wannabe_keeper Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 Right im in a right dilema and need some advice on what best to do. Im 20 years old and i have a girlfriend i have been with a year. My parents live up in Hampshire but i am moving back to Sussex where i grew up as all my mates are there everything im used to. My g/f currently lives with me and my rents in Hampshire. When i/we move back i have 3 lad mates who all want to flat/house share. I also have a g/f to consider though! Her mum lives in Sussex so she could easily go home but doesnt want to. She hates living at her house, for various reasons and is set on the idea of the 2 of us settling down. I considered renting with my mates and g/f but i dont think this would work. Any advice please? :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuzzypigeon Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 she might be set on the two of you settling down but are you?? if not ditch her live with your mates enjoy your youth and some shooting without getting nagged at Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattslaptop247 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 move the mrs in, the lads ont keep you warm on a night, or at least I hope not!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vampire Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 Twenty is far to young to be settling down but you need to grow up sometime and its YOU that will answer this question,not anyone here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poontang Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'd rather share with my girlfriend than a house full of blokes anyday Unless, of course you're a little............. gay :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fortune82 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 The fact your posting this on here answers your question. If you WANTED to move in with her you wouldnt be asking us. Your only young once. Spend a few years drinking and ******** and then settle down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrispti Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 The fact you are asking that question, shows you dont really want her there House parties, lads holidays etc Mag to Grid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) would rather share with blokes that lasses or even girlfriend less nagging but i settled at 20 but did not last long as people change and expectations too Edited January 12, 2011 by leeds chimp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddywack12 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 I dont think 20 is too young to "settle down" I met my Mrs when I was 20 ,brought a house and still together 24 years later and I dont think I missed out on anything with my mates just think if you have to come on here to ask what to do, she aint the one :unsure: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
njc110381 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) This is a tough one to answer on a forum. Not nearly enough details. I think things to consider in order of importance are... What do you want? If you do want to maybe settle down a bit, what does she/your mates think of her and them living in the same house? Will they annoy her? Will she annoy them? What she wants doesn't count for much if you don't want the same thing. At 20 you've got plenty of time to play yet if that's what you want, but at the same time if settling down is what you think you want then go for it. Don't let your mates or this rabble tell you otherwise. You're unlikely to do anything in this situation that can't be undone but one thing I will say is don't completely give up on your mates for a woman. They should accept her being there and she should accept them, otherwise words need to be had. Edited January 12, 2011 by njc110381 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throbbingfinger Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 As some of the others have said, you have asked on here so that tells me you are being pushed in to living with her. You want your bird but want to live with your mates. It could work out but only you would know that. I moved in with my misses when I was 18. I'm 31 next week, been married nearly six years and have three kids. I don't regret it one bit. Only you can decide but if you tell her you don't want her to move in with you, be prepared for a major row!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HDAV Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 depends on you, and her 20 is young although i have been with my missus for along time we didn't live together properly (just the 2 of us) until 24? we shared a house with another couple while at uni (4 bed house). I do find living together at parents houses slightly odd tho must be a weird dynamic in the house. Also be wary of living with "your best mates" as you have no where to go when they pee you off etc I didnt speak to my best mate for quite a while after we lived together, you can spend too much time with one person and needs your mates as an alternative. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toombsy Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 It's a bloody tough question mate and it's great to just spend a few more years getting your leg over and partying, but that might not be your cup of tea. If you're into that sort of thing and fancy fooling around for a bit longer, then do that. But at the minute you don't have to go far to have a good time with your girlfriend. If you've been getting on really well with her and everything's rosy, then what have you really got to lose? It's not like you're buying a house together or anything... if the worse happens you'll only lose a few month's rent and then pick up the pieces and start again. Best of luck with whatever you decide though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pegleg31 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 it's a hard one to advise on really you could make it alot easier by putting some pictures of the missus up :yp: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackpowder Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'd rather share with my girlfriend than a house full of blokes anyday Thats sound advice even to a 20 year old. Blackpowder Unless, of course you're a little............. gay :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gareth0689 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 A few of my mates have settled down with girls, all aged around 21 and they just have no life compared to those of us that haven't! They never come out as they just get hassle! It is however only you that can make the decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HDAV Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) A few of my mates have settled down with girls, all aged around 21 and they just have no life compared to those of us that haven't! They never come out as they just get hassle! It is however only you that can make the decision. Or they are just too knackered.... word of advice don't leave it too long unless you want your pick of the single mums and bunny boilers.......in some areas by 21 there isn't much left that doesn't have lots of baggage (either physical or emotional/mental) Edited January 12, 2011 by HDAV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toombsy Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 in some areas by 21 there isn't much left that doesn't have lots of baggage (either physical or emotional/mental) Too bloody true. At my age women are like Tesco car parking spaces... They are either too far away, with kids or disabled Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J@mes Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 I settled down early - mistake! all fell apart, missed out on some great times with the lads (holidays, nights out, renting a house with them) and regretted it ever since! Older now and ready to settle down with the current missus, but in the 4 months between the last missus and this one I got it out of my system and feel much better for it! Tell your missus you're moving in with the lads, she's not invited but you'd still like to bang her every so often. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 I think I can answer your dilema with a question or rather a series of questions: Is your girlfried fit, have massive norks and put out (dirty stylee)? Be honest, you're amongst friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr W Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 Move in withn your mates, all the time in the world for you to live with your gf/wife/partner but you only get a few years to live with your mates and it's proper laugh (well assuming your mates aren't *****). I had 3 years living with mates at uni then another 4 living with mates in a place in London, had the same gf (now wife) for those latter 4 years but she had her own place and we had ours. We then moved in together and it's great but I wouldn't have missed out on those years living with mates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hushpower Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 Go for it its a no brainer,mates 1st, chicks 2nd . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytim38 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 In my vast experience of life, if you need to ask strangers on a forum your not sure, be your own man do what you want to do and to hell with it, there are plenty of women :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 Go for it its a no brainer,mates 1st, chicks 2nd . So if you had a large chested dirty bit of totty lined up, you would blow her out for your mates, who in turn would probably blow you out in a heart beat if they had their own bit of large chested dirty totty lined up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TJ91 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 bros be4 hoes i hear alot, but... i am 19 and live with my gf i still get out with my mates and do plenty of shooting if she is a stay at home kinda gal then your ******** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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