Daughter growing up

[digger]

Went into work late as I had to take my eldest to the dentists.Took the youngest to school first but the elder one was reluctant to snuggle up to me to keep warm as her class mates were walking past.

Took her to her first Guides meeting tonight and was at a loss,she is making her own way in the world,new friends,new experiences and I`m not relevant.Walked out holding my six year olds hand not wanting her to grow up :look:

[Cranfield]

I know just what you are going through and it gets worse.

 

My daughters still laugh at how I scared off their first few potential boyfriends.

Although they are now late 20's, early 30's, have good jobs and are making their way in the world, when they want advice about anything, or a shoulder to cry on, they always ring Dad. :look:

[markbivvy]

I`m not relevant

yes you are mate. they will allways love and need you.

14 to 18 is the worse. but they come throught it.

[njc110381]

As long as they know you're there for them when they really need you, they will be fine. I always feel that kids need to be given some space fairly early. All my mates that were closely guarded by their parents at school age went nuts at 18 because they'd never been allowed to try anything even slightly risky. I had free access to the drinks cabinet for as long as I remember, and never felt the need to swig cider in the park. Much warmer (and safer) at home! I don't know the feelings that go with parenting, but realise these things must be hard to take! It's a teen thing, good luck!

[Wilky]

I`m not relevant

yes you are mate. they will allways love and need you.

14 to 18 is the worse. but they come throught it.

 

 

My lad's 18 and he's been a pleasure and a true mate, my daughter is now 13 and also an absolute pleasure, however, I'm permanently ******** myself if I see a lad anywhere near our house, she's happier with fashion than lads, which is good, but all I can see is what I was like when I was a teenager and any little **** that knocks on our door is going get the fright of his life, I know it's not the way I should be looking at it, but it's Daddy's eyes an all that. :look:

[Lord Geordie]

I`m not relevant

yes you are mate. they will allways love and need you.

14 to 18 is the worse. but they come throught it.

 

 

My lad's 18 and he's been a pleasure and a true mate, my daughter is now 13 and also an absolute pleasure, however, I'm permanently ******** myself if I see a lad anywhere near our house, she's happier with fashion than lads, which is good, but all I can see is what I was like when I was a teenager and any little **** that knocks on our door is going get the fright of his life, I know it's not the way I should be looking at it, but it's Daddy's eyes an all that. :look:

 

Wilky!!

 

To be honest you have done your part in her life as a role model and a good father. She NEEDS to make her own choices and mistakes it's part of life and how we ALL learn.

 

I was glad my Father never pressed on me HIS mistakes. I was left to my own devices and i respect my Father for just that "My own decisions"

 

He is still there for support and help should i need it and YEAH i am a Bloke but i still tell my dad how much i think of him. Not said I love you too often i must admit but he knows

 

My Step Daughters came home with some right ****** and one was "I thought" a complete dead head!

 

10 years on they are still together and plan to marry they have their own house and BOTH work. She brought out a side in him i never gave him credit for. I never interfered and Neither did the Ex Wife but the Daughter brought out a Respectfull man from what I deemed a total loss. (women have that effect)

 

Just be there when SHE needs you be a shoulder be a confidant be all you can as a Father but be discretional give her the room she needs to flower.

 

Making decisions about her choice of Men can only serve to place a barrier between you

 

This is from a guy with 4 step daughters 1 step son and 1 son

 

ATVB

 

LG

[Wilky]

Geordie, you're right and I know you are, and that's exactly how I try to be, I certainly don't smother her, BUT it's the thought of the freedom that I was given that frightens me, that and the fact that the freedom that I and most probably you were given was in a completely different age, when you could wander the fields with a ferret in your pocket without the fear of perverts etc., not that I'm that old, still early 40's, but some of the goghorns you see outside the schools these days is enough to frighten Van Helsing, I guess I'm lucky she's got a good head on her shoulders. :look:

[Conygree]

Yep the relationship must growup with them. My daughter is 28 moved up north very independent, just like I was. Son now 15, its more mates than dad - son, out shooting woodland work since he was 5. now army/air cadets so its I will show you dad how to use a firearm and fly light aircraft, out shot me on beaters day, thats my boy. :look:

 

You must not put your fears between you and your daughter or your relationship will suffer. As she grows up develope more with her, so she has the social skills to cope over the next few years. Its pretty scarry for them to, you are a man so tip her on the reality and how to avoid situations, eg, I gave mine a drink a few years under age to learn in safety and all the tricks used in parties to get them drunk. How to walk down a street etc. but most of all talk to her to keep the relationship between you both good for years to come.

