritating, and the wife is in the kitchen with the M-I-L telling her what to do. Then Boxing day, we have the rest of the wife's vulture family turn up - with nothing in hand - expecting food and drink, and then usually another time around New Year they all turn up again - still with nothing in their hands.

It really irritates me how they all buy (c@rp) presents for my wife whereas she has spent time and effort finding something particular for each of them (all the way down to grand-nephews and nieces). The worst is the M-I-L, she buys the same present for my wife and S-I-L, like she does on their birthday which they share (although there are 6 years between them).

The worst thing is though that since we moved up, Christmas hasn't been for our kids - it has all been for the wife's family.

 

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Get a tree each year (even though just me and wife), decorations and lights are all sunk costs, so tree and bit of electric only costs.

Presents (other than sweets etc) are limited to couple of things we like and a surprise.

Dinner is full roast, normally cooked by me  and quite like a slow roast turkey stuffed with proper homemade pork stuffing with cranberries.

 

No pressure, no chintz and no waste!

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5 minutes ago, discobob said:

I can't stand Christmas since we moved close to the wife's family. Now we have had the in laws every Christmas for 15 years despite my wife having a sister and two step brothers. My F-I-L walks in, sits down and hogs the remote - being unable to watch anything longer than 5 minutes without him changing the channel is really irritating, and the wife is in the kitchen with the M-I-L telling her what to do. Then Boxing day, we have the rest of the wife's vulture family turn up - with nothing in hand - expecting food and drink, and then usually another time around New Year they all turn up again - still with nothing in their hands.

It really irritates me how they all buy (c@rp) presents for my wife whereas she has spent time and effort finding something particular for each of them (all the way down to grand-nephews and nieces). The worst is the M-I-L, she buys the same present for my wife and S-I-L, like she does on their birthday which they share (although there are 6 years between them).

The worst thing is though that since we moved up, Christmas hasn't been for our kids - it has all been for the wife's family.

 

If your wife is happy with this, it is very difficult to change things, but you do need to sit down with her and discuss it, and depending on age of kids make it about them if they are still young enough.

 

Certainly, ban tv on family visits (pull plug fuse if need be) , are they there to visit your family and spend quality time or watch tv and get a free meal.

 

If invited to dinner, xmas, hogmany or otherwise, i would always take a bottle or two of the hosts favourite tipple and especially at these celebrations.

Not an easy one given the past 15 years and wifes connection with her family.

 

 

 

 

 

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I’m not looking forward to Xmas this year as I’m no where near ready on my jobs. It’s smack in the middle of our jobs and we can’t bill them . 
if it wasn’t for my kids I wouldn’t celebrate it at all . 
I remember crying at the local Santa after seeing my kids so happy and excited to see him and I can’t take that away from them . 
my eldest hates me at 13 years old ( poison ex) and my boy loves me but he’ll be with his mum. 
my youngest isn’t 2 yet so hasn’t a clue and my 4 year old is past excited currently and practicing her part in the school play. 
 

 

13 minutes ago, Thunderbird said:

The Mrs and I had Christmas Day alone together last year, was bliss. Champagne for breakfast, lovely late Christmas lunch and we did as we pleased. 

Had Christmas Day mk.II on the 27th when my son came. He gets two Christmas Days, but then so do we. :) 

My birthday is the 27th 😎. I’ll also spend time with my boy the same as you

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Well I like Christmas, as I usually have a nice bit of time off, and get to see all my family and friends. I also get some time to do some shooting, and one of the most enjoyable days is when a couple of mates and I have a rough shoot in my home valley.

Each to their own, do what makes you happy is what I say.

Cheers

Aled

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1 hour ago, discobob said:

I can't stand Christmas since we moved close to the wife's family. Now we have had the in laws every Christmas for 15 years despite my wife having a sister and two step brothers. My F-I-L walks in, sits down and hogs the remote - being unable to watch anything longer than 5 minutes without him changing the channel is really irritating, and the wife is in the kitchen with the M-I-L telling her what to do. Then Boxing day, we have the rest of the wife's vulture family turn up - with nothing in hand - expecting food and drink, and then usually another time around New Year they all turn up again - still with nothing in their hands.

It really irritates me how they all buy (c@rp) presents for my wife whereas she has spent time and effort finding something particular for each of them (all the way down to grand-nephews and nieces). The worst is the M-I-L, she buys the same present for my wife and S-I-L, like she does on their birthday which they share (although there are 6 years between them).

The worst thing is though that since we moved up, Christmas hasn't been for our kids - it has all been for the wife's family.

 

Have a word with your wife and tell her no more. Just you your wife and kids this year as you hate it and can't stand her sponging greedy family. She should get the message.

You could tell her your all going out for Christmas lunch. If her family wants to come they can book themselves.

I would have put a stop to it straight away. Taking you and your wife for a mug, Christmas lunch costs a fortune then boxing day and New year's Day, ouch I feel for you.

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