figgy Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Team Tractor be glad that your sons step dad is willing to take on the role and support your son in the things he does. I feel for that you missed out and that it should have been you to take him. I have seen so many times where the step dad is awful to the kids of the woman he he has chosen to be with. A few friends of mine get along with the other bloke and are happy that they are a good deputy dad. Make arrangements in plenty of time for next time or whichever big event you want to take your son to. Chin up your son will have been proud to do his bit today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I do admit he's a good step dad and better than she is a mother. He's been a mate for 7-8 years easily but it does get you down when I can't even take my own son . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 We do go to the beach on holiday at least 10 times a year be it a day trip or week away. I've tried getting him into shooting but he would rather play with step dad doing that :( in the garden . I took him to fruit loops range day recently and he moaned until we came home . He's happier playing on his iPad because that's all he does at home with his mum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adge Cutler Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 +1 -1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digger Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I was meant to have my daughter all day and tonight but she wanted to go back to her mum's. It sucks mate but I was at the stage she didn't want to go back there and that's as bad. Your the dad, the other guy is a substitute Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKPoacher Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 +1 +2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mel b3 Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 i feel for you nath , it must be very hard at times mate. try to focus on the future , you have lots of good times to come , as your kids get older theyll be free to come and visit whenever they want. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sitsinhedges Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 +2 +3. It didn't take long after your return to go back to what made you leave the other times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adge Cutler Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 +2 Seuls les moutons suivent les moutons +3. It didn't take long after your return to go back to what made you leave the other times. Even Farage got another chance...! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKPoacher Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Seuls les moutons suivent les moutons Even Farage got another chance...! Farage knew when to leave but was dragged back by popular opinion. You however............................... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adge Cutler Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 (edited) Farage knew when to leave but was dragged back by popular opinion. You however............................... off track.. I apologised to TT by PM he knows my post was TIC and not meant to be insulting. Edited November 13, 2016 by Adge Cutler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilksy II Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I don't think your entitled to air your opinion about politics on a thread about not seeing your kids you *****! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adge Cutler Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I don't think your entitled to air your opinion about politics on a thread about not seeing your kids you **** No need for that.. I said it was off track. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adge Cutler Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 He's pmd me just to check I knew he was joking . TT didn't take offence at my post lets just leave it at that shall we.. If you want to insult me do it by PM Wilksie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 i feel for you nath , it must be very hard at times mate. try to focus on the future , you have lots of good times to come , as your kids get older theyll be free to come and visit whenever they want. . Plus they only live 250 yards away and have to walk past mine to school. I've told them both that they can have a key when they're old enough. It's like now, I'd love to call him up and say well done but will be ignored or moaned at by the mother. I'll have to wait until 6 tomorrow . I was meant to have my daughter all day and tonight but she wanted to go back to her mum's. It sucks mate but I was at the stage she didn't want to go back there and that's as bad. Your the dad, the other guy is a substitute cheers My mates going through it too. He said the kids don't know how heartbreaking it is to say " I'll stop at mums " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oowee Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Its tough no doubt about it. Parents night at school gets even harder. I looked at it this way. I wanted my kids to be happy with mum and her relationship to be happy. I wanted the step dad to care about my kids. Kids are not here for our pleasure, rather we are here for them. Life is hard enough for them and my job was to be there for them when they needed me. Mine came out the other side stronger brighter and more confident. They have not only their dad but a step dad as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveboy Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I've been through this and the older he gets the easier it will be. When he gets his own mobile phone you will be able to speak to him whenever you want (mine started ringing me every day) At about 14 or 15 he will tell the stepdad "you're not my dad and you can't tell me what to do" (I had this with my step daughter) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digger Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 it is heartbreaking..but. There gave been plenty of times when she's wanted to be here not there. I loathe my ex but was once told never hate your ex more than you love your children. I live one day at a time, if little one wants to be here then great. If not then whilst it saddens me I understand. Living on my own ( and knowing I will til the day I pass ) makes her absence harder but that's life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyska Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 it is heartbreaking..but. There gave been plenty of times when she's wanted to be here not there. I loathe my ex but was once told never hate your ex more than you love your children. I live one day at a time, if little one wants to be here then great. If not then whilst it saddens me I understand. Living on my own ( and knowing I will til the day I pass ) makes her absence harder but that's life. It is, I had a hard road when me and the ex split, 4 year old daughter, I've made it my life mission to be stoic, diplomatic and steady, my daughter now 14 has spent more time with me, as I'm constant, no bitching, which she's had from the stories told of the ex's merry men, all of whom have been there and left. I'm her constant, unbiased, no matter what, come to father. Don't ever lose that touch with your child, you are hers as much as she is yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshwarrior Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Nath chin up give us a ring if we can help at all. Daf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Nath chin up give us a ring if we can help at all. Daf I know that dude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Geordie Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Yeah! Not a nice feeling when someone steals your thunder! I remember Chris' mum buying his affections with sweets etc, and he would of course, not shut up about his mum each time he returned home! But over the years he became very wise to it! One time I dropped him off for a week so I could have a boys holiday! I had to come home early! Apparently he kept asking "when is dad back" and it ******her off Your kids know YOUR their Dad! And more to the point, you know that they are YOURS All the best! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I witnessed the other day in the arcades a lad calling his step dad a donkey nosed stunt ( with a C) and the mother stood there looking. I've demanded that my kids treat him right and if I'm honest I'm happy he's there and wouldn't want any other guy there. My only problem is I just feel I'm missing out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted November 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 Yeah! Not a nice feeling when someone steals your thunder! All the best! That's how I'm feeling Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Bb Posted November 13, 2016 Report Share Posted November 13, 2016 I'm her constant, unbiased, no matter what, come to father. Don't ever lose that touch with your child, you are hers as much as she is yours. Kyska, I salute you. Wonderful advice, even for those of us who still "have" their daughters/children. Mine's 35 and still comes back to Dad even though happily married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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