Vince Green Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I woudn't be the slightest bit bothered! Getting out of having to go to a wedding is a right good result in my book! Perfect excuse too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mickyh Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Sounds like they are skint so very awkward for them. Let your Wife/Partner go, send your best wishes and get on with your life. Its far too short to be bothered about things like this. Go shooting or have a day down the Pub, get a takeaway, live the dream! Weddings are pants anyway, carp food, strangers etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jason_ox Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I'd be a bit miffed if I socialised with them. However me and my fiance are getting married this year and we are doing it abroad basically because it's MUCH cheaper and everyone can make a great holiday out of it, we told guests who are mainly immediate family and close friends and partners that if they want to celebrate with us please come. The amount of flack im getting because so and so can't afford it is unreal. Even though we are inviting all guests with partners to a party when we get back im expecting people to not turn up because "they chose to have a wedding abroad" and to be honest if they cant see the bigger picture I wouldnt want them there. If I wasnt invited i'd be out in the field! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SirDread Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 As a man involved in compiling our wedding invite list as far as am concerned its our wedding and if we don't know your husband, boyfriend, wife, sister, aunt etc etc then you wont be getting an invite directly or indirectly. Weddings cost enough without feeding complete strangers as well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny thomas Posted January 20, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I think its more the question of why would your wife even consider accepting if you have been left out ? I can understand if it was one of her work friends who you had never met, but that doesn't seem to be the case here ? I would be more annoyed with the wife than anyone else ? I think its more the question of why would your wife even consider accepting if you have been left out ? I can understand if it was one of her work friends who you had never met, but that doesn't seem to be the case here ? I would be more annoyed with the wife than anyone else ? Bang on I am indeed more annoyed with my wife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lloyd90 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Weddings these days cost an absolute fortune but often the inviting couple may explain they haven't given plus ones as they are having a small do or keeping costs down , normally though you would be invited to the after event for a drink n dance in the nighttime! If they know you well enough to have you do them favours but then do that sounds like a right snub and as said when they next ask for help with their car tell them your busy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sian Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Bang on I am indeed more annoyed with my wife You don't think they've just written the invitation wrong assuming you would know you are invited but addressed it to your wife. If she knows them well I think it would be okay for her just to ask if this was the case. In reality do you really care about it, if you do, just don't be available to help with the car anymore. If she likes a knees up and dressing up then let her go and enjoy herself and you will have peace and quiet to do as you please that day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neil3728 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Of course it could be worse, I was once invited to a family members wedding, which turned pout to be a humanist ceremony, followed by a vegan meal for the wedding breakfast. To me a wedding is a family occasion which means the whole family, man wife and kids if any. You either invite us all or non of us arrive and yes I did invite everyone to my own wedding although I wasn't paying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ph5172 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I know a few people who have had 'Stag Only' invites to weddings with an open invite to the evenings, it normally occurs when the couple dont know or have never met the other half or it is a replationship that has just started - and at £80 a meal you can see why pople do it...... 10 people you have never met adds up. I myself have been to a few and the better half has driven over in the evening and vice versa. At a recent wedding (we attended as a couple) a few guests didnt turn up and the best man went around asking if anyones partner was in the hotel or could make it before the dinner as the meal was paid for and they could fill the space - even eat the meal in the bar / room if they wanted Would it bother me - not at all. Would i have an argument or heart attack over it.... no........ i would just tinker round the house knowing i could do what i wanted without getting moaned at!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny thomas Posted January 20, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Sounds like they are skint so very awkward for them. Let your Wife/Partner go, send your best wishes and get on with your life. Its far too short to be bothered about things like this. Go shooting or have a day down the Pub, get a takeaway, live the dream! Weddings are pants anyway, carp food, strangers etc. not ever so many skint brand new audi Q5 drivers aroundAs a man involved in compiling our wedding invite list as far as am concerned its our wedding and if we don't know your husband, boyfriend, wife, sister, aunt etc etc then you wont be getting an invite directly or indirectly. Weddings cost enough without feeding complete strangers as well known them years Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny thomas Posted January 20, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I completely understand the cost issue if that is the reason surely you don't invite either It's more the formal "rules" I was after I'm not bothered about going or not they'll still get my best wishes and a nice present What really got me was the fact that my wife was invited as if she were single, now I'm not usually the sensitive type but this has given me a reet irate These are people we have known a long time The bride went to school with our oldest son I wouldn't describe us as best friends but we know each other fairly well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lloyd90 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I completely understand the cost issue if that is the reason surely you don't invite either It's more the formal "rules" I was after I'm not bothered about going or not they'll still get my best wishes and a nice present What really got me was the fact that my wife was invited as if she were single, now I'm not usually the sensitive type but this has given me a reet irate These are people we have known a long time The bride went to school with our oldest son I wouldn't describe us as best friends but we know each other fairly well Well just don't stress about it but remember it the next time they want you to sort their car or whatever it is you do for them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sian Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 I completely understand the cost issue if that is the reason surely you don't invite either It's more the formal "rules" I was after I'm not bothered about going or not they'll still get my best wishes and a nice present What really got me was the fact that my wife was invited as if she were single, now I'm not usually the sensitive type but this has given me a reet irate These are people we have known a long time The bride went to school with our oldest son I wouldn't describe us as best friends but we know each other fairly well I think in the circumstance you described where you have known the family a long time, either a big mistake has been made and your name was missed off the invite thinking you would automatically know you were invited or if it is a question of costs or space, surely they could have explained and perhaps you could just have attended the actual ceremony or the after party. I can understand why you feel cross but it would be awful if it were a mistake and no-one said anything about it. I presume as the kids went to school together your wife and her mother must have some sort of relationship through that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrowningB525 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Out of interest, how were you excluded? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lord_seagrave Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Clicky work do's aside and talking family, friendy, relationy wedlocks, would you go to a wedding that your wife wasn't invited to ? If I didn't, we would still send them a card and a gift, and say nice things. LS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaun4860 Posted January 20, 2016 Report Share Posted January 20, 2016 Personally I would be a bit miffed but also relieved that I didn't have to go..... Would be interested to hear the wording on the invite though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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