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Yep, have to agree, perhaps Autism
Now before you get too pee'd off, Autism is a gift, he is on the scenic route, he is taking a different path, not a better or a worse path, just a scenic route.
Tap into what he wants to do, Xbox, then play xbox with him [in moderation!!!]
Soldering an electronics kit.....then solder with him
Space museum... then have a day out with him
Etc etc etc
If he has no friends, YOU need to be his FRIEND, don't push him too much, remember , you are on the scenic route, its a slower road
You do need to find some one to guide you, try via the school, there are loads of help groups/charities
Autistic people seem to be good at spotting other autistic people so a group will help with like minded people and may help make friends
Remember his feelings, he probably isn't having the best of times, so you can make a fantastic difference
Oh..... and don't forget............., your'e not on your own, and he's not the only one
If there is something wrong with him I'll embrave it and encourage all the more, if he's just being a loner then all I can do is limit his time on the computer and encourage him to do more. It's hard though as he's not my son there's only so much I can say and without the backing of my partner my hands are tied.
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Get him a dog
Echo LG it does sound a bit like Aspergers - we have CAMHS here for children with difficulties who will come out and assess on the parents' request - is there an equivalent in England I wonder?
We've got 5, he had a German shepherd for his tenth birthday as my partner thought that would bring him out of his shell
CAMHS are brilliant, they work with parents and schools, I've had first hand experience with them. Maybe think about getting in touch with your local ones, Russ?
I'll look into thanks
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dose your lad play xbox
Edit to say
Why can't you play the games with him I do my kids I'm no good but kids love it
I wish I had the time!. If I get the time I'll play Fifa with him but xboxs really aren't my thing and I can't see what people see in them. His dad plays them constantly and would rather sit at home playing online then go out and find someone!.
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Sounds like he may be on the autistic scale somewhere. Has this been ruled out?
No, we've asked the schools both primary and secondary but they've told us to go to the doctors, the doctors fobbed us off. The specialist he's under just thinks he's immature.
It might be just teenagers, but from what you have been saying Aspergers comes to mind. Has he always been like this or is it just as he has got to teens as Aspergers is normally there from the start. It can vary in how it manifests and often isn't diagnosed till a child is school age or older. My sister has looked after children with Aspergers and a neighbour where we used to live had a son with it. It took a 3 year fight by my neighbour to get her son diagnosed with her eventually taking him out of school and home tutoring him till he got the help he needed.
Then again your stepson might just be an awkward teenager. Look up Aspergers and see what you think.
My parents used to foster a lad with autism and aspergers. Means always been into himself, he's come on a lot since I've been involved but he seems to be reverting back to his old ways now he's hitting his teens.
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Did he have friends when he was much younger say at reception and early years school?
Are there any indications from the teachers who observed him many hours each day?
I've only known him since he was 9, his dad hashed him on a Xbox since he was 3!. I know my partner isn't blameless on it but her defence the marriage broke up with them having the house repossessed and she's gone on and built a thriving business where she employs 5 people and feels guilty that she hasn't been there as much as she could. The kids get and have everything from her. When he was in nursery apparently he Lindsey was told he should get some special order? (Probably not called that but meant he should get 1 on 1 contact) he's also been to a speech councillor when he was younger as that's the first point of getting assessed but it had to get called off because he got to upset.
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If he had friends and sat on his computer it wouldn't bother me as much, it's the fact he's a loner and won't interact with anyone that concerns me plus other things that make me think there's something else wrong.
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I'm really worried about my partners 13yr old boy. He distances his self from everyone doesn't like to interact with anyone, has no friends at school and spends all his time in his room on his computers. I know you're thinking sounds like most teenage boys, but when you're around him 24hrs a day things add up. We've tried to get people to look at him, the school says there's nothing wrong but are worried he's not making friends and lacks concentration?. The specialist he's under for his illness thinks he's just immature, his father is useless and just leaves him in front of a computer for the 24 hrs he has him and isn't prepared to do anything with him. It's really starting to get to me as I feel I'm always getting on at him and truth be known im probably a lot to do with it as I'm always trying to get him to do things and get him out of his room and I think he's starting to resent me for it. I'm at a point where I don't know wether to give up and leave him to it as my partner and I fall out over it when I bring it up, but I just can't help thinking his life at the minute is lonely. At parties he'll sit in a corner on his own, he has one friend who is my partners friends son who he gets to see every now and again who'll he'll actually interact with. He even finds it hard to interact with his brother which is my son and often gets annoyed with him when he tries to get his attention. He can't tie his shoe laces and loads of other stuff he has difficulties with, he's not stupid by any means but seems disinterested in everything apart from computers, he can't show any affection even towards his mother or sister.
