nabbers Posted August 18, 2012 Report Share Posted August 18, 2012 Funerals seem more frequent since I hit 50. Should I buy a dark suit? Or? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muggins. Posted August 18, 2012 Report Share Posted August 18, 2012 What do the deceased family request? Funerals aren`t so much funerals but a celebration of the persons life on this planet. I wouldn`t buy a suit just for a funeral, keep it dark respectable colours if that is what is requested. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeds chimp Posted August 18, 2012 Report Share Posted August 18, 2012 already told my lass that if i snuff it soon then its loud shirts and bright colours only Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fern01 Posted August 18, 2012 Report Share Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) A black tie always shows respect, or is that now old school? Sadly I seem to wear it far too often as I get older. Edited August 18, 2012 by fern01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamekeeper1960 Posted August 18, 2012 Report Share Posted August 18, 2012 If you know the family well enough then ask.if not wear something respecfull most of the time I just wear moleskins and shirt jumper then most of the peoples I get to go to are either shooting related or family and then they know what I'll be wearing. Dave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gordon R Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 I used to wear a dark suit, but I really don't know why. It is more important that you care enough to attend. I have seen people dressed immaculately, who the deceased would have banned from their funeral. I have also seen very casually dressed people who would have been welcome at any funeral. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vince Green Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 I have a dark suit which only comes out for funerals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drayman Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) The local coppers (on duty) came to my mum's funeral - looked a bit odd in their high viz day-glow vests but my mum knew and liked them and would have been glad they came along. We all thought it a nice respectful touch too. Edited August 19, 2012 by WVAM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
four-wheel-drive Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 As long as you look clean and tidy and not to brightly coloured I do not think that people worry to much these days after all the most important thing is that you cared enough to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Mat Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 The last three funerals i've been to i've gone in jeans and a shirt. They were family members ( uncle, then grandad and then dad ) so its more acceptable. If it was a non family member i'd be wearing the black suit out of respect, unless the family of the deceased specifies otherwise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Essex Hunter Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 Funerals seem more frequent since I hit 50. Should I buy a dark suit? Or? I go in what I feel comfortable in (not jeans and dealer boots). Funerals are a difficult time for relatives of the deceased, so by turning up as support if they need it is the important thing for me…… I went to a mate’s mums funeral in Sidmouth from Essex with the worst back pain I have ever had. I had to be helped in and out of the car and to the crematorium. But I went as he needed me. TEH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignoel Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 as a remark of respect a suit and tie ,to all funerials i go to and they are to many these day's . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RED BEARD Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 its dark suit and black tie for me.went to the crem other week for my great antie's and my old fella said he'd seen a funeral there where everyone had come in fancy dress (at the decessed request). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tweedledee Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 dark suit and black tie for me . maybe old fashioned but that's how we were brought up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
four-wheel-drive Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 Just as an afterthought it will also depend on what you do for a living if you do an office type job and tend to have to dress in a more formal way then the suit would be the way to go but a lot of people who work with there hands do not even own a suit so it it not an option. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamekeeper1960 Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) When a mate of mine died a few years back he specifies no suits as that were'nt his thing they even played "aways look on the bright side of life"( monty python) I've already told my Mrs that I dont want any misrable ******* at my funeral I've try to live life to the full and I want it to be a happy day. Dave. Edited August 19, 2012 by gamekeeper1960 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
washerboy Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 black tousers and shirt...look like a im about to sing" my name is sue" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scully Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 Having worked for a funeral director for some time,plus the frequency of family funerals as you get older,I've come to the conclusion that so long as you're tidy no one really cares. Some of the older generation may think that anything other than the traditional attire is disrespectful,but in reality the fact you have taken the time to attend is a mark of respect. Living where I do you see extremely uncomfortable farmers in ill fitting suits which look like de-mob suits,or ones they've borrowed off someone for the day,but they've made the effort,and in my opinion,that's respectful in itself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blunderbuss Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 a lot of people who work with there hands do not even own a suit so it it not an option. Yes but surely they go to the occasional wedding, christening, funeral, big anniversary party or whatever? You can buy a suit for fifty quid or less these days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Marty Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 dark suit and black tie for me . maybe old fashioned but that's how we were brought up Very true but I have found more and more folk are just going casual. As someone else said I suppose it's more important that they go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keg Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 As with other posters, dark suit and black tie unless otherwise advised by the family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harrycatcat1 Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) As with other posters, dark suit and black tie unless otherwise advised by the family. Call me old fashioned but I agree, probably because I am an old ***. my apologies to the mods I didnt realise that *** was a swear word the Cambridge dictionary defines it as "a person, especially a man, who is stupid or unpleasant" Edited August 19, 2012 by harrycatcat1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
escortmagnum999 Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 another for black tie and dark suit unless requested other wise. Went to funeral last winter where everyone was wearing hunting/shooting gear, checked shirts and ties, wellies and boots. Quite a nice touch as the fellow that had passed was an old countryman and was always dressed that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenboy Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 already told my lass that if i snuff it soon then its loud shirts and bright colours only Thanks for letting me know , I will get something put aside , it cant be long with how much you drink and smoke Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clakk Posted August 19, 2012 Report Share Posted August 19, 2012 always done the dark suit n tie routine then when dad passed aged 71 he said no miserable **** bright colours and happy songs or else fair play to im so i suppose now its best to ask each time ,the worlds moved on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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