willj Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 (edited) Morning PW members I used to shoot about 15 years ago and have always been keen on the sport and hunting from a early age. I give up my license about due to the fact I wasn't getting out much, this was because I met a girl now my wife and we have 2 children. The problem, my wife hates the fact that I love this sport and anything associated with hunting and shooting. A couple if years ago I brought a cabinet and fixed it in the loft without her nowing and completed my application form, she found out and absolutely flipped, so I didn't go through with it. Question, how would you convince your partner ? If I apply with out her nowing can collect my cert from the police instead of them posting it ? Thanks Edited February 1, 2015 by willj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carman06 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 I too am in a similar situation and only now getting back into it because my son has taken an interest in air rifle shooting. The wife has no interest in shooting and never liked the idea of guns in the house. She is slowly coming round and has said she will pay for my application for my birthday next week. So it's all about baby steps at the min. I have found a .22lr Cz I want as soon as my cert comes and can't wait. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silver pigeon69 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 tell her that you hate her going shopping but you put up with it because you love her!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
la bala Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Sad that there is not a lot of give and take in some marraiges. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r1steele Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Ask if you can borrow your trousers off her and start wearing them Seriously though, I agree with la bala's statement above. You did these things when you first met, did she give up her lifestyle because you didn't agree with her choices? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossy835 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 if she is like that,then thats the way she feels and you wont change her mined.some thing you have to sort out when i met the girl friend, now my wife of 15 years,i told her that every saturday i go shooting, and have done ever since,she got a shotgun cert, and used to come with me, but gave it up,but i still go each week,and she dose not mind at all, she is glad of the quiet .you have to sort it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cookoff013 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Tell her to grow up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Thanks PW members Small steps is the way forward, I brought a AA 410s a couple if years ago which is in my cabinet and she don't seem to say much about that. Can I apply for my application and collect my cert? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossy835 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 the flo will come and look at the cabinet, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KFC Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 My Grandad was a gamekeeper so I was bought up with shooting and I got my SGC back in the seventies. Then, in the early 80's, life took over and and I packed it in. I met my current wife in '90 and life didn't really suit a shooting lifestyle. In the late 90's I mentioned that I'd had a hankering to get back into shooting but my wife said that she didn't want guns in the house. She was doing creative writing at the time and one day, out of the blue, she asked me what it was like to fire a gun. I asked her what kind of gun and she explained that she was writing a murder story which involved a shooting and she wanted the details to be authentic. I told her that the best way to find out was to have a go. Firing a gun that is, not murder!! A friend had a Co2 pistol that he was willing to lend me and I set up some cans for her to plink at. Within a matter of minutes she was saying "Ooooh! this is fun!" and she was soon finding all kinds of things to destroy. Old tellies, computers, fruit, allsorts. From then on it didn't take too much for me to acquire an air rifle and some land to shoot on and she was pleasantly surprised when I disclosed that the curry she'd just eaten was Rabbit and not Chicken as she'd assumed. It was then time to ask her if she'd object to me getting my SGC back. She said "OK, so long as you don't go mad and shoot me!" I replied "I'm sorry but I'm not wasting the cost of a cartridge on you, I'll do you with me bare hands!!" This put things in perspective for her and a shotty was duly acquired. The first time I took her clay shooting she said the magic words "Mmmm, don't the cartridges smell nice when they're fired". Since then she's shot Rabbit and Pigeon with air rifle and shotgun and prepared, cooked and eaten both. She agrees with me that the produce I get from the field is healthier than from the supermarket and it's only sausages and bacon that we get from the butchers now. My suggestion would be try some form of low-powered fun inanimate shooting with her and, you never know, she might find it fun. Especially if you show her this website. http://shotgunandchelseabunclub.co.uk/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossy835 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 nice story but all females are not like your wife, you have a good one there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Thanks KFC She not worried about me having time out shooting it just the guns in the house business, she works so I could arrange the flo to visit when she's not at home. When we had a big discussion on this before I said I wanted my license so that I didn't have to pay huge costs for shooting clays at our local club, then I would eventually get a gun in the house. I was even thinking about getting a puppy cocker to start training up and use that as a way of getting back in to it, I know it sounds extreme but if it gets me back out shooting so be it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robbiep Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 In most cases, and I would guess in virtually every case of a new application, the FEO will want to come out to interview you. They MAY also want to interview your wife, to ensure that there are no DV issues that they should be concerned about. If they do, then quite often the spouse's interview will take place once you have been asked to make yourself scarce. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 What is DV issue ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KFC Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 DV = Domestic Violence. The FEO will probably want to ask your other half how she feels about guns in the house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robbiep Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 (edited) Sorry for using the abbreviation. Yes, as KFC said, domestic violence. When, after a few years not shooting, I applied for my SGC, the (female) FEO did my interview, and then asked me to take the dog for a walk while she 'had a chat' with my wife. Edited February 1, 2015 by robbiep Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 What if she's not in the house as I will arrange for the visit when she's out ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robbiep Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 They may well ask you to ensure she is at home when the visit occurs. If she is then out when they come, then they may well be suspicious and seek to speak to her on another occasion before the grant is approved. Be very careful - if they feel you are concealing your ownership of firearms from your spouse, or are suspicious of honesty or truthfulness, then they can be extremely awkward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harnser Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Morning PW members I used to shoot about 15 years ago and have always been keen on the sport and hunting from a early age. I give up my license about due to the fact I wasn't getting out much, this was because I met a girl now my wife and we have 2 children. The problem, my wife hates the fact that I love this sport and anything associated with hunting and shooting. A couple if years ago I brought a cabinet and fixed it in the loft without her nowing and completed my application form, she found out and absolutely flipped, so I didn't go through with it. Question, how would you convince your partner ? If I apply with out her nowing can collect my cert from the police instead of them posting it ? Thanks Send your wife to me and I will train her for you . When she comes back she will be a good shot and a good gun cleaner . I have two members wives living in my garage who refuse to go home . Harnser Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Pm your details and I will send her and even pay for keep 👌 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stubby Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 who pays the bills in your house? I would never tell my wife she couldn't do something she enjoys (she rides motorbikes/fast) and the same goes with me, guns,rifles,dead things, I even bought a woodland which she didn't like the idea of at first, but once there she loved it, I'm not old fashioned, but if you pay the bills and feel like you need to sneak around behind her back, which I doubt you would pull off with the firearms officer as he will ask about her feelings even if she aint there, what you going to do, start lying to him/her too I'd say you need to sort out the marriage before the shotgun your other alternatives are divorce her, and do what ever you want or get a local friend to keep it at their house, sorry if that seems a bit strong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Total agree with you, the stupid thing was last year for Xmas my present from her was a days clay pigeon shoot and flying birds of prey, she even brought me a tweed shooting coat. I brought us a disco 3 and she loves all that and even wears the Barbour jackets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gordon R Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 If my wife threw a fit every time I wanted to do something she didn't agree with, our marriage would never have lasted. Marriage is about give and take. You are not asking her to take up shooting, but she doesn't want you to do it either. Personally, I would tell her that the marriage is over unless she is more reasonable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willj Posted February 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 Trust me it has nearly come to that a few times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glb8686 Posted February 1, 2015 Report Share Posted February 1, 2015 I just told out lass that I was doin it. She complained that she though I'd get bored of it but never tried to stop me. Never would never will. I broke her down early on in our relationship by bringing a new car home every few week. She's just learnt not to ask questions Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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