jayDT10 Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Don't give him anymore thought. He prob forgot you and your kindness within 10 mins of receiving the ring. To do a deed like you did does gave a great feel good factor about so don't let an ungrateful person take it away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ben0850 Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Money is not a measure of manners or decency. The only thing important in his life is himself, I'm with Cranfield, ring the Mrs and if like me you're probably more bothered about the mechanic then buy him a 20 quid slab of beer and give him a big man hug! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
armsid Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 he sounds like a right d----h----.i bet he would have done the opposite to you and said nowt that is probably how he made his money but your mind is clear and i would have done same as you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted August 25, 2015 Author Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 (edited) The thing is this. How plausible is it that the true owner of the ring hasn't contacted the mechanic to say thank you? Following on, my concern is that the mechanic thinks I've had it away. So, using the forum as a sounding board I've decided I'm going to drop the Mrs a line and just send her a copy of the texts and correspondence (and BCC in the mechanic). Obviously the time for doing the right thing has long passed and so ill ask her just to confirm to the mechanic by email or text that she has safe receipt of the ring so as to ensure that the mechanic knows that I sent the ring and did not keep it. That ought to press the right buttons if buttons are capable of being pressed. Edited August 25, 2015 by Mungler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malkiserow Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Mung, have you considered informing the mechanics boss at the garage about what a decent upright fella he is. It may do the mechanic more good than anything else now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grrclark Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Not being disrespectful Mungler, why does it matter? The mechanic didn't own the ring or have any sort of legitimate claim on it so he did the right thing by not stealing it, but that's all. What you're really saying is thanks for not being a thief. The mechanic had no right or claim to the ring so why go to such length so he knows you didn't pocket it? I'm not being disrespectful, but genuinely puzzled why you feel the need to go to such length to prove you're not a thief to someone you want to celebrate for not being a thief too. Both of you know you're not thieves so why the need for self affirmination that involves potential meddling in a strangers relationship? I totally understand wanting the ill mannered oaf to say thanks originally, but that gesture long since withered. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave-G Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 I'd want to try and establish that I had in turn passed it on just to dispel any nagging thoughts that I had kept or sold it, and Cranfields post is the way to do it IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mungler Posted August 26, 2015 Author Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Not being disrespectful Mungler, why does it matter? I have actually been asking myself the same question - in my line of work I have a very thick skin and not much gets up my nose at all. Also, as you say the law requires the item to be delivered up (else it's theft by finding) and so the law actually requires everyone to do the right thing and regardless. Following on, I think what this boils down to is that this has actually just got up my nose plain and simple Also, I'm pretty good at working out 'how stuff ends up' and I just didn't foresee this set off circumstances - I'm actually kicking myself for not telling the bloke to collect the ring in person from the mechanic - that would have ticked all the boxes. Lessons learned etc. I'll let you know how this one pans out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hamster Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 I have actually been asking myself the same question - in my line of work I have a very thick skin and not much gets up my nose at all. Also, as you say the law requires the item to be delivered up (else it's theft by finding) and so the law actually requires everyone to do the right thing and regardless. Following on, I think what this boils down to is that this has actually just got up my nose plain and simple Also, I'm pretty good at working out 'how stuff ends up' and I just didn't foresee this set off circumstances - I'm actually kicking myself for not telling the bloke to collect the ring in person from the mechanic - that would have ticked all the boxes. Lessons learned etc. I'll let you know how this one pans out Exactly right. (grrclark) is spot on I'm afraid, the mechanic and you do deserve a thank you but potentially kicking up an almighty row in someone else's household will easily negate that gesture of good will. Just change the names a tiny bit and stick it on FaceBook, it'll go viral before us lot have figured out a way of calming your nerves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norfolk dumpling Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 I found a wallet on the beach (Walberswick, Suffolk) a couple of years back. Full of cash and cards and a golf membership card. After a couple of phone calls to his golf club he rang me back and at the handover, where he was oh so pleased he had got the lot back intact, and despite my refusal to accept any reward he handed me 2 bottles of nice wine and tucked £20 in my sons pocket. The reverse happened a few years ago and I didnt even get a thanks. Its something you just do and take your chances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rodp Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Not being disrespectful Mungler, why does it matter? It does matter though, for several reasons. One of course is the fact that a lot of mechanics would have just kept the ring, another is that the buyer of the car could have just kept the ring. It's only fair for one to prove to the other that he didn't illegally benefit from the others honesty. Plus the fact, when sorted Mungler will have a certain rapport with that mechanic for ever, and that can't be a bad thing. Years ago, when I worked on the trucks, one certain haulier always used to give me a £20 note when I recovered one of his trucks in just to drop the trailer in the yard and the unit in the garage. That haulier always had his trucks looked after, never a scratch. It's just human nature. