wingnut Posted June 2, 2012 Report Share Posted June 2, 2012 Over the past 2 months my life has changed for the better and its all thanks to friends reunited. Its long story so it back,get the beers in and relax. It all began when my father finished his time in the RAF (1969) and we relocated to Newark on Trent in Nottinghamshire, while attending a school called bishop alexander i became very good friends with a young girl called Yvonne and it seemed we were inseperable right up to the age of 16 when something happened between us,we were both going out with some one else at the time, I was very Naieve when it came to women and didn't realise she had fallen head over heels for me,and because i didn't react to her advances she thought that i was not interested in her and within a few weeks she was out of my life, basically she disapeared and i never new where she went or what had happened to her. We both went our seperate ways for a considerable time, 30 years to be exact before i saw her name on friends reunited website, I sent her an e-mail asking her to contact me, 4 years went by before i recieved a reply, it turned out it was her daughter who spotted it and told her about it, when she saw it was from me she couldn't decide what to do as she didn't know how she would react after all that time apart. Eventually she sent me a message, we communicated via texts and e-mails for a while and she explained what had happened and why she felt she had to leave. Two months ago we met for the 1st time in 35 years, and we spent hours talking, we realised that we both still had very strong feelings for each other but were undecided as to what to do next, well we met a few more times and realised that we wanted to be together. There was however a major problem, we both had partners and had been married to them for a considerable time, we both felt that the right thing to do was to speak to each of them, explain the situation and take it from there. That was one of the hardest things i have ever had to do in my life was telling my wife of 22 years the whole story, she was extremely shocked at first, but realised that i had not set out to deliberately find someone else, to cut a long story short both of our partners have been very understanding about the situation and both of them now wish us the best for our futures. Two weeks ago we moved into a house and started our new lives together and have been extremely happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tam Posted June 2, 2012 Report Share Posted June 2, 2012 Hope all goes well for the future Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Budice Posted June 2, 2012 Report Share Posted June 2, 2012 Excellent mate. Very similar thing has happened to me and an ex of 27 years. We are now living together and neither of us has ever been happier, people say we have change dfor the better. I hope you'll both be as happy as we are Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
apache Posted June 2, 2012 Report Share Posted June 2, 2012 So, just for clarification, if you hadn't found this lass on the internet you would still be happily married to your wife? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wingnut Posted June 3, 2012 Author Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 So, just for clarification, if you hadn't found this lass on the internet you would still be happily married to your wife? Just for clarification, and not that its yours / any one elses business,but just to set the record straight, i had been considering leaving some months prior to this event taking place. I hope that clarifies the situation for all those that feel they need to know or judge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scuta Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Just for clarification, and not that its yours / any one elses business,but just to set the record straight, i had been considering leaving some months prior to this event taking place. I hope that clarifies the situation for all those that feel they need to know or judge. First of all, good luck to you both. Secondly, (& without any judgement of anyones actions on my part) you made it everyone's business the second you posted details of quite a personal event that envolved you, your new partner & both your ex's on a public forum, so expect opinions and what would appear to be not unreasonable questions....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-oXo- Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 First of all, good luck to you both. Secondly, (& without any judgement of anyones actions on my part) you made it everyone's business the second you posted details of quite a personal event that envolved you, your new partner & both your ex's on a public forum, so expect opinions and what would appear to be not unreasonable questions....... You did just post this on a public forum.. Good luck to you and the new misses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artschool Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Just for clarification, and not that its yours / any one elses business,but just to set the record straight, i had been considering leaving some months prior to this event taking place. I hope that clarifies the situation for all those that feel they need to know or judge. out of interest why post about it in a forum? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unapalomablanca Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Just for clarification, and not that its yours / any one elses business,but just to set the record straight, i had been considering leaving some months prior to this event taking place. I hope that clarifies the situation for all those that feel they need to know or judge. No ones judging or feeling they 'need to know'. The fact that you went on a public forum to gush about your happiness was bound to attract questions. By telling people, you invited it to be their business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
njc110381 Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Jesus fella, that's a huge step! To be fair I was going to ask the same question, posting it on here was kind of inviting us into it don't you think?! Now you've answered it though and I figured it would be somewhere along those lines. Nobody would walk from a happy marriage for an old flame and I was actually thinking more along the lines of well done for not doing the dirty on your ex - too many people would and I admire your honesty with her... Congratulations to both of you. Hope it all works out for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artschool Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 I bet her daughter regrets passing the message to her mum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tug Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 LOL at posting something personal in a public forum and then telling people to mind their own business because they've pointed out the negative effect of your actions on others. Insert image: not_getting_the_point_of_forums_facepalm.jpg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigstevouk Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Fair play mate, wish you all the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tug Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) You made it our business by posting it here. Did you have kids who thought their parents were in a stable relationship too? Edited June 3, 2012 by Tug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeonblasterian Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 If it works out for you that is fine.But if it does not i hope your wife has the sense to not have you back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muggins. Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Be honest mate. How has this affected the individual members of each family?