JohnFreeman1310 Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 So me and the long term gf have just called it aday and i feel like ive just lost everything i start a new job in less than 2 weeks i need to find a new place to live and ive lost everything and have no idea how im guna start fresh i just feel like my world has dropped on top of me she really was my best freind and she got me were i am today and have no idea how im going to cope. And help would be great Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Marty Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) Been there mate and really I swear things do get better to point you'll get up one day and not think about it at all. As far as finding somewere to live that's just something you have to get on with, not nice but fact of life. None of my business but if this girl meant as much to you as you say would it not be worth giving it 1 final push. Good luck bud whatever you do. Edited August 5, 2013 by Big Marty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kes Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 First you should remember you went to the interview and you got the job. there will be many things where you achieved together but one of you did more. Its easy to feel broken hearted and stop caring about things but those who will succeed are those who take the hurt and come back. Its not easy and I, like many have been there, but there is a lot more life to live and you can do it. Have some faith in yourself, rebuild you confidence and get going. For all you know things will be better - for most people value things more after hardship. Imagine a future that you want for yourself and get up tomorrow with the intent to make it happen - nothing comes of nothing, anything can come from something. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and realise the potential you have. Good luck and when you next need a kick up the bum let me know !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 sorry mate, i don't have much advice to offer, it's a horrible place to be emotionally, i used to hate being alone, now i'm married i sometimes wish i was. go out, get wasted, get laid, get better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikemad24 Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 i dont know what to say mate, it will get better but it will take time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnFreeman1310 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 I tried that tonigh see if we could work it out but her mums said to let it go it's a dead end :( ill be flat hunting this week I have till the 29th to be out and keys back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigG Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 It takes time. You have been used to a certain routine that has now dramatically changed. We all have the ability to move on, it takes time, sometimes lots of it. You have done well to secure a new job, plenty of opportunity to throw yourself into the new role. Good luck, it will work out, it's just hard to see it at the moment. G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balian Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Been there myself, when I split from my ex I lost my home, clothes, possessions and most importantly access to my daughter. I was basically homeless and at rock bottom. As said before it does get better but it takes time and it will be a rough ride for a while. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnFreeman1310 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Thanks guys ano I'm bein soft but just on my **** at the min she took the dog :( but I still get to see him when we're both free just seems alien being alone empty house and all that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balian Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Oh yea she wouldn't give me my dog back either, took a year to get him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikky Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 sorry to hear about your bad news,if you are anywhere near Bury and fancy a pint or a blast on the clays at worsley give me a pm mikky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vince Green Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Its the most awful feeling in the whole world when it happens. Really sick inside, but you do move on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Who paid for the dog - in law it's a chattel, so it belongs to whoever paid for it. Anyways, good luck with it all - time to compartmentalise and put a brave face on. Get stuck into your new job and lose yourself in it for a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnFreeman1310 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 I'm not far mikky so I might take you up on that sum time bud thanks just got to find sum were to live and ill need that day out top guy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikky Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 I'm not far mikky so I might take you up on that sum time bud thanks just got to find sum were to live and ill need that day out top guy no problem mate,im on holiday next week for a week,just let me know when Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unapalomablanca Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 I know its hard to think straight in a situation like this, but sometimes perspective can help. I was out yesterday doing a very simple thing of feeding the ducks with my nephew, at the pond was a tetraplegic woman who had been brought out by her carer just to lay in her chair and look at the pond. She said hello to me in a cheerful way, even with the suffering she was going through, she was still cheerful. My problems and most peoples should dissolve when seeing how some people suffer every day. All the best. Don't get low. una. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ME Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Get yourself on the internet and spank yourself silly while you still can The guy that works with me went on a free dating site called "Plenty of Fish". He quickly found a replacement for his nutty ex-missus. He is 37 and came in with a love bite on his neck! He wore his coat in the office all morning. It reminded me of being 15!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLuke Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GingerCat Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Good advice londonluke, there's plenty more, a few sleepless nights and your right as rain. Chin up and do more of the stuff u like to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Geordie Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 In line with SOME comments take plenty of time to immerse yourself in your new job, and get out and about! Don't sit around with your head in your hands Time is a great healer, but in the mean time be SURE, to keep your mind occupied! A fair few of us fellow PW ers have been here at some point! From personal experience I can highly recommend spending time with friends, and perhaps even a boys week away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ack-ack Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 (edited) We've all been there fella, bad as it seems now, chin up and move on and try and find something better. Easier said than done but you still have time to get another one on the team before christmas. Edited August 6, 2013 by ack-ack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgguinness Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Hey mate chin up. Your starting a new job, some wedge in your pocket and any bets your new workplace will be crawling with some quality birds!! You will be like a rat up a drain pipe! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rascal72 Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Same as a lot of the above pal get stuck into new job dont dwell on things and time will sort you out(i have been there) as im sure many others have and as Mikky you cant be too for from bolton so offers there for a beer and a blast chin up and keep going pal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bangon Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I feel for you mate, I was dumped whilst serving in Afghanistan, Not the best of timing on her part. I was totally helpless, nothing at all i could do. Felt like my heart had been ripped out. You know what helped me get over it. I joined Plentyoffish dating site and saw that there were loads more women out there. And when I got home from Afghan I met a few, nailed a few and moved on. As been said above get out get hammered and get laid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balian Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Have to agree, get onto Plenty of Fish you will have a great time. I also used Girlsdateforfree its another good one. After I split with ex, I had two years of online dating, had an absolute field day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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