fortune Posted June 1, 2011 Report Share Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) There have been many posts stating, put your foot down and tell her who's boss. The fundamental problem is that there is a difference of opinion between you and her. Marriage or a partnership is a two way street of give and take that is a balance. What sort of relationship is it that ones opinion or wants are subjugated for any length of time? A bloke that lives over the road carried on like that for thirty-eight years and one day he came home to find his wife packed up her stuff and waiting for him. She told him that he was on his own and she was off. She didnt want anything from the home or anything of his and was not in the game of turning the family against him. There was a world out there and she was off to see it and there was no place for him. He was on his own. He has been on his own for probably ten years now and is a right miserable so & so. None of his kids ever come to see him, hes lost all of his mates and basically hes waiting for the end of the conveyor belt. Although you have been together for some years she may be using this as a way of trying to get out of being with you by picking something that she knows is of importance to you. If you say clear off then you have done her dirty work for he and you look the swine. OR if you give in then she has mental control over you and can cruelly destroy you to an ineffective slave. Perhaps you would be able to wash her lovers car for him one day. Have a good think about it and look elsewhere because there is a serious fault line here waiting to explode. Edited June 1, 2011 by fortune Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hushpower Posted June 1, 2011 Report Share Posted June 1, 2011 Thats more or less what i was about to say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Highlander Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 So come on, this post has been ongoing for a couple of days now...tell us do you still have your guns or the girlfriend? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian750 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 I'm really interested to know, what has she sacrificed in all of this? No guns because she says so, no motorbike due to cash shortage? Has she actually stopped doing something she enjoys because 'it's against your principles', or to save some cash? Sorry to be blunt here mate, but she sounds like a right selfish cow on the strength of what we know and to be honest the control whore post doesn't sound too far off to me. I once had a girlfriend who started to moan that I spent too much time at the stables with my horse and not with her. I told her to **** off, the horse was there before she was, the horse needed looking after and that's that! I just don't understand why someone would want to change a fundamental part of someones life, do that and they'll cease to be the person they were attracted to in the first place. Good luck with it mate, it's a **** situation if you really like the girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fo5ter Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 (edited) I wish you all the best of luck mate, what a **** situation to have to be in and I know nobody here envies your position! The only rule we have in our house is "No shooting in the house" which I think is quite a reasonable request! Edited June 2, 2011 by fo5ter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
100milesaway Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Well the motorbike has to go due to a cash shortage :look: and I do love my Bandit as for the drinking i'm a light weight with only one kidney so getting plaseterd is a rare occasion but I am a marvolous drunk when I've had a few (arn't we all ) Jesus your bike as well, :blink: I can't imagine a world with no bikes in the garage and guns in the cabinet. I'm afraid she would have to go. In our lives we all need Passion and I would imagine your lass doesn't know what that word means.I don't know who would be more upset in our house if either of us had to forgo ours. Your going to need alot of luck. from Auntie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chally2 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Have you dumped her yet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kent Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 You know weomen spend thier whole lives trying to change us, if and when they finally sucseed they turn round and say "your not the man i met all those years ago" No kidding i hope he had the common scence to dump her or straighten her up or he is dooooomed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytim38 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 I think you should have enough info from here to tell her that its time she found someone more suitable that she can control.......go and find someone who is not a control freak or be prepared for a life of misery................just what I would do, its up to you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marine1980 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Only ones with guns ha! First we let women drive cars, now we give them guns? Bloody hell what ever next! Royal PS ive just legged it behind the sofa to hide from the back lash!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alanl50 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 DUMP HER!! She is not worth !! My first missus was anti-gun, she was actually anti everything, staunch member of the CND, anti military, anti this anti that but put up with it until 12 years later when she had an affair and we split. Acromonius seperation was an understatement, the longest 2,1/2 years of my life. There was nothing she didnt try, every thing they know you like becomes their target. I REPEAT SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. Diane and I have been together 15 years and totally supports my hobby helping me funding it sometimes, she insisted on paying half for one of my guns, bought me a brand new quad bike for last christmas, in 2009 I had double major shoulder surgery and I was off work for 6,1/2 months when I had healed enough she would help me set up my hides, carrying every thing, I was shooting one armed (good arm)she would sort out whatever I shot and take to the game dealer for me and so much more. I would rather be pennyless and with her than lose her IM lucky to have found her Alan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WelshLamb Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 First we let women drive cars, now we give them guns? Bloody hell what ever next! Royal PS ive just legged it behind the sofa to hide from the back lash!!!!! Richy P ?? :yp: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nipper Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 There have been many posts stating, “put your foot down” and “tell her who's boss”. The fundamental problem is that there is a difference of opinion between you and her. Marriage or a partnership is a two way street of give and take that is a balance. What sort of relationship is it that ones opinion or wants are subjugated for any length of time? A bloke that lives over the road carried on like that for thirty-eight years and one day he came home to find his wife packed up her stuff and waiting for him. She told him that he was on his own and she was off. She didn’t want anything from the home or anything of his and was not in the game of turning the family against him. There was a world out there and she was off to see it and there was no place for him. He was on his own. He has been on his