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaun4860 Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 . One of course is the fact that a lot of mechanics would have just kept the ring. A bit harsh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sako751sg Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Not being disrespectful Mungler, why does it matter? The mechanic didn't own the ring or have any sort of legitimate claim on it so he did the right thing by not stealing it, but that's all. What you're really saying is thanks for not being a thief. The mechanic had no right or claim to the ring so why go to such length so he knows you didn't pocket it? I'm not being disrespectful, but genuinely puzzled why you feel the need to go to such length to prove you're not a thief to someone you want to celebrate for not being a thief too. Both of you know you're not thieves so why the need for self affirmination that involves potential meddling in a strangers relationship? I totally understand wanting the ill mannered oaf to say thanks originally, but that gesture long since withered. My sentiments exactly. Having done the right thing i wouldnt let the actions of the fella get to me too long as in the big picture way more things going on in life than this.Unfortunately in life folk like this appear more than they should but thats their problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kent Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Yep I recon it was a mistresses ring However I have always found the well heeled type very aware of manners going all the way to the very top of British society I am far from this being born the son of a miner but a lot of people who have made a penny (and I suppose that could include me so I am not bitter)do think they are above everyone else to be fair it's very uncommon for those with serious wealth to sell thier own cars I vote you speak to the wife LOl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STOTTO Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 I have actually been asking myself the same question - in my line of work I have a very thick skin and not much gets up my nose at all. Also, as you say the law requires the item to be delivered up (else it's theft by finding) and so the law actually requires everyone to do the right thing and regardless. Following on, I think what this boils down to is that this has actually just got up my nose plain and simple Also, I'm pretty good at working out 'how stuff ends up' and I just didn't foresee this set off circumstances - I'm actually kicking myself for not telling the bloke to collect the ring in person from the mechanic - that would have ticked all the boxes. Lessons learned etc. I'll let you know how this one pans out “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves”. Confucius Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrowningB525 Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 I would honestly move on from this situation. The mechanic won't care what you did with the ring. Just enjoy the warm fuzzy feeling that you did the right thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harpoonlouis Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 If he really is in PR then post the story on his corporate twitter feed and see if that doesn't gee him up a bit. He will get plenty of warning as you can serialize it 164 characters at a time... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grrclark Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves. Confucius That is an excellent quote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bazooka Joe Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 That ought to press the right buttons if buttons are capable of being pressed. I with you Andy.. couldn't resist it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zapp Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Once it's all done and dusted, be sure to find a jiffy bag full of dog truffles in the car too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bruno22rf Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Wonder if he claimed on his Insurance when it was lost?-Wonder if he has let his Insurance company know that its been found Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rodp Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Wonder if he claimed on his Insurance when it was lost?-Wonder if he has let his Insurance company know that its been found As I mentioned earlier ! Odds on he claimed, and even better odds he hasn't informed the insurance it's been found. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tam Posted August 26, 2015 Report Share Posted August 26, 2015 Wonder if he claimed on his Insurance when it was lost?-Wonder if he has let his Insurance company know that its been found Andy, well done to you & the mechanic - just noticed this post tonight & after reading the first few replies that's what I was thinking :/ 15K family heirloom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sitsinhedges Posted September 4, 2015 Report Share Posted September 4, 2015 So what happened in the end? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keg Posted September 4, 2015 Report Share Posted September 4, 2015 Interesting thread. Mungler, you have the right to be offended by the lack of action from the previous owner. There does seem to be a lot of supposition by the massive on the owner of the ring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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