ironhorse Posted April 20, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 20, 2009 i would personally keep freind,s with your shooting buddy BUT would not bother with his kids, i "fell out" with a friend a few years ago over something stupid but after a few weeks i rang her up and appologised, went round to speak to her and made friends again, i am so glad i did as she died of an accidental drug overdose ( anti-depresants) a few weeks later, i lost a realy great friend that day :blushi -- PLEASE don,t let it happen to you !!!!regard s shaun Hi Shaun, thank you for that mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerico Posted April 20, 2009 Report Share Posted April 20, 2009 (edited) He's treats you like that over a phone after all you've done for him and his low life family, I think the answere is pretty obvious imo. Any pics of his wife and/or daughter? Edited April 20, 2009 by jerico Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul223 Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Have a talk to your mate and tell him what you genuinely feel. If he is a genuine friend, it will sort itself out. If it doesn't, cut your losses and walk away. I think you have done as much as any person could or should do. Ignore people who get into issues about the phone. The phone has become a side issue now. Good luck. Gordon is speaking a lot of sense here, forget the phone, it's not important Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chard Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Gordon is speaking a lot of sense here, forget the phone, it's not important I appreciate that we're all different amd we must always have our own ways of dealing with and looking at situations, but I couldn't disagree more with this. The phone couldn't be a side issue for me - it's the root cause of the whole situation. I'm afraid Jerico's comment makes more of an impression on me : "He's treated you like that over a phone after all you've done for him and his low life family, I think the answer is pretty obvious imo". 'Fraid so. That's how I would feel. What's he going to be like if you ever have a real test of your friendship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jammie*dodger Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Some people in life are givers - they enrich a friendship and do what they can when they can in order to help you out. Some people are takers - they seem to think that anything you give them (support, advice, love) is their due and very seldom do they return the favour. most people are a mix of these 2 but it seems like your friend is more of a Taker than a Giver. I'd be very surprised if he is losing any sleep over this. JD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr W Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 (edited) it seems like your friend is more of a Taker than a Giver. JD That sounds like an 'Essex mafia' sort of friendship. Edited April 21, 2009 by Dr W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Always better to be a giver than a taker. Takers live in Suffolk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jammie*dodger Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Nah, that's Taters you find in Suffolk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight32 Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Always better to be a giver than a taker. Takers live in Suffolk. Surely with the level of crime in Essex, a 'Taker' is a more appropriate expression for that county. But then again I may be wrong....... regards Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MC Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Hmmm Ipswich is such a lovely place Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffolk shooter Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Hmmm Ipswich is such a lovely place NOT SS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul223 Posted April 21, 2009 Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 >>'Paul223' Gordon is speaking a lot of sense here, forget the phone, it's not important<< I appreciate that we're all different and we must always have our own ways of dealing with and looking at situations, but I couldn't disagree more with this. The phone couldn't be a side issue for me - it's the root cause of the whole situation. I'm afraid Jerico's comment makes more of an impression on me : "He's treated you like that over a phone after all you've done for him and his low life family, I think the answer is pretty obvious imo". 'Fraid so. That's how I would feel. What's he going to be like if you ever have a real test of your friendship. rearranged, just for you :o Have a talk to your mate and tell him what you genuinely feel. If he is a genuine friend, it will sort itself out. If it doesn't, cut your losses and walk away. I think you have done as much as any person could or should do. Gordon is speaking a lot of sense here Ignore people who get into issues about the phone. The phone has become a side issue now. forget the phone, it's not important at the end of the day the man has apologized for his son, and the phone was sold knowingly dodgy, depending on the make up of the man that could be a big thing. 'ironhorse' >> My friend new what had been said and had been going on, he telephoned me the next morning and apologized for him self, << I think mr ironhorse must have some strong friendship feelings for this mate too bring the subject on here, dismissing the guy as a 'taker' and giving him the sack is not the best course of action, mr ironhorse needs to talk to the fella, see whats what, level headed cards on the table, simple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tommo Posted April 22, 2009 Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 Why when the essex/suffolk lot get involved its all about up-hill dirt gardening? :yes: Back to the thread - i had a best mate - being the shooting sort i dont have a massive amount of mates, i see no need (rugby days maybe..) but anyhow best mate from being 5-6 years old (20 odd year friendship) decided to make a play for my missus, then my ex a few years back (mid twenties at the time) - big no no - that and the fact that he allowed his other 'mates' to publicise it (in the local pubs) made me mad. ****** him right off, never spoken to him since. I tried to sort it once she was out the picture, not knowing he was trying to climb-on! Soon that was stopped abruptly! With it being such as small area one of his other mates in the son of one of the permissions i shoot (FAC) i've known him for years - 15 probably, and i no longer speak to him either, i talk to his father, and when he one day managed to ask me why i hadn't asked him for the permission, i replied - 'your fathers the boss, may as well speak to the the one that owns the place'. I know this could someday end the shooting, but just for a few seconds i got great satisfaction knowing i'd hit that raw nerve! T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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