Lord Geordie Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 How can it be a Perv Alert? The girl is 20 not 12. She is now a WOMAN! She obviously finds older men attractive! Experience, knows what he wants, been around the block knows how to please. He obviously feels flattered a young woman has an interest in him! My wife was 13 years OLDER than me If its not a prob for THEM, dont make it YOUR problem Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beretta06 Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) My wife is 16 years younger than me - works fine for us ;-) Edited February 16, 2013 by Beretta06 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unapalomablanca Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 What would call a 'normal' age gap between male n female in a relationship? My sister of 20years has started seeing a bloke of 43years..seein him for 2months (aparently) n is nw moving in with him. He has a daughter just a few years younger than her.. Am I the only 1 who thinks this is wrong in so many ways?? Yes..i know to expect the **** taking and stupid comments but honest answers would be appreciated Yeh, your instincts are bang on, its wrong, if i had a sister i would be very upset. Its bad enough when celebrities have birds 30 years younger. I think ten years is the max, 5 to 7 preferable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trevorevans Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) Worked with a girl who was 18 and very very attractive and I thought I'd try my luck, I was probably 26-27 at the time and thought I may be a bit too old for her. Anyway we got on really well but I found out she was not single, I then found out she was with a guy who was 43 and had left his wife and daughter for her TWO years earlier. She could not understand why his 15 year old daughter refused to speak to her and people thought their relationship was at best a bit strange, most thinking he was her farther. When we were out at a works party or similar she would come out with things like 'he's told me if I want picking up then I have to be ready by 11 pm or I'll need to find my own way home' lol. I kind of felt a bit freaked out by some of the things she'd say, you can't treat someone like your kid and your partner. Gave up trying to get into her knickers but all the same felt really sorry for her cause I bet in her mid thirties to forties she would still be stunning and full of life, he on the other hand would be at lest sixty. Edited February 16, 2013 by Trevorevans Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullet boy Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 There's a 13 year gap between me and my missus and we have been married nearly 9 years now.I'm 44 and she is 31. I still got my head screwed on!lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archie-fox Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 i used to go out with a 20 year old when i was 28, but i knew it wasnt going to last so just had 18 months of fun.. i binned her off after the age gap started to get in the way, she was wanting to go out every weekend with her mates but id done all that, i never stopped her from doing it i just packed my bags and moved on.. been with my mrs for about 6 years or so now, and she is older than me only by a couple of years but shes done all the partying when she was at uni so she has settled down now.. i wouldnt worry about the large age gap...it wont last. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kent Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 What would call a 'normal' age gap between male n female in a relationship? My sister of 20years has started seeing a bloke of 43years..seein him for 2months (aparently) n is nw moving in with him. He has a daughter just a few years younger than her.. Am I the only 1 who thinks this is wrong in so many ways?? Yes..i know to expect the **** taking and stupid comments but honest answers would be appreciated Keep out of it or loose a sister, twenty is old enough to make her own choice- I have known bigger gaps work. The only bit I don't get is what music you might play in the car or what you might chat about on the sofa but I am sure they have this sorted by now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
four-wheel-drive Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Its not the best idea but then if the guy is good to here and treats here well it may not be the worst thing that she could do a lot of young men do not treat there girlfriends/wifes that well get them pregnant and then abandoning them or knocking them about and in the end even with that age difference it is not guaranteed that she will outlive him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackpowder Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Does he work? Has he got a successful career, if he is sincere at his time of life he should be better able to provide for your sister than someone her own age. Blackpowder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goodo123 Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 I'm 24 nd my gf is 22, used to remember at school the Slavs about 14 at the time going out with 18 19 year olds, now that is wrong, I think when you get older age isn't as much of a factor but with a age gap that big I imagine itl b hard to share common interests Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linny Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 im 47 my son is 29 and my two daughters 19 and 16 i dont think i would be happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TJ91 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) So linny..what age guy would you accept with 19year old daughter? I aren't going to say anything to my sister, her life her choices, I just wanted to see what others thought. I will be happy for her if shes happy and there for her If she needs me, always a spare shoulder for my sisters to cry on. I dont 'agree' with it but ui know its not my place to say or do anythinh. Edited February 16, 2013 by TJ91 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WelshLamb Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 I'm 28, my last fella was 47. Live and let live, they aren't hurting anyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieT Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 At 20 the girl is still basically a child. For someone in their mid 40's to set up home with a child is just plain wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bi9johnny Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) At 20 the girl is still basically a child. For someone in their mid 40's to set up home with a child is just plain wrong. How is a 20 yr old a child . Try telling a 20yr old girl or boy they are a child Edited February 16, 2013 by bi9johnny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digger Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 My wife is 11 years younger than me. No problems at all with the age gap. Im 46 and she is 35. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieT Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 How is a 20 yr old a child . Try telling a 20yr old girl or boy they are a child They may think they are grown up and worldly but that does not alter the fact that they are. As I said, for a middle aged man to set up home with someone so young is plain wrong. Had a middle aged man groomed one of my daughters in such a way he would have soon seen the errors of his pervertion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrispti Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) What if she wants kids in a few years....... Will he be wanting any more..... Edited February 16, 2013 by chrispti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geordieh Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 They may think they are grown up and worldly but that does not alter the fact that they are. As I said, for a middle aged man to set up home with someone so young is plain wrong. Had a middle aged man groomed one of my daughters in such a way he would have soon seen the errors of his pervertion. And how do you know he wasn't chased by the 20 yr old and the same could apply to your daughters some girls much prefer older men Geordie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bi9johnny Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Geordieh has a very good point , why would you assume he being the older one was the pervert and had groomed said younger woman. Thought we on here were a lot more grown up and not in the "not in my back yard" type of people but everyone has an opinion and it would not be good if they were all the same however I don't think to label someone a pervert for being older than their partner or commenting on the error of their ways as such is productive to this discussion, So for that reason I'm out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parapilot Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 My missus is 8 years younger, if she's happy it's fine. Is he rich!!?? If I found myself single at 40+ and a 20yo came about it wouldn't stop me!!!! If she's safe and happy that's all you can assure, the rest is up to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bi9johnny Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 My missus is 8 years younger, if she's happy it's fine. Is he rich!!?? If I found myself single at 40+ and a 20yo came about it wouldn't stop me!!!! If she's safe and happy that's all you can assure, the rest is up to her. You look 45 now hehehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39TDS Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Been with my missus for 18 years, she is 12 years younger than me. Can't say it has never been an issue but it certainly isn't any more. Having said that, in your shoes I too wouldn't be happy and yes it does sound a bit wrong to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linny Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 So linny..what age guy would you accept with 19year old daughter? I aren't going to say anything to my sister, her life her choices, I just wanted to see what others thought. I will be happy for her if shes happy and there for her If she needs me, always a spare shoulder for my sisters to cry on. I dont 'agree' with it but ui know its not my place to say or do anythinh. hi joe what happend to my post must have been removed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TJ91 Posted February 16, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 hi joe what happend to my post must have been removed I don't know pal... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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