Pinkella Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Sorry I feel I've taken this thread away from the original post. Forget about how easy men and women can be, that's another thread to be fair. We were talking about jumping into bed to help you get over your X, I don't personally cant understand why it would help ever! Coming out of a relationship is about involving your emotions not just your tool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al4x Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 men are different to women in that respect our emotions are very much governed by our tool Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinkella Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 men are different to women in that respect our emotions are very much governed by our tool That's probably why I don't understand the whole poking business to help you get over your X, does it really honestly help? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bangon Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 men are different to women in that respect our emotions are very much governed by our tool LOL Your on fire today al4x. If a man gets dumped his tool takes over his emotions. He has to give his two minutes worth to any takers.You do get less choosy after 4 pints mind you. It helped me get over it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
del.gue Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Chin up...there is life after an ex. As you can see there are a lot of us been there and done that. After my ex b****** off I was left to finish off some building work and then sell the house...My daughter and dad where in hospital about 60 miles apart and I had to sort my end of the divorce...and work. It was like that for two years. But like you I had the chance of a fresh start and moved from town 20 miles to live in a rural cottage. Never looked back....And, by chance, I have now met a wonderful woman who even likes shooting!! Take that fresh start and move on. All the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yates Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Usually about 4 pints of strongbow Strongbow, i take it you only go for posh birds then. Come up North as the lasses around here even supply their own condoms Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al4x Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 That's probably why I don't understand the whole poking business to help you get over your X, does it really honestly help? YES it does you stop moping and get a few minutes to not think about it and afterwards it seems like there is more to life and there is something to look forward to. You must feel better after a proper servicing by a new model? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinkella Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 YES it does you stop moping and get a few minutes to not think about it and afterwards it seems like there is more to life and there is something to look forward to. You must feel better after a proper servicing by a new model? Put like that no lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I think I would like to find a secluded beach, light some candles, say a prayer to the godess of love and peace and then get in touch with my inner self. I think crying a lot and reading poetry out loud would help. The very idea of getting smashed with my mates, popping a blue pill, doing two lines and booking out twin hookers with massive jugs fills me with dread and I really can't understand some men who have posted on this thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catweazle Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Everyone will tell you that it will get better, but at the moment you won't see it, you'll feel that it's different for you. It's not, we've all been there, and time is the healer. Soon you'll feel as if a weight has been lifted from your shoulders, and you can set off in a new direction. I used to like listening to this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLE_emfAd74 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasper3 Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 That's probably why I don't understand the whole poking business to help you get over your X, does it really honestly help? men think differently to woman.... if we look at each in sex thinking time ..... a man will spend 12 minutes a day thinking about love, 9 minutes of the 12 will be taken up with thoughts of sex.. where as a woman will take 6 hours in a day to give thoughts of love , sex, flowers ,and THE relationship, the rest of her day should be thinking of house work and shopping where as the man will give 1 hour a day thought to his job and the rest of the time will be spent thinking of shooting, fishing, all big boys toys , beer and food... so a 3 minute fling will will be one quarter of his (sex love) thinking time... the other 9 minutes are thinking about sex...wiping out the thoughts of love ......so to answer your question...yes it does help Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuji Shooter Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 LOL GO UGLY EARLY LOL At least going ugly early means you go ugly and not Moose later on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinkella Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 men think differently to woman.... if we look at each in sex thinking time ..... a man will spend 12 minutes a day thinking about love, 9 minutes of the 12 will be taken up with thoughts of sex.. where as a woman will take 6 hours in a day to give thoughts of love , sex, flowers ,and THE relationship, the rest of her day should be thinking of house work and shopping where as the man will give 1 hour a day thought to his job and the rest of the time will be spent thinking of shooting, fishing, all big boys toys , beer and food... so a 3 minute fling will will be one quarter of his (sex love) thinking time... the other 9 minutes are thinking about sex...wiping out the thoughts of love ......so to answer your question...yes it does help Jasper thank you, I now know how a mans mind works and I know men inside out lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