Is there anyway I can force someone to look at him?, my own son is I'll and looks like his steroid trial has failed which means he'll be blood transfusion dependant but instead of worrying about that I'm more concerned about Kian.
Russ
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Well last night was a waste of steak!
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Single Built under oven is ok to run off a plug socket a double oven needs to be of atleast 6mm cable.
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Your cooking?? i knew these women creatures weren't right
I always cook steak! In fact if I want to enjoy what I'm eating I usually cook it!
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I'll be doing my bit and cooking steak the rest is on her!
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Every company I've ever worked for have dumped on me or my workmates as it suited them. Unfortunately the 'team player' concept only cuts one way. Now I do what I'm contracted to do and if I do any extra it's to help out mates and when it suits me.
I get that statement and Id guess a lot of people work to the same rule.
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Wouldn't want to work with some one who only has his own interests at heart. I wouldn't imagine you've gone far in your trade? Maybe if you were more of a team player you'd get the holidays you wanted?. I'm not saying you should have to sacrifice every hour of the day for your company but if you're as good as you think you are then maybe your company needs you to sort out others incompetence?. I may be wrong in my thinking though but I get the feeling you're a one man band whod find fault within any company and thrive on being awkward?
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My thoughts are with his family
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i have left a transit on the side of a street in brum as i had run out of tacho hours and the manager wanted me to keep going, got fired
updated my linked in channel with the info, i want to quit and urgently looking for a job else where, got called by one of the managers and asked if it was true, said yes the mark grou then went into evil over time and treated the whole situation so badly it was a joke, so i left
stood back and let a manager make so many mistakes it was untrue, i got fired not him , lol a few months later when he had no one to blame he got fired
its just a job, nothing serious to me, anyone that wants to do 70 hours a week and the weekend its fine by me, i do 40 hrs and no weekends, the firm i am with at the moment are kicking off that i dont work the weekends, they have to because they muck up so much that they are all ways behind or on the back foot or to spineless to the clients temper tantrums, not for any other reasons so instead i go home, lol i have a life and its not at work thats for sure
the other one that will see me off at this building firm i work for in nottingham is holidays
i dont ask for holiday time off nor do i request it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i send in an email with the days i will not be at work as i am on holiday, if you have prorrblems with it tough i am not asking i am telling, its not up for discussion. this doris in the office came back with the company bolloxxx of two people are only allowed off at any one time, i came back with never mind i will still have the time off and send you a post card. lol
i love it when they think they can dictate when and how my family has time off
I take it you're a team player?
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Don't know what to make of that really, but can't say the hunt's done itself any favours there. The rider must have known they had collided with a protester surely?
I'm not exactly pro hunt myself but I think if I was the one riding the horse I wouldn't of stopped. The woman put herself in a dangerous situation and only has herself to blame. If that rider had stopped who knows what actions the rest of the sabs might have taken.
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If all fails I can get you one made if you can get a courier to deliver it?
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Give them a ring I think they've recently resized everything so might still have old stock. It's only a phone call and might work out
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I'm sure magnet used to do odd sized units. 900mm are a standard set size. 570mm, 720mm and 900mm are all standard unit heights.
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Tell him to go on #### and a good old sock will help him out.
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edited to say it's a poly carb roof, thought it was another type that you insert aluminium bars into. If you lay crawlers across the structure of the roof you'll be ok to work off it.
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I like your dog! Nice, fast and it's got style. Have you been hunting it on rabbits? Keeps its head nice and tight to the ground.
Russ
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Pah! She looked like a cross between mother theresa and a doctors bag. No fanx!
A **** **** is better than a good w***, well that's always been my motto!
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No, its Phil Spencer :-)
I didnt realise lasses were so sensitive about age until i dropped a mega goolie whilst trying to console a friend of a friend whos man had done the offski with a polish waitress (who incidentally was fitter than mo farahs dog). I honestly thought she was knocking 50, so when she got emotional about getting old i said ' its his loss, you've got a great figure and dont look a day over forty'. She burst into tears whilst trying to say 'im 35'.
That ruined your sympathy ****!
Anyone work with kids with learning difficulties?
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If I'm honest im feeling a little guilty because im always at him because I want him to come out of himself and if he has a disorder I can help him. Me and my partner have fell out tonight over it as she thinks I'm attacking her. She also thinks there's something wrong but doesn't want him labelled as she thinks it'll draw unwated attention towards him.