[Gully]

I'm dreading them growing up - I've got 3 girls, ages 8, 6 & 3.

 

I remember when I was about 17 the dad of a girl I went out with said to me "Look after my daughter..... I'm not afraid to go back to prison" :look:

[Mungler]

I'm dreading them growing up - I've got 3 girls, ages 8, 6 & 3.

 

I remember when I was about 17 the dad of a girl I went out with said to me "Look after my daughter..... I'm not afraid to go back to prison" :look:

 

 

That's priceless.

 

Bet you fellas can't wait for the scooters to start arriving outside your houses at all hours....

[louilester]

I'm welling up - my daughter's only 17 months old and I'm dreading the time when she gets to an age where she's confident enough not to need me each day.. Makes me feel bad that I leave before she's up most days and just manage to get home for bath time. The time ticks away so fast .

 

But as others have said - I'm sure that she'll always come back when she wants some advice, emotional support orjust a few quid for something..

 

An ol saying says "When you have a son there's only one Pr1ck to worry about - when you have a daughter it's all the other pr1cks that you have to worry about" :look:

 

My son will be coming to the - Shepreth Diabolical

turns out after I've just decided to take it up - he's a better shot than I am so want to enourage him. On our first day out with a simple 5 target 'shoot reset' knockdown he had 6 and my mate and I only got 5. I had visions of the olympics and everything. He's got a real knack so I'm looking forward to getting smoe advice and good habit forming from you pros that are attending.

 

Oh well back to work...

[SNAKEBITE]

I am of the opinion that you should make them as indepndant as possible as soon as possible but always be there for them.

My 7 year old daughter will hold a conversation with anyone, even if she has not met them she is very confident. My wife won't even ring up for a pizza, no confidence at all

[Conygree]

Don't worry chaps, enjoy each phase as it rolls along, just enjoy being a dad. I remember seeing my daughter on TV for the first time - made me so proud to be her dad. She was blowing a bugle in the face of a copper in an Anti-nazi demo, strong minded girl.

 

The worst part was when I got divorced and had a battle to get access when she was 7 yrs old, even after winning access my ex would keep her up till late so all she would do was sleep and be grumpy all day with me.

[Pedro]

I`m not relevant

yes you are mate. they will allways love and need you.

14 to 18 is the worse. but they come throught it.

 

God, I bloody hope so :look:

 

I nearly killed my 14 yr old daughter the other day. I wouldn't let her stay out at 2130 on a school night, (all,her friends were though), so in a fit of rage she kicked a hole in the living room door...........

 

Light blue touch paper and stand WELL back

 

Apparently it's a phase...........................................................................

..... oh yeah

 

P.

[Axe]

Dont! my eldest daughter is soon to be ten and if you watch her very closely, I swear you can see her growing. :look: I didnt expect to be able to notice the changes as they grow but how wrong I was. I might just have to be cleaning the shotgun when she brings home her first boyfriend.

[BTMS]

Been there seen it and got the holes in my heart to prove it...

Give them space clean guns infront of ANY future son in law. They will sort themselves out you just have to be there. 3 Grandkids later and still lots of hugs and Dad could you just..........................

 

Bless them

[fullbore]

I know exactly how you feel, my own daughter, now 16, was a daddy's girl and a little tomboy, until, not to put too fine a point on it, started her "women's troubles" she then went over to the dark side and became mummy's girl. She became a right argumentative so and so, and then the boyfriend came along. Now you could't have planned this better, I had just had my head shaved, and been to the range to check zero and I met the by looking hard with a rifle in my hand! Asit turned out he is a nice lad and the daughter is becoming more human again. From talking to other people, this is the way with girls, she wll veer off and then come back later, so my thoughts are with you.