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smig4373 Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) Just for clarification, and not that its yours / any one elses business,but just to set the record straight, i had been considering leaving some months prior to this event taking place. I hope that clarifies the situation for all those that feel they need to know or judge. That old chestnut...Blokes always say this 'after' the event... Hope your not looking through rose coloured spectacles and regret it in years to come...You've both broken up families and caused untold sadness to chase a 30yr old romance.... I think you've been a fool...Grass isnt always greener... If it doesn't work out,your both going to look and feel very stupid..,hope you can live with yourselves..You've probably devastated your respective childrens lifes..... Edited June 3, 2012 by smig4373 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLuke Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 You've probably devastated your respective childrens lifes..... Many many years ago I was on the child in this situation and smig is right - this is by far and away your biggest battle of the coming years Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyska Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 She was last seen going into a secret bunker. whilst driving someone elses lightweight landy, shooting hares at 704 yards with a rifle not available in this country. To the op, you have a lot of work ahead of you, I've been in a similar situation, but my new wife and I had already split from our ex's, we'd been 'passing ships' for years, both got married, she was actually my bestman, we're very happy now, but its taken 2 years for my kids to understand it, my nine year old is still bitter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zx10mike Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 well at least you went about it in a respectfull manner,and if your realy lucky she will be awesome in the sack.a good cook and wan't you to shoot more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kdubya Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Over the past 2 months my life has changed for the better and its all thanks to friends reunited. Its long story so it back,get the beers in and relax. It all began when my father finished his time in the RAF (1969) and we relocated to Newark on Trent in Nottinghamshire, while attending a school called bishop alexander i became very good friends with a young girl called Yvonne and it seemed we were inseperable right up to the age of 16 when something happened between us,we were both going out with some one else at the time, I was very Naieve when it came to women and didn't realise she had fallen head over heels for me,and because i didn't react to her advances she thought that i was not interested in her and within a few weeks she was out of my life, basically she disapeared and i never new where she went or what had happened to her. We both went our seperate ways for a considerable time, 30 years to be exact before i saw her name on friends reunited website, I sent her an e-mail asking her to contact me, 4 years went by before i recieved a reply, it turned out it was her daughter who spotted it and told her about it, when she saw it was from me she couldn't decide what to do as she didn't know how she would react after all that time apart. Eventually she sent me a message, we communicated via texts and e-mails for a while and she explained what had happened and why she felt she had to leave. Two months ago we met for the 1st time in 35 years, and we spent hours talking, we realised that we both still had very strong feelings for each other but were undecided as to what to do next, well we met a few more times and realised that we wanted to be together. There was however a major problem, we both had partners and had been married to them for a considerable time, we both felt that the right thing to do was to speak to each of them, explain the situation and take it from there. That was one of the hardest things i have ever had to do in my life was telling my wife of 22 years the whole story, she was extremely shocked at first, but realised that i had not set out to deliberately find someone else, to cut a long story short both of our partners have been very understanding about the situation and both of them now wish us the best for our futures. Two weeks ago we moved into a house and started our new lives together and have been extremely happy. best of luck to you, hard decision not taken lightly I am sure, but nature has a way of making you do whats right for you KW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
four-wheel-drive Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 Over the past 2 months my life has changed for the better and its all thanks to friends reunited. Its long story so it back,get the beers in and relax. It all began when my father finished his time in the RAF (1969) and we relocated to Newark on Trent in Nottinghamshire, while attending a school called bishop alexander i became very good friends with a young girl called Yvonne and it seemed we were inseperable right up to the age of 16 when something happened between us,we were both going out with some one else at the time, I was very Naieve when it came to women and didn't realise she had fallen head over heels for me,and because i didn't react to her advances she thought that i was not interested in her and within a few weeks she was out of my life, basically she disapeared and i never new where she went or what had happened to her. We both went our seperate ways for a considerable time, 30 years to be exact before i saw her name on friends reunited website, I sent her an e-mail asking her to contact me, 4 years went by before i recieved a reply, it turned out it was her daughter who spotted it and told her about it, when she saw it was from me she couldn't decide what to do as she didn't know how she would react after all that time apart. Eventually she sent me a message, we communicated via texts and e-mails for a while and she explained what had happened and why she felt she had to leave. Two months ago we met for the 1st time in 35 years, and we spent hours talking, we realised that we both still had very strong feelings for each other but were undecided as to what to do next, well we met a few more times and realised that we wanted to be together. There was however a major problem, we both had partners and had been married to them for a considerable time, we both felt that the right thing to do was to speak to each of them, explain the situation and take it from there. That was one of the hardest things i have ever had to do in my life was telling my wife of 22 years the whole story, she was extremely shocked at first, but realised that i had not set out to deliberately find someone else, to cut a long story short both of our partners have been very understanding about the situation and both of them now wish us the best for our futures. Two weeks ago we moved into a house and started our new lives together and have been extremely happy. I,m afraid I do not believe in fairy storeys were nobody gets hurt you and her may be happy but its doubtful in reality that the rest of the family are but as long as you are happy that is all that maters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catweazle Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 I'm sure there are many couples staying together "for the sake of the kids", but is it really good for them to see their parents in a loveless relationship ? Does it colour their own expectations ? If the OP has a chance of happiness then he should go for it, I know someone might get hurt, but he could have 50 years to live - could you really blame him for wanting to he happy for that time rather than just plodding on in a failed marriage ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smig4373 Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 I'm sure there are many couples staying together "for the sake of the kids", but is it really good for them to see their parents in a loveless relationship ? Does it colour their own expectations ? If the OP has a chance of happiness then he should go for it, I know someone might get hurt, but he could have 50 years to live - could you really blame him for wanting to he happy for that time rather than just plodding on in a failed marriage ? I suspect like most of these events that 'the failed marriage' card is only played after the event...An excuse to justify the action of following his cock into bed instead of his brain to sort out his previous relationship,if indeed it needed sorting... :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbuss Posted June 3, 2012 Report Share Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) I suspect like most of these events that 'the failed marriage' card is only played after the event...An excuse to justify the action of following his cock into bed instead of his brain to sort out his previous relationship,if indeed it needed sorting... :/ Do you know him or any of the other people involved? That's a pretty judgemental post based on some very flimsy evidence. Give the bloke a break Yes he invited comments by posting this on here, but that doesn't mean it's open season for the nasty personal digs Edited June 3, 2012 by Blunderbuss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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