retromlc Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I have a dilema,with a brief outline my 15 yr old has been ill with cancer for the last year and part of the treatment involved having his knee replaced and he still requires a crutch to get around. He wants to go to a music festival aimed at the under 18's called "lounge at the farm" in kent and wants to stay/camp over with his friends,I don't feel comfortable with this and want to pick him up around 1 a.m and return him each morning.He thinks I'm over reacting as I feel that as there will be booze there and i will not be able to monitor his comsumption or protect him from others and the other people there if they get out of control.I keep thinking he might get wasted and injure himself or some other wasted Idiot might fall on him or jump on his tent and damage his knee etc. Obviously he says I'm ruining his life LOL. Am i being too protective and should I let him camp over? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cranfield Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Your lad has had a tough year and needs a break. Whatever he could get up to at the music festival, he could probably get up to any afternoon when you are not there. Trust him and hopefully you will be surprised. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
njc110381 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I voted yes, you should let him camp. Being picked up by daddy at 1am will "ruin his life" if all his friends are there with him and have been allowed to stay. It is aimed at under 18's after all, so there should be at least a basic level of supervision? You can over protect kids. When I was younger I was allowed free access to alcohol from an early age. My friend had to be in by 9pm and wasn't even trusted with a can of red bull! Now 15 years down the line he is just getting over a drug problem and I still don't drink that often. Because it was there it never appealed to me where as him - well as soon as he hit 18 he went nuts! Tell him he needs to talk to his friends and make it clear that any messing about could trash his knee. If they're any good at all they'll keep an eye on the lad anyway but you can't wrap him in cotton wool forever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ack-ack Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 He knows the implications of cacking over and hurting his leg, if he's up for it let him go for it. Its a civilised affair anyway. There might be a PW member there that can check in with him to make sure he's okay to give you peace of mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Curly87 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I would let him camp over, I feel at 15 he should be able to start making decisions on his own. Plus it is aimed at under 18s, im sure its not going to be a pill popping rave in an old quarry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thunderbird Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I would say let him, he's been through a lot and as Cranfield says, teenagers can and will do what they want to do anyway. Just have a chat with him first and maybe if he has a trustworthy mate, a word with him too...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harnser Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I would let the boy go . If you know his mates have a quiet word with them and explain to them that your son is still not 100% and would they keep their eye on him for you . If his mates are really his mates then they will help him out . Give the boy a break and good luck . Harnser Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Provided you like his mates and think they are sensible or at least there's one mate that will do the worrying and looking out for him, then let him go. Give him a mobile phone in case of emergencies and make sure he does the really dull thing of packing for every eventuality (headache, runnies, sun cream etc etc). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cowboy1403 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 let him go. there will be smoking there will be drinking and there will be drugs. he`ll get some good memories but the one that will stay with him the most is the one that you trusted him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beretta28g Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Make sure that he has a mobile phone, he will be fine, you could even ring him during the evening if you are really worried. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
triscrx Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 He will be well chuffed you trust him and let him go without flapping too much. It will make him feel good about himself and feel more independant. Some top advice above just make sure he knows he can call you if he needs you and remain on standby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daz2202 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Don't just say yeah you can go casually. Say to him yes you go but don't **** It all up and let you down. Tell him to enjoy it. Make sure there's plenty of credit on his phone and say you expect a text every 1.5 hours or so. He will be cool, no doubt have a few beers but he is 15. What was you doing at that age? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytim38 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 you have got to let him go, what would you have wanted to do at his age, and with all he has been through, its what he needs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperfection Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 He's had a rough trot recently and needs to interact with people his own age.I think you'll find he'll be more mature than the others there due to what he's gone through so let him go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malantone Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) Let the lad go, he`ll have more sense than you are giving him credit for, he knows his knee hurts and will protect it, his mates know his knee hurts and will look after him, think of the home coming, you`ll be the cool parents who took the lead off. Edited June 28, 2011 by malantone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebarrels Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Let him go mate hell be fine :good: BB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artschool Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Sounds like he deserves it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ferret Master Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 When I was that age I was getting royally bladdered with various members of this forum including the esteemed moderators at Bisley. All I'm trying to say is he's probably better than me and I survived so he will most likely be fine as long as you drum the basics into him. FM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaun4860 Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I voted let him go..... at some point you have to trust him. 4 people voted no but dont post and say why not shaun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39TDS Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 I read the title and thought ***? a 15 yr old shouldn't be at a music festival. Then I read the post and thought ***? why on Earth shouldn't he go. ps. I am an old *** and have a son of my own, so know where you are coming from. I still say let him go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
retromlc Posted June 28, 2011 Author Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 right lads with 90% in favour I think that gives me some perspective,when you're that close you only see the dark options,so I'm gonna let him go,hey you only live once eh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diceman Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 My immediate thought was no.Then I read the wisdom of the forum and I changed my mind. Cowboy puts it brilliantly. All the other advice is spot on. Life is an adventure and as I found out today, we won't all get our allocated four score and ten, so live every minute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albertan_J Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 let him go just warn him off the disco. biscuits ! A bit of trust goes a long way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sha Bu Le Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 Sound advice from the positive PW's let him go, he'll respect your trust. May get a little wobbly at some stage..........but who here hasn't Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sha Bu Le Posted June 28, 2011 Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 H'mmmmm recognise the handles of a lot who voted aye......don't recognise those who voted nay..just a thought?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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