Michael.b Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Well not sure what to put after the week ive had. its started off fantastic with doing a shooting event for those with disability's. me and my partner have been trying to have another baby for over a year now, i came home this morning to go have the scan done of the baby. I turned up late to the hospital as i got stuck in traffic to find that my partner got bad news with out me and i cant explain how i felt . a year of trying everything and to find she was pregnant again was the best news i had since my son was born but then i got the crushing blow this morning arriving late. that she had miscarried. im lost at the moment and this does not probley make any sense as my head is doing over time and i just needed to try and vent it out so i thought i would put something on here. anyway emails to continue with.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TbirdX Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Terrible news. I've been there three times myself, I know its hard but you have to be strong for their sake. Give them all the love and support they need and use friends to lean on, its what they are for. Hang in there fella. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mentalmac Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Sorry to hear your news, time is a healer - been there myself with my partner, she had 3 mis carries between eldest and my middle one. I like to think that there was a reason that things happened like that in that stage, and it's important to re-iterate to both of you it's not your fault. Best of luck for the future, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbird Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Ditto the above's well wishes, chin up and stick together x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenboy Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Sorry to hear that , been there myself and its not pleasant , my wife lost the first she was carrying quite late on . All I can say is you will in time come to terms with it and there is usually a good reason behind it , I am sure you will still be able to add to your family at a later date , but now is the time to give your partner the support she will surely need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sian Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 I'm so very sorry for your loss - take comfort in each other whilst you heal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingo15 Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 So sorry not very nice happened to us 2 years ago. No words will help but all i can say is vent as you need to and don't bottle anything up. Definitely help each other out and comfort each other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rich1984 Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 I'm so very sorry for your loss - take comfort in each other whilst you heal. Well said... can't image what your going through pal, best wishes to you and your Mrs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loriusgarrulus Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 So sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to grieve while supporting your partner. Can't imagine what it must be like to lose your longed for baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaniel Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Sorry to hear your bad news all you can do is support your wife and talk to each other about your feelings I went through the same years ago and it was difficult to deal with at the time but all the best to you both Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bruno22rf Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Gonna be harsh but I think you need to put your pain away for a while and devote your time and thoughts to your other half right now-whatever you are feeling I would put money on her feeling far worse-she had a physical connection and a basic bond right from day one-she may also feel that she has let you down. Stay with her and be there for her-you can deal with your pain sitting in the middle of a field somewhere-Give her my love and please accept my best wishes for the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaymo Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Its sad Its horrible And unfortunately its far to painful for anyone to understand who hasnt been there. As has been said--- time and attention for your partner and vice versa doesnt provide an instsnt fix but it sure helps. We have been in your situation and both her and I send our thoughts Jay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silver pigeon69 Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 so sad. it happened to us 8 weeks ago and although it still hurts, it does get better with time. Give her as much love and attention as you can, she will probably be hurting more than you. helped us by thinking that everything happens for a reason and it wasn't meant to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
88b Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Wise words from Mentalmac, give it time and enjoy trying again. At least you have a child, some of us aren't that lucky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bucksshooter Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 sorry for your loss, just try and keep strong for your mrs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Geordie Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Myself and my other half are so sorry to hear your news! If there is anything we "pigeon watch" as a collective can do I am sure we will pull together! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
7daysinaweek Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 terrible news, my heart goes out to your partner and yourself, nothing wrong at all with venting your emotions. Our thoughts are with you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shalfordninja33 Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 My wife and I had the same, thankfully early on, in between the two beautiful girls we have now. The worst part was the waiting for treatment and full closure. Your partner will need your love, reassurance and support now more than ever. Mentalmacs bang on, it's no ones fault and time will heal the hurt. Try not to beat yourselves up too much. take care, look after each other and your son. Hopefully number two will be with you soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michufc Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 My thoughts are with you both in these difficult times my best friend and his wife had three miscarriages and each one was very painfull for my friends he is a proper mans man I like I said to him at the time don't bottle it up you need to show that you have a heart two and be there for your wife. I am sure you have lots of support from friends and family and given time it will get better but not forgotten. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muddy Funker Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Sorry to hear your news, be there for each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toxo Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 Gonna be harsh but I think you need to put your pain away for a while and devote your time and thoughts to your other half right now-whatever you are feeling I would put money on her feeling far worse-she had a physical connection and a basic bond right from day one-she may also feel that she has let you down. Stay with her and be there for her-you can deal with your pain sitting in the middle of a field somewhere-Give her my love and please accept my best wishes for the future. Spot on Bruno. Make sure she knows it's not her fault. Lots of cries and cuddles together and time will take care of the rest. Try to stay positive and look forward to the day when nothing goes wrong. Best wishes for that day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digger Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 gutted for you both. went through the same thing and it's tough. not much I can add to the above other than to say you will need time to mourn your loss. my heartfelt best wishes are with you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DazzJo Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 (edited) Me and my wife have been through it twice this year first one in February and the 2nd one on Monday morning so I know exactly what you are going through mate :( but alls I say to you is make sure you and your partner talk about it because I tried to be strong for my wife and only lasted till Tuesday evening and had a utter breakdown, we talked and not only did it make me feel better it made my wife feel better to so don't bottle anything up pal. Remember not only is your partner your partner they she is also your best friend Edited November 21, 2014 by DazzJo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
69chris Posted November 21, 2014 Report Share Posted November 21, 2014 proper ****ty times bud been there 2 times now and dont envy you !!! but as said somewhere up there ^^^^, no matter how **** your feeling at the moment go give your mrs a big hug and tell her you love her because she'l be feeling 100x worse right now, time will make it easier, trust me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clakk Posted November 22, 2014 Report Share Posted November 22, 2014 give her all your love n time m8,she,s hurting as much as you are .my first wife miscarried 2 times and its hell to us but your wife needs u now she,s feeling the loss n hurt just be there ,and tell her dont keep it to yourself atb mr n mrs clakk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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