old rooster Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 It was once described to me thus: Women have sex to get close whereas men get close to have sex. As for who gets what out of a good session it should be both getting enjoyment but I can relate to the "lets be at it" school of thought for those times when romance perhaps isn't the driving factor. Having been married and divorced, also lived with several women (not all at the same time ) I can understand all the points of view being expressed. Personally speaking I don't think monogamy is always best for everybody, now that life expectancy is greatly increased. I did however get a bit of a telling off later by the current laydee having made that comment at a dinner party. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjimmer Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Can she cook and would she make a good parent for your children. As you get older, these things should get more important. If you're just interested in Wam-Bam-thank-you-Maam, go find a chinese brothel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLuke Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I think I would like to find a secluded beach, light some candles, say a prayer to the godess of love and peace and then get in touch with my inner self. I think crying a lot and reading poetry out loud would help. The very idea of getting smashed with my mates, popping a blue pill, doing two lines and booking out twin hookers with massive jugs fills me with dread and I really can't understand some men who have posted on this thread. Sleaze Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I know, I'm writing a poem about it all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gimlet Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 sorry mate, i don't have much advice to offer, it's a horrible place to be emotionally, i used to hate being alone, now i'm married i sometimes wish i was. go out, get wasted, get laid, get better. That's the heart of the trouble. One of the worst thing about a break up can be the sudden loneliness. I'm lucky, in a way. I'm a natural loner. I like being on my own, but most people, however much they might try to kid themselves, are the opposite. If you're not used to being alone it comes as a severe shock and together with the pain of the break up its a double blow that knocks you off your feet. Every miserable thought gets bigger, every solution seems further away and when you make a dumb decision there's no-one there to be the voice of reason and you lurch from one disaster to the next. Rely on the councel of your friends and avoid the booze. A state of shock is not helped by stirring alcohol induced depression and anxiety into the mix. I wouldn't go out trying to get laid either. That's all well and good if that's your usual lifestyle, but if it isn't and this break up was never something you wanted, playing that game now will screw up an already confused head and risks bringing on a tidal wave of guilt which can be utterly crippling and can stay with you for a very long time. Stay sober, don't make life more complicated than it is already, keep busy and if you're lonely go out and find constructive company that doesn't involve sex and booze. A day on the clays with some new friends sounds an excellent place to start. Time will pass and everything else will resolve itself one way or another. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLuke Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I know, I'm writing a poem about it all Will you be able to fit that in amongst all your charity work, flower arranging, and saving children's lives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al4x Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I'd lay money on it starting "Violets are blue" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gimlet Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Violets are blue Roses are white Any chance of a **** Cos I'm feeling ***** That'll do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zapp Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I think I would like to find a secluded beach, light some candles, say a prayer to the godess of love and peace and then get in touch with my inner self. I think crying a lot and reading poetry out loud would help. The very idea of getting smashed with my mates, popping a blue pill, doing two lines and booking out twin hookers with massive jugs fills me with dread and I really can't understand some men who have posted on this thread. I just laughed curry up behind one of my eyeballs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Holliday Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 (edited) Have a look at this, it may help - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GJR5NskcqQI I've even gone with the version with lyrics so you can sing along if you want to. I won't have it said I don't do empathy! For the record on some of the other posts, man has evolved to wake up in the morning, have sex with his woman (or a **** if he's a bachelor), chase his lunch and kill it, bring it back for his woman to cook while he stares in to the fire, eats then sleeps. That's it! Women don't understand this. They want us all to think like women which would mean we'd all be like Jeremy Vine, or gay. In all seriousness though, you will get over it and you will move on. it just doesn't feel like it at the moment. All the best, sincerely. Edited August 6, 2013 by Doc Holliday Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasper3 Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 No problem to small for the Pigeon watch agony uncle service Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digger Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Been there too, you will come through it. Avoid one of Mungs poems and you will be ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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