Laird Lugton Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Have any of you with children not given a present from Santa? Our 5 year old's behaviour has been off the scale this year with a cracked door frame and other bits of damage to the house so we've decided to put a letter from Santa saying due to this years behaviour Santa decided not to leave a present... Anyone done something similar? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootgun Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 i wouldn't do that to my daughter... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billytheghillie Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 i wouldn't do that to my daughter... he comes from Edinburgh way, they are known for there tightness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laird Lugton Posted December 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 i wouldn't do that to my daughter... I think you're soft Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spinach Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Why use Santa as the scapegoat . Better going down the route of family therapy, GP can help. Why not give her something with an explanation that your all going to make changes and if things don't improve you won't be able to reward bad behaviour next year. John. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beerdeor Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Seems very harsh to me maybe try making a video for them to watch to get your point across I did this with my grandson and he really enjoyed it Good luck Jim http://www.portablenorthpole.com/home Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootgun Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 I think you're soft I'm not, you're harsh. There are many other ways to discipline a child, not to take the whole meaning of Christmas away from him.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Highbird70 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Have any of you with children not given a present from Santa? Our 5 year old's behaviour has been off the scale this year with a cracked door frame and other bits of damage to the house so we've decided to put a letter from Santa saying due to this years behaviour Santa decided not to leave a present... Anyone done something similar? Are you widing us up.....what type of father would not give a present for Christmas to a 5 year old, with children...especially at that age, there is many ways for teaching them good behaviour, but to ruin his Christmas its the lowest thing to do to a child. Some people don't deserve to be parents....don't become one of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laird Lugton Posted December 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Some people don't deserve to be parents....don't become one of them. You maybe right..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuzzypigeon Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Personally all the presents my kids get are from Santa, when they grow up they will know who they were really from, I just take their things away from them when required I.E. If they are bad one day, no story before bed or no tv, no iPod, no iPad, no horse riding, etc etc they soon change their mood or attitude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delburt0 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) Reading the post twice (how does a 5 yr old crack a door frame) What did you buy her last yr a hammer , parent her don't punish her !!! My daughter is 10 this yr and only just started questioning the Santa buisness , I'm happy me and my family have done so much over the yrs to make it last this long. Last year I got a horseshoe left it in the garden moved the playhouse and put some manure on the patio and told my daughter to open the patio curtains her face was a picture when she noticed reindeer poo to me that's a kids Christmas , even her brother at 12 helps us every year and has never told her .... Edited December 15, 2013 by delburt0 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laird Lugton Posted December 15, 2013 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Probably bad parenting as one poster has suggested so I will bow out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delburt0 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Probably bad parenting as one poster has suggested so I will bow out.just modified post bit strong as not a bad parent just maybe a tiny room for improvement it's a special time of yr just make her appreciate it..Atb delburt0. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catweazle Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 It sounds a bit harsh to me, kids don't get the "long picture", they are all emotion and anger and love at the same time. A punishment should be instant and quickly forgotten, and remember it's always the behaviour that was bad not the child. "that's bad behaviour, no sweets today", instead of "you're a bad child, no presents this Christmas". My wife taught me how to be a parent when my teenage boys were playing up, she was firm and fair when I was getting alternately angry and remote. I'll always be grateful for that, she made two great lads, and even now they still phone her up for a chat most days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markr Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 we've had my grandson overnight, everytime he did something naughty he did something really nice so I guess he's edging his bets lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delburt0 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Playstations are the best invention ever made , remove this from the equation and the world is your oyster Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davyo Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) Don't do it mate he's just a kid,don't spoil his day.If you do the guilt will eat away at you.My 14 yr old has been a right hormonal tit all year but he will still get spoilt.I was 14 once. Edited December 15, 2013 by Davyo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ehb102 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Have any of you with children not given a present from Santa? Our 5 year old's behaviour has been off the scale this year with a cracked door frame and other bits of damage to the house so we've decided to put a letter from Santa saying due to this years behaviour Santa decided not to leave a present... Anyone done something similar? My god son is told that Santa starts with a sack of presents for you and every time you are naughty some come out. Really, a five year old is too young to fully get cause and effect. I understand that he must be driving you crackers, but I think punishment by Santa at a time when he's still in need of unconditional love and acceptance is going a bit far. By all means slim down the stocking, but please don't cut him off entirely. He simply won't understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kdubya Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Don't do it mate he's just a kid,don't spoil his day.If you do the guilt will eat away at you.My 14 yr old has been a right hormonal tit all year but he will still get spoilt.I was 14 once. and there lies the answer, we seemingly forget we were also little ***** once. KW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thunderbird Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 take the whole meaning of Christmas away from him.... Presents, whilst I know being very important to a five year old (owning one myself), are by no means the 'whole meaning of Christmas' dude... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootgun Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Presents, whilst I know being very important to a five year old (owning one myself), are by no means the 'whole meaning of Christmas' dude... there are for a 5 years old dude... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmooney Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 My brother in law got nothing but a lump of coal one year when he was 9 I think. He's 40 now and his head is still a bit twisted come Christmas. I wouldn't do that, especially to a child who is still below the age of reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Geordie Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Can I respectfully ask WHY your child has been out of control? My lad has had his moments, and I turned to physical diciplin. I regretted it the moment I smacked him. I had came from a household ruled by an iron fist. I misbehaved and I got a brass belt buckle welted off my *****. I vowed NEVER to follow on that tradition. I used a slap on the rear ONCE and the look in His eyes made me feel terrible. It.was a look to say "I placed all my trust in you, and you HIT me" I cried for weeks racked with guilt. From then I would raise my voice when he stepped out of line and it SEEMED to work. Not for long. Don't get me wrong! He isn't in bother just once or.twice a year of your lucky. I grounded him a few times. Then read about forms of diciplin being meaningless too far after the incident. I now sit with him or go for a walk. We sit and TALK about WHY and WHAT makes him misbehave or angry. We come to mutual agreements. In short I treat him as an equal and VALUE his opinion. We now get on like a house on fire for the first time ever. Does your Child need to spill their heart out to someone? Do they need a channel for agression? Do they beed a parent that just LISTENS? I have had my eyes opened, and I am glad.it happened! It has brought us closer together, where before I was pushing him away! If you have other kids, then you CANT not give one something! Even if they have been bad. Obviously don't spoil him, but don't shun him either as it will end up agrivating the problem. Sit.him down.and have a good heaet to heart. Express your concerns and ask hin for HIS side.of the argument. Don't interupt him. Let him finish! Then use both sides as constructive and build something from it. I hope you manage to.sort it out! ATB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBW Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 Bit harsh for a wee kid..... They'd never forget something like that, remember this might be the person who gets to choose to pull the plug on you one day or be the one who chooses your nursing home lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mossy835 Posted December 15, 2013 Report Share Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) when my kids were young no matter what they did, xmas is xmas, Edited December 15, 2013 by mossy835 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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