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This young Son of mine is starting to get me a bit down. I am getting close to tue end of my teather. He is costing me an arm and a leg. Last year he burned 3 hard drives out on his laptops and even one laptop fried. So for Christmas bought him a Kindle HD. Went in his room the other day to vacume and.there is the Kindle.with a broken digitizer. I asked him what happened. Apparently he took his clothes off and.they covered it. He stood on it and broke it. I also had to get him a New phone after he got wet and his last one went.belly up. Now I find out his phone needs a new screen. I am working hard only just making enough to get along on and he just doesn't seem to give a stuff. He needs his phone because he has Autism and Heart disease and I need.to make sure he can contact me. I am now having to buy a new screen for his Galaxy Y and.try and repair it myself. I also need to source a cheap digitizer for his Kindle. The digitizer is about £40 and then postage and then the screen for his phone too.

 

I thought they got better as they got older?

 

Oh well. Hands deep in pockets again :lol: :lol:

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LG the digitizers for Samsung y s5630 cost me £12 for genuine will fit it for you if your not confident, 17 years experience so im not too shabby :)

my order for parts goes in tmrw afternoon so let me know if you need one just confirm model number and colour

 

If its LCD needed will get you price in morn and kindle digitizer

 

My mates son has autism and they just got these special foam tablet holders for iPad and nexus might be worth looking at one for kindle or a g-form one, they got the learning software on iPad and it was £150 :(

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LG the digitizers for Samsung y s5630 cost me £12 for genuine will fit it for you if your not confident, 17 years experience so im not too shabby :)

my order for parts goes in tmrw afternoon so let me know if you need one just confirm model number and colour

 

If its LCD needed will get you price in morn and kindle digitizer

 

My mates son has autism and they just got these special foam tablet holders for iPad and nexus might be worth looking at one for kindle or a g-form one, they got the learning software on iPad and it was £150 :(

Thanks for the offer bud!

 

Already have phone stripped and ordered the new LCD for it. Should be here in 3 days. I am good with stuff like this which is just as well. I have repaired a few phones in my time. I phones, LG phones Nokia and now.this Samsung :lol:

 

The Digitizer for the Kindle HD was around £40 off fleabay. Not on my priority list I am afraid. I.was looking for a cheap faulty one to nick a screen off but they still go for a fair bit.

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What are you teaching him if every time he busts something you fix or replace it?

 

Sorry if this sounds harsh and of course I don't really know your personal circumstances or relationships so dont take it personally. My first thought would be to stop replacing everything other then the essential phone and as suggested it would be with an ultra cheap one until he proves he can look after one. If he is clever to operate these devices he is clever enough to look after them, your no less a father just because you say no from time to time.

 

Good luck :good:

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To replace the screen is £6.99 + my time. I couldn't buy another phone for that! He is without his phone for a few days until it's fixed. That should.give him time to reflect on what has happened. I know the whole "He should respect his belongings" part. Thing is I just don't want him getting the urine taken when he is out and about when his friends all have Iphone 4s and Blackberry and.then he has a nokia 3310.

 

I have already refused to repair his laptop and HE has to pay for the repair if he wants it working. I refused to replace his Bike when he left it outside the shop unchained and some *** stole it. For the sake of 15 seconds to chain it to the post, he lost it.

 

I have refused to do things but as I say he needs communication, and as it happens, it's cheaper to repair than replace!

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Thing is I just don't want him getting the urine taken when he is out and about when his friends all have Iphone 4s and Blackberry and.then he has a nokia 3310.

 

Personally, I don't think a little bit of 'urine' taking would do him any harm. Always having luxury goods, never going without and never feeling the green eyed monster doesn't do people much good in the longer term.

 

I know plenty of people who've grown up like that and when they get to adulthood they still expect things handed to them and appreciate nothing. He's your kid and you're perfectly entitled to do whatever you want, but my friendly advice is that sometimes it's possible to do too much for your children and protect them too much. It's for the right reasons and is completely understandable, but it doesn't really prepare them for adulthood.

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To replace the screen is £6.99 + my time. I couldn't buy another phone for that! He is without his phone for a few days until it's fixed. That should.give him time to reflect on what has happened. I know the whole "He should respect his belongings" part. Thing is I just don't want him getting the urine taken when he is out and about when his friends all have Iphone 4s and Blackberry and.then he has a nokia 3310.

 

I have already refused to repair his laptop and HE has to pay for the repair if he wants it working. I refused to replace his Bike when he left it outside the shop unchained and some *** stole it. For the sake of 15 seconds to chain it to the post, he lost it.

 

I have refused to do things but as I say he needs communication, and as it happens, it's cheaper to repair than replace!

it all seems a bit shallow, worrying about what phones people have, teach him to forget the herd and be himself. I've got the most basic nokia, i am on the most basic contract and i love the thing.

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kids are a pain, my youngest bought a moped a few years back and every weekend i'd have to fix something. the final straw came when she seized the motor for the second time, not letting it warm up before thrashing the nuts off it on her way to and from work. i bought it off her for 50 quid, then fixed it and sold it on.

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Sorry to hear you are having the expense, but could be worse you could have a wife with a horse!!!!

 

I'll raise that with two teenage daughters and a horse apiece, which we suffered from for several years.

 

Still, it kept them away from boys for a while and enabled us to refuse requests for cash for all other non-horse related expenses

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Trouble is my Son has a history of self harming when he gets emotional. He has a big difficulty expressing himself in an emotional context and.quickly turns to hitting himself about the head, biting himself, scratching his face badly etc. To go too far with disiplin is not a good idea.

 

I find a calm conversation where we can both speak openly is the best method. He tells me the truth because he knows I will not fly off the handle. I of course express my dissatisfaction and upset that he has been clumsy and wont be around forever to pick up the pieces.

 

I was a child of the 70s and had harsh disiplin at home. All that did was make me less likely to tell the truth and resent my Father. Eventually I grew big enough to stand up to him and all hell broke loose. I grabbed his arm as he went to hit me and pushed him in his chair and.held him there while I let out 17 years of pent up emotion onto him verbally. I then packed my bags and left.home.

 

I actually get on BETTER with my Dad now than I ever did before. All it took was him to see MY side of eventualities.

 

I vowed never to become like my Dad in terms of disiplin.

 

I want my Son to feel He can talk to me about anything.

 

We have had a chat about the Phone and He is going to now pay for the screen and we are going to fix it together. I have no intention of fixing his Laptops and he has known that for some time now.

 

I just wish I could get him to be less clumsy with his belongings.

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I am not a parent but was a "step" for six years to two teenagers.The Clumsy disrespectful was commonplace its a young persons thing.I just went halves on repair/replacement and only when they had there half.Slowly the culture changed and things started to last.And when they lusted after something extravagant,they both learnt to dive I went halves again,this made them consider the size and frequency of requests.

 

six years after I left I am still on good terms with both of them.

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You don't get respect off children for keep digging them out of the poo and it certainly won't help him in the long run even though you feel your helping him! I know a lot of the responses on here seem harsh mate as at the end of the day he's your flesh and blood and you want to do what you feel is best for him but unfortunately it doesn't always work like that!

 

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