TJ91 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) What would call a 'normal' age gap between male n female in a relationship? My sister of 20years has started seeing a bloke of 43years..seein him for 2months (aparently) n is nw moving in with him. He has a daughter just a few years younger than her.. Am I the only 1 who thinks this is wrong in so many ways?? Yes..i know to expect the **** taking and stupid comments but honest answers would be appreciated Edited February 15, 2013 by TJ91 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TIGHTCHOKE Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Am I the only 1 who thinks this is wrong in so many ways?? YES! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebarrels Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) Im 46 you got any photos of your sis anyway mate on a more serious note,as long as shes happy and he treats her well I don't see that big a problem and when hes tucked up in bed your sis can go clubbing with his daughter BB Edited February 15, 2013 by Bluebarrels Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pimpkiller Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 No, perv alert perv alert! and 2 months is nothing. I remember a study not long ago that said the ideal age difference is a man 5 years older than partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henry90 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 It is wrong but if you say out ull be the bad one its best to keep out off it mate and bite your Tung Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debaser Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Complicated question. If she's a mature 20 year old, then I suppose good luck to her and live and let live, let her make her own choices and decisions in life and learn by them. If she acts young and she's impressionable then research it and try to give her advice, if she'll listen to it. By 20 I had my own flat and mortgage, worked full time and was in the TA, if anyone tried to tell me how to conduct my private life I would have told then to F off. ATB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ordnance Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Am I the only 1 who thinks this is wrong in so many ways?? What ways did you have in mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rapid rich Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Good on him, hope when I'm 43 I still have a chance with a 20 year old Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasper3 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 the main question is....... is she happy ? they are both consenting adults Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bi9johnny Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 I don't see a problem seriously as long as they are good to each other my mate is 16 years younger than his mrs and I am several years younger than mine. ********************************************************** The other thing is what's it got to do with you realistically your her brother not her keeper......IMHO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TJ91 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 I just wanted to hear others opinions. Curious. I won't be sayin anything. Age gap or not..2mnths isn't very long in my eyes. I never said I was her keeper, never implied it. She can do what she wants. I aren't going to try stop her. And as for the maturity comment...she spends 90% of her time in a mood like a stroppy teenager .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overandunder2012 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 And as for the maturity comment...she spends 90% of her time in a mood like a stroppy teenager .. dont worry us old guys cant live with that for long it should fizzle out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bleeh Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 There's a eight year cap between me and the miss. We've been going out for 4 years now. She's the elder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossy835 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 well when he is old, she can still go clubbing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 aslong as happy thats the main thing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mk1 Man Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Get off wi his mum....see how he likes it...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul T Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 He might be a young 43 now, but by the time your sis gets to a fit and active 35 he'll be nigh on 60. I doubt it will have the same appeal for her then that it has now. Same goes for all age differences - they only really work until major differences become apparent. Don't worry about it - it won't last. Both my ex and current wives are older than me, but that said, I fancy a younger one next time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diceman Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 I believe the 'decency' rule is half your age plus 7. So at 43 he should be limiting himself to 28 year olds and above. But then again, I am 45 and reckon I am still in with a chance with 21 year old Kate Upton http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2012_swimsuit/models/kate-upton/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zx10mike Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 you sound a bit jelous and thats worse if you ask me good luck to them both better than a young **** treating her badly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daveo26 Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 Don't worry about it mate, couple of years tops and she will see sense. I shacked up with a woman 20 years my senior. It was fantastic absolutely fantastic for a while then one day I woke up and thought *** am I doing........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willxx Posted February 15, 2013 Report Share Posted February 15, 2013 2 months is quick - that bit I'd agree friend of mine started seeing a 22yo after his wife died, he was 44(ish) - now been married for 7 years or so and happy as the proverbial pig in ... wish i could get a trade in for a model half my age!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pastiebap Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 I personally think age gaps like that are a bit weird, especially when one partner is old enough to be the others parent. Wonder how he would take it if one of his mate started banging his daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scottoj18 Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 I find this odd .. I'm 23 so I'm commenting on this and the person I could be with in 20 years time has not been born yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sprackles Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 Been there, got the T shirt. Got with a 24 year old when I was 44. She moved in and we had some good times but then she started asking not to tell her mates my real age. Wanted me to dye my hair when the first grey appeared and so the decline began. We have split now but then I always expected it to. Great time while it lasted though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UGM Posted February 16, 2013 Report Share Posted February 16, 2013 I am 6 years older than my Mrs, my father was 10 years older than my mother. But they were 36 and 26 when they got together. I always found it strange when a man gets together with a girl if similar age to his own kids. I mean not just the thinking if when she's 40 he will be 63 If they have kids, say when she is 25 and he's 48. By the time that the child is 18 he will be 66 if he's not croked it. If its a boy then he'd be 60 when the boy is 12 and looking to do all sports like football so what's he realistically going to be able to do? I know you get many active older people. I mention that as my father was 39 when I was born and 43 when my youngest brother was born, he was never fit enough do do all those things and died at 64 when my youngest brother was only 21. But him being that bit older even by 10 years meant a harder life for my mother being that as kids she had to try and do all the things he was too old for. That's the type of thing your sister needs to consider. To me what can a 43year old have in common with a 20 year old. It sounds great for us guys of course but in reality she's yet to live her life and he's already lived his ( he's likely in the beginning of a mid life crisis and can't afford a Porsche) I'm only 35 but would have nothing in common with a 20 year old in all honesty and any normal 43 years I know definitely wouldn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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