You smack your kids

[Cranfield]

Like everything else, its a matter of degrees.

 

I don't believe there is any harm in a slap on the backside, but I don't think children should be knocked to the ground.

 

With our daughters, my wife administered the smacks, I wasn't comfortable smacking a little girl.

We found that the stern word and the loss of privileges, were both very effective.

 

My mother brought up my three sisters ,my younger brother and me, all by herself.

I can't remember ever getting a clout, but if I did something wrong, I was scared stiff that my mum might find out.

So if I wasn't afraid of her, perhaps it was a "respect" thing.

Not enough of that around today.

[markbivvy]

"respect" thing.

Not enough of that around today.

 

 

how very true.

[il cacciatore]

Why is it that kids just want to smash everything they see? Is it a respect thing amongst themselves? Or is it boredome or is it maybe because they know that nothing will happen to them if they do get caught (which in itself is unlikely)?

 

I have a bus stop outside my house, every night someone kicks the time table and the perspex to try and smash it. Also, one bucket night, a group of kids went along a street and kicked over every wheeley bin in the street and another time some kids jumped all over the bonnet of my cousin's bmw and smashed it up good style - subsequently the police were informed and they done nothing.

 

Maybe this is because kids dont get guidance from their parents or dont get disiplined when they do something wrong?

[SNAKEBITE]

some kids jumped all over the bonnet of my cousin's bmw and smashed it up good style - subsequently the police were informed and they done nothing.

 

Are you REALLY surprised? Too busy doing paperwork or some such excuse. The police are a waste of space at the moment. Disolusioned and shackled by incompentent fools.

Kids need the fear of God put up them sometimes and the police cannot do that anymore. A clip round the ear from the local bobby would do a great deal of good. Followed by a clip round the ear from the parents when the police brought them home. Old fashioned? Yes, but at least it worked.

[Whitebridges]

My daughters are 12 and 13 and they can be a handful I can tell you. I sometimes threaten them with sanctions (they know I will carry them out if neccessary) and that does the trick. I haven't needed to smack them as you can reason with them, although smacking is a perfectly legitimate method in my book.

[the hitman]

My old man is ex army and discipline was every thing , so my brother and i took a few **** warmings.

I have two daughters 11 +10 , i smacked the eldest when she took a tantrum when she was 5 , i was gutted afterwards. Since then its been loss of tv or grounded for a while , which works well.

I hate to see kids being dragged by the arm or worse in shops.

[darebear]

am going out on a limb here but i felt a need to respond. i work in child protection. lord geordie is correct. basically it is not an offence to hit a child, unless it leaves a mark. and i also very much agree with his statement that respect is a two way street/process. children learn by example. so set them the best you can.

 

and i also totally agree with snakebite's advice to follow through with sanction threats. otherwise there is utterly no point whatsoever. kid learns that very quickly.

 

ronttuk, just a thought.... has your kid ever been tested or diagnosed with a medical behaviour problem?