Paddy Galore! Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 hello again, cut a long story short, one of my daughters has just split with their partner,(who's a bit tapped). the thing is, some of her gear is still round there and we're having problems retrieving it. how would you guys recommend we get it back legally without getting into a fracas with the ex? cheers, paddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overandunder2012 Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 if he wont give it up solicitors letters first step i would think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welsh1 Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 A writ of delivery does the job,have sent you a pm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
four-wheel-drive Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 If she still has the keys to his place she you could watch and see when he goes to work or out you could then keep an eye on him while she goes in and gets her stuff then if you think that he is coming home again you could phone her and get leave his place before he gets back. If that is not possible perhaps a mutual friend could help to change his mind solicitors cost money and in the end it may be cheaper to forget about it and just buy new stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted May 12, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 thanks again guys, her partner isn't what you'd call "dangerous", just a bit deranged, a bit of a self harmer, but only does just enough to get some attention/sympathy, i'm tired of being told "don't rock the boat" by some of those that are close to them, but they have their own agenda, mine is to remove my kid's gear out before it gets trashed. she doesn't have a key to the place, and it's heavily overlooked from all sides, would it be possible to get a police escort when i go over there just as a precaution against any unfounded accusations? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 Best get a friend without a ticket to accompany your daughter. The police won't bother with domestic disputes unless its getting violent. Round here if your car is getting nicked while you phone someone comes out within a few days. Figgy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 Gram..happy to go round and get it all for you....I dont seem to have a problem getting things back really.... serious offer... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted May 12, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 Gram..happy to go round and get it all for you....I dont seem to have a problem getting things back really.... serious offer... pm inbound chap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbust Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 Gram..happy to go round and get it all for you....I dont seem to have a problem getting things back really.... serious offer... In what capacity would you be going round and getting it for him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 In what capacity would you be going round and getting it for him? if gram went round he probably would not even open the door. He don't know me and I am not emotional involved so can explain things to him that she only wants her stuff back and that's it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenboy Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 Get Leeds chimp to take him shooting and watch him shoot at clay's until he hits one, that should give you plenty of time to nip round and get the gear Failing that "send the boys round" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbust Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 if gram went round he probably would not even open the door. He don't know me and I am not emotional involved so can explain things to him that she only wants her stuff back and that's it So you, a stranger are going to a guys house who was described as being a deranged self harmer who seeks attention. You are going to ask for his ex GF kit. What will you do if he tells you to F off and that it is nothing to do with you and slams the door in your face? Then what if this deranged self harmer who seeks attention calls the police and said that the father of his ex GF has sent a gormless looking heavy round to the door to intimidate him? Then what if the Police find out you have offered to do this task on an open forum, where you boast that you are good at this situation? What will happen once they put 2 & 2 together and realise you are an SGC holder? Come on mate, wise up. :no: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 So you, a stranger are going to a guys house who was described as being a deranged self harmer who seeks attention. You are going to ask for his ex GF kit. What will you do if he tells you to F off and that it is nothing to do with you and slams the door in your face? Then what if this deranged self harmer who seeks attention calls the police and said that the father of his ex GF has sent a gormless looking heavy round to the door to intimidate him? Then what if the Police find out you have offered to do this task on an open forum, where you boast that you are good at this situation? What will happen once they put 2 & 2 together and realise you are an SGC holder? Come on mate, wise up. :no: hence why would r ecord the lot with a Dictaphone to protect myself as I did the other night while shooting and had a run in with a gentleman who lives next to the fields Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbust Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 hence why would r ecord the lot with a Dictaphone to protect myself as I did the other night while shooting and had a run in with a gentleman who lives next to the fields Chimp, you do as you wish, it is your prerogative. But what I cant understand, is why you would put yourself in such a situation in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HDAV Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 As an experienced professional not emotionally linked to the situation he is in a far better place to deal with the situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Livefast123 Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) Get your daughter to call the police, explain the situation about her not being able to get her stuff back and ask them to attend to prevent a breach of the peace in company with your daughter. You may have to make an appointment but it's better than paying, happens fairly regularly around here. Personally, I wouldn't go anywhere near the place and put your ticket at risk. Edited May 13, 2013 by Livefast123 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Marty Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 Gram..happy to go round and get it all for you....I dont seem to have a problem getting things back really.... serious offer... Have done this sort of thing in the past,,sometimes all it takes is someone taking a no nonsense attitude..You obviously know what your about mate or you wouldn't be offering Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) Chimp, you do as you wish, it is your prerogative. But what I cant understand, is why you would put yourself in such a situation in the first place. gram has helped me out a few times As above inform the police you are going. Have a Dictaphone and if possible someone film out of sight. Advise why you are there no threats or abuse be firm but very polite and say you want this sorted out amicable without the need of police if they slam the door in your face then it's police job Also if you think it could go tits up ask the police to attend due to previous history and to stop a breach of the peace. Had that a couple of times and that's the best way Edited May 13, 2013 by leeds chimp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbust Posted May 13, 2013 Report Share Posted May 13, 2013 gram has helped me out a few times As above inform the police you are going. Have a Dictaphone and if possible someone film out of sight. Advise why you are there no threats or abuse be firm but very polite and say you want this sorted out amicable without the need of police if they slam the door in your face then it's police job Also if you think it could go tits up ask the police to attend due to previous history and to stop a breach of the peace. Had that a couple of times and that's the best way Yep, right Dom you crack on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted May 14, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2013 cmon guys chill ya beanz, just to let the rest of you guys know matt wasn't insinuating anything, but there's safety in numbers, and the last thing i want is to turn my back on this chap and have a knife stuck in me. matt thanks for your offer although we have got most of it back now, well, the expensive stuff anyway, the rest is just collateral damage. cheers guys for the help. paddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbust Posted May 15, 2013 Report Share Posted May 15, 2013 Paddy, I am not getting excited about this it is just the way that it was agreed that Chimp would sort it. Some one even referred to him as a professional and that he was the man for the job. Professional what? By your own admittance the **** could have hit the fan and anything could have happened. All I was saying is that he should not risk getting involved with something that does not concern him, especially as he holds SGC/FAC. By the way who is Gram? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shoot and be safe Posted May 15, 2013 Report Share Posted May 15, 2013 Send the guy some razor blades as a thankyou Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted May 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 15, 2013 Paddy, I am not getting excited about this it is just the way that it was agreed that Chimp would sort it. Some one even referred to him as a professional and that he was the man for the job. Professional what? By your own admittance the **** could have hit the fan and anything could have happened. All I was saying is that he should not risk getting involved with something that does not concern him, especially as he holds SGC/FAC. By the way who is Gram? gram is me my good man, of course i see your point but nothing was agreed or arranged with chimp i just sent him a pm thanking him for the offer, if i wanted the offending person "damaged" in any way then i'd have done it myself and kept quiet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rustybucket Posted May 15, 2013 Report Share Posted May 15, 2013 i went through a break up a few years back where the ex's family wouldn't let me get my stuff back, the police was no help what so ever and didn't want to know, i have a friend who is a repo agent who I've worked with in the past who thinks he owes me a few favors (long, long story) so him and a few of his staff escorted me and surprisingly the family was quite quiet when confronted with 2 sign written vans and 4 massive blokes in uniforms milling around by the vans. My advise is to always try the old bill first some forces are really good with these sort of things others aren't and if you have to go in without them always video it that way there's no repercussions Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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