Ricko Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Well done, good call Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onefulham Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 This is always going to bea personal judgment call, we all know there is a big difference between a telling off and abuse, the OP seemed to not jump to snap decision, I think he did the right thing. My Mother in law worked with Sussex Social Services and told tales of real abuse, thankfully very very rare, the sad fact she said was most of tr Social Workers were, yes over stretched, but useless and politically correct to the point of satire. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marine1980 Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 you wernt there to make the call, in this case the child is probably glad it was Keg and not you. If it was you and you did nothing, how would you have felt if in the next few days, the childs picture appeared in the papers as another dead child victim of abuse. *Edited to stop it becoming a slanging match* I think we have spoken to each other enough times now to know that you wouldn't get a slanging match from me! It's an open forum and it was my opinion mate! Not everyone is going to agree! Royal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulf Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 I think you did the right thing. About 10 years ago I saw something very similar occur in an opticians i worked in, I did nothing at the time as I was worried it would cause problems with my bosses. I wish i had done something to this day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keg Posted December 13, 2011 Author Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Thanks Kdubya, that's my point exactly. A sharp tap on the bum or back of the legs to calm a child down i have no issue with at all. This was a battering both physical and verbal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaun4860 Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 I think we have spoken to each other enough times now to know that you wouldn't get a slanging match from me! It's an open forum and it was my opinion mate! Not everyone is going to agree! Royal which is why it was edited, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keg Posted December 13, 2011 Author Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 (edited) I value everyone's opinion and one of my faults is i can be very self critical so good or bad, all input welcomed but as with all "events" whne you are there for real you have to make that decision and as somone has kindly pointed out, i tried not to jump to any conclusions, just concerned for the child. A few years ago, in my younger days, i would be slagging teh mother off on here as well, but i do not know what pressures or problems she is under so it's not right for me to judge her but she cannot take it out on the child. Edited December 13, 2011 by keg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maidment78 Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Should have ignored her, let it be, allowed it to escalate till the child was either hospitalised or killed. Only cowards ignore these situations. Well done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Good shot? Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 (edited) You did the right thing in the circumstance and you should not have any regrets,what ever the child did (if anything)could not have warranted that kind of punishment. Discipline is one thing but what you describe is not "discipline". Homes like that childs are the ones raising unruly children.It depresses me to see young innocent children being brought up in those surroundings with parents who do not have a clue.They themselves grow up to be the same as their parents through no fault of their own. I am sure many others see the same scenario and despair. Edited December 13, 2011 by Good shot? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fisherman Mike Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Well done you.. Im afraid some people just shouldnt be allowed to breed...The Mother was probably treated similarly by her Parents. You may just have saved Future generations of that family from suffering the same fate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imissalot Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 i must be the strictest father on here i chastise my 2 young lads as i did my oldest 2 ,and no one will ever tell me not to, saying that i would never ever crack them round the head and shout in the middle of the street, you did the right thing and they love me like i love them to bits Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scully Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Personally I think you did the right thing.I know kids can be very hard work at times but I can't/wont tolerate physical abuse from anybody.I'm not a fan of verbal or mental abuse either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
englishman-in-wales Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 In my opinion, you did the right thing buddy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linny Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Was the kid a 'normal' nice kid or a feral underclass type of kid.? what do you mean by an underclass kid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TGEvans Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Difficult situation. I manage a government led project working Young People with Emotional and Behavioural needs. I totally agree that you did the correct thing. Child Protection is something that we cannot turn a blind eye to. What this has done ir raise the issue with the police,this will then trigger off a chain throughout social services to offer support to the family, mother and child. Like someone above pointed out, if this was a public display, then I guarantee what goes on at home will be much more severe. I was "smacked" as a child, did me no harm at all. My wife and myself are expecting our first child any day now, and I believe that if the correct situation arises and he/she does not listen after repeat warnings/tellings then a "smack" will possibly be the last resort. This woman has no sense of reality and lost control. She herself needs help and support, this could be a positive thing. Always difficult though. years ago I tried stopping a man beating his wife and step daughter, I had to restrain him but when the police arrived both him and his wife told the police that I had assaulted him. luckily my neighbours were watching and backed me. Domestic abuse is one thing,when it goes public whole different level of rules apply. Sleep well, you were a good citizen.A smack is different to a hiding and abuse. T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonD Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 You did the right thing mate!!! Nice to know that there are some other decent folks around Jon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Don't beat yourself up keg you made a call on what you saw and in my opinion the right one, we can all second guess ourselves later but to do the right thing takes balls in the first instance, as for the mother might get help the child now certainly will and that is what matters, good call fellla. ATB figgy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reddan Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 You did the right thing, you have told what you saw and now the police will decide if it was right or wrong. You don't have to worry about it. Brave to stand up and do something rather than turn the other cheek. Dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silpig5 Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 yes you did !!!! says my mrs and me !!! if its like that in front of strangers whats it like at home behind doors . only down side is there is a small chance she will blame the little girl and it will start again . but hey , thats what the gallows are for ! good on ya . hope all is well for the girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
88b Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm another who thinks you did the right thing, at worst you wasted police time but probably in the long run you helped the woman and child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul223 Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm another who thinks you did the right thing, at worst you wasted police time but probably in the long run you helped the woman and child. Indeed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vole Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 (edited) If she was so unrestrained in hitting the kid then what is she like behind doors ? You sound a reasonable feller , if there WAS a problem then the Police can decide . You merely alerted them. Good call and very public spirited . Edited December 13, 2011 by vole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bad Monkey Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 You done good keg the world needs more people with balls! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadkill Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Don't even question what you did , you made the correct move 110% Maybe if you had turned a blind eye then we could be reading about another baby P case yet again .. Sleep well tonight knowing that you have saved that child from another beating Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pheasant Feeder Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 All it takes for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing. Today you did something, you put yourself out, in order to look out for the safety and welfare of someone who couldn't look out for themselves due to their age. You obviously was objective in your assesment of the situation as to whether it was firm chastisment or abuse, and whilst cautious of over reacting still thought it appropriate to call the police. Calling the police was the right thing to do, you avoided direct confrontation with a person who was in an irrational state of mind. You should be confident that you made the right decission, as it was probably a decission the friend wished she had had the courage to make some time ago. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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