own for probably ten years now and is a right miserable so & so. None of his kids ever come to see him, he’s lost all of his mates and basically he’s waiting for the end of the conveyor belt. Although you have been together for some years she may be using this as a way of trying to get out of being with you by picking something that she knows is of importance to you. If you say clear off then you have done her dirty work for he and you look the swine. OR if you give in then she has mental control over you and can cruelly destroy you to an ineffective slave. Perhaps you would be able to wash her lovers car for him one day. Have a good think about it and look elsewhere because there is a serious fault line here waiting to explode. I spent 5 years with the same kind of demands! There is more to this than just a gun in the house ! Think very hard about all of this .Could be a nightmare :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daz2202 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Come on mr kidney, You posted your prob on here, ask us for advice, then don't come back to us when you get good advice. It's pretty unanimous from all of us . So what you doing or done about it ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlistairB Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Come on mr kidney, You posted your prob on here, ask us for advice, then don't come back to us when you get good advice. It's pretty unanimous from all of us . So what you doing or done about it ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxnet22 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 you are who you are mate.shootings in ya bloood man n ya cant do anything about it because if you give it up it will eat ya away.she got to accept who you are and what you do.you both got to get this sorted now otherwise it will cause a lot of problems.bt stick to your guns mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gsm1968 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 you are who you are mate.shootings in ya bloood man n ya cant do anything about it because if you give it up it will eat ya away.she got to accept who you are and what you do.you both got to get this sorted now otherwise it will cause a lot of problems.bt stick to your guns mate. She has to see you as a package deal, guns and all! If she thinks she can change you into something her freinds will approve of, you're on a one way ticket. One day you will wake up to the realization you were never what she wanted, just what she thought she could work with. All this talk of telling her the law and storage arrangements is just pants.! Don't under any circumstances try to justify youself to her. You are what you are, and she must decide what she wants. This sounds like a "I've been there" rant, but it isn't. I am lucky enough to have a wife who enjoys it when I enjoy my hobby. She also make a cracking Venison and ale pie I have thanked her with a nice Silver pigeon 20br, that she shoots OK.(not as good as me tho') Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marine1980 Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 Richy P ?? :yp: I didn't really understand that? But to be honest I was expecting a bit more hassle than that! Royal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike525steel Posted June 2, 2011 Report Share Posted June 2, 2011 The problem here is that people have been brought up to think of guns as being wrong/dangerous/weapons of mass destruction ETC!!!!!!. this is through ignorance and a lifetime of packaged and tinned food amongst many other traits that go with the sheltered life readily available on the new housing estates during the 60's 70's 80's 90's and indeed right up to the current day. In most peoples opinions guns are for shooting people with and nothing elseand just available to criminals and the army. however i did have this problem briefly with my missus and this is how i tackeled it firstly i explained that i refused to move into a house that contained any knifes or sharp objects of any kind also any heavy blunt objects,chemicals,stair cases etc etc etc basically anything that could be used as a weapon in any circumstances. she quite rightly said that this was ridiculous. To which i explained it was just as ridiculous as her stigma regarding guns the truth is anything can be dangerous in the wrong hands and if she is supposed to be moving in with you then she should trust that you are responsible enough to own guns for there intended purpose. and dont take her shooting with you (youve got to have some me time sometime)<-<-<-<-<-please dont harrang me for this comment its only a joke and i know you probably really like going shooting with the missus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kidney505 Posted June 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 So come on, this post has been ongoing for a couple of days now...tell us do you still have your guns or the girlfriend? Still got both at the min I hav'nt been able to have a good talk with her for a few days...her final uni exam is next week and I'm not cruel enough to start something that could potentially split us up a week before her finals so hey whats another week? At the end of the day the guns arn't going whatever happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D_No Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 Still got both at the min I hav'nt been able to have a good talk with her for a few days...her final uni exam is next week and I'm not cruel enough to start something that could potentially split us up a week before her finals so hey whats another week? At the end of the day the guns arn't going whatever happens. too right son! she will come round! mine did eventually D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KFC Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 Still got both at the min I hav'nt been able to have a good talk with her for a few days...her final uni exam is next week and I'm not cruel enough to start something that could potentially split us up a week before her finals so hey whats another week? At the end of the day the guns arn't going whatever happens. She could never accuse you of not caring about her feelings. Well done that man, I'm sure things will work out for you. Having been through all kinds of hell on earth over the years, including divorce, loss of and seperation from children, one thing has always stood me in good stead "To thine own self be true" Best wishes KFC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ricko Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 My GF happily has her own air-rifle and target pistol that she stoores at mine, but we still haven't moved in together after more than 5 years. She doesn't mind the shotguns being stored away, however she flinchs like mad at the clayground every time there is a shot fired!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boromir Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 What would she do if you took something that she likes away from her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39TDS Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 She could never accuse you of not caring about her feelings. Well done that man, I'm sure things will work out for you. Having been through all kinds of hell on earth over the years, including divorce, loss of and seperation from children, one thing has always stood me in good stead "To thine own self be true" Best wishes KFC Damned good advice, it has worked well for me through similar situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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