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I witnessed the other day in the arcades a lad calling his step dad a donkey nosed stunt ( with a C) and the mother stood there looking.

I've demanded that my kids treat him right and if I'm honest I'm happy he's there and wouldn't want any other guy there.

My only problem is I just feel I'm missing out

Surely if he's a nice bloke like you say then he will be sympathetic and say to your ex maybe you should take them to the places instead of him.

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When I was dating Jacki! Her youngest son didn't take too well with another man in the house! I sat him down and we had a bit of a chat! He saw me as a threat to his dad for some reason!

 

I told him, I am not there to replace his dad! But would like the opertunity to become his friend! It worked wonders! Although Jacki and I split "near ten years as partners" Karl still contacts me now :) his dad still sees Karl every day! They watch the F1 together! I took him to Silverstone to witness F1 for real which wa awesome! And to the BTCC too. But Karl AND his Dad knew full well I wasn't going to get in ther way! Intact I was a mediator when Karl and his day had a falling out :lol: he is a cracking young man :yes:

 

Nathan! If you need a nag, or just a chat! You know where I am ;)

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You have it easy mate..its hard being a full time dad...believe me... :yes::lol::lol:

Disagree, privilege to be a dad. Sorry to hear how it has worked out TT. I'm sure from your fb posts they really appreciate the times they have with you and I know you always work hard to make those times special. Remember you are dad and they will know that for sure.

ATB mate

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Disagree, privilege to be a dad. Sorry to hear how it has worked out TT. I'm sure from your fb posts they really appreciate the times they have with you and I know you always work hard to make those times special. Remember you are dad and they will know that for sure.

ATB mate

Cheers mate. I guess you have seen my pic today. Proud is an understatement :) Edited by team tractor
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I've had four girls and have never had the problems of divorce or a mish mash of muddled relationships to deal with so I don't know how it would affect me but I never really knew my father because he lived and worked away from home permanently it was sort of like a no marrage >> no divorce limbo land. He was never nasty to me but when I used to go and stay with him there was no bond between us at all. He was just another person. I was sent up to London to stay with him and I was sent shows such as panto and children's Christmas parties that I hated. I didn't know where I was or anyone else at all. And I was given one of those stupid party hats that I hated and didn't want to wear and the magician. I suppose that it was thought that I would like this sort of thing but no one asked me. If I had been armed back in those days when I was sort of 7>>10 I would have been a mass murderer. The magician would have definately been given a barrel !!! Father took me camping. canoing on the Thames and shopping and all sorts of things like going to Gamleys toy store and the Christmas lights in Oxford Street . Regents park zoo. No one could say that I was abused or deprived of stuff but there was no bond with him in the slightest. There was no animosity between us but he was just another person and this never changed. When he passed away I looked at the box down in the bottom of the hole and there was no feeling or emotion of any sort. It was just like going to the funeral of someone from up the road. Mum never said a bad word about him and never tried to turn me against him. What I have been left with is a hate of panto, theatre, children's parties and the feeling of a great loss that I never knew him as a man. If only he had taken the trouble to talk to me about us rather than just providing things, our relationship might have meant something other than a biological link.

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