I've learn't My Lesson

[Michael.b]

3 Weeks ago i lent what was i thought my best mate £150 to get gas- electric and food in. as his work has slowed down and i did not want his kids to suffer. his work has picked up again so i asked him if he would be able to pay some of it back. he then told me not at the moment as i have bills to catch up on. so i was fine with that. then about 1 hour later i saw him in town he had just gone and brought him self one of these new computer games. £60 for a game but yet he is skint grrr. thats made my blood boil....... sorry guys rant over.. never again will i borrow anyone money now grrr

[sako751sg]

Did you rant at him too,and what did he say?If you didnt,man up and confront him instead of telling the PW massive.

[69chris]

iv got a 'long time out of work' mate like that, lent him money over the years so his kids aint hungry, never get it back tho

i since found out that he thinks being skint means he can only buy 80 B+H at any one time

[pegasus bridge]

I wouldn't lend money to a friend, I would give it them and be pleasantly surprised if I got it back- but your mate is Definitley taking the ****.

[Ricko]

A 'friend' in need, is a pain in the ***.

 

I never let money become an issue between myself and the few true friends I have.

[four-wheel-drive]

3 Weeks ago i lent what was i thought my best mate £150 to get gas- electric and food in. as his work has slowed down and i did not want his kids to suffer. his work has picked up again so i asked him if he would be able to pay some of it back. he then told me not at the moment as i have bills to catch up on. so i was fine with that. then about 1 hour later i saw him in town he had just gone and brought him self one of these new computer games. £60 for a game but yet he is skint grrr. thats made my blood boil....... sorry guys rant over.. never again will i borrow anyone money now grrr

Did you speak to him did you see him pay for it things are not always what they seem to be it could be a birthday present for one of his kids that he has been putting money aside to buy him/her would you be happy for the kid to get no presents on its birthday.

 

we here all of the time about people who we do not think are disabled getting benefits but perhaps we only see them when they are having a good day and at other times they can hardly move just something to think about.

Edited November 29, 2014 by four-wheel-drive

[Dekers]

In a similar fashion I got my fingers burnt many years ago, and upon asking for my money back some time later, when it became apparent life wasn't so bad anymore for him, I was made to feel very uncomfortable.

 

NEVER again will I lend any money to any friend, blanket policy, no exceptions!

[four-wheel-drive]

I think the old saying is rite only lend what you can afford to loose then if you do not get it back it is no big deal but if you do get it back its nice to think that you have done something to help someone in need.

[steve_b_wales]

Around 15 years ago, I lent a 'good friend' £40 so that he could pay his heating bills. 2 days later, I saw him coming out of a local RFD with 750 cartridges. I never got it back,and he ceased to be my friend many years ago. Now, I would pass him if he was in the gutter. He did the same to more of his friends.

[Archie-fox]

dont worry mate my soon to be ex-wife has tried to take 60k off me!!!!

[Old farrier]

I just invite them for a meal and feed them game soon find out how skint and hungrey they are

You can tell if they clean the plate and ask for more then ask what it was 😃

Don't give them money if they've got a mobile phone and Internet

All the best

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[mel b3]

It might not seem like it at the moment, but, youve learned a very valuable life lesson.

[evo]

Michael he is taking the Michael :lol:

 

let him know you need it back next week the latest as YOU have bills to pay,

 

once you get your money back then my advice is sack him off

 

hope you get it back

 

atb Evo

[STOTTO]

After the asking and the offering you never know a true friend’s worth until they have repaid a debt of honour! If when their circumstances improve this debt still goes unrequited then their friendship is proved to be a worthless liability and your investment of trust in them becomes a wasted one-way affliction that you can really live without.

 

“Thank you mate for helping me out and here is your money back”, are words from the Gods and uttered by a friend indeed whom you helped when in need and would again, rare animals these!

[Lord Geordie]

I have loaned out and never recieved it back. They are still friends no matter what! It's up to you, to satisfy yourself that their need is genuine! Always, and I mean ALWAYS loan out cash and think you wilp never get it back! That way, if you DO get it returned, it's a bonus. Some people are genuinely in need of help. I have fallen on harder times recently, but to date have never needed to borrow. I get by on £500 a month in wages, but only just.

 

In the past I have helped family, giving away 2 cars to my sisters husband, who needed transport to get to work. A mazda 323, and a 2.5 V6 mondeo in showroom condition. I have also gave away fishing gear, airguns etc. It's a nice feeling when you realise you can help others.

 

I have loaned out small amounts of cash too. £25 here and £5 there for people to shop with or fuel to go to work etc. Do it in the hipe ONE day the favour MAY be returned. Or even payed forward! You help them, they help someone else!

[Hamster]

I have loaned out and never recieved it back. They are still friends no matter what! It's up to you, to satisfy yourself that their need is genuine! Always, and I mean ALWAYS loan out cash and think you wilp never get it back! That way, if you DO get it returned, it's a bonus. Some people are genuinely in need of help. I have fallen on harder times recently, but to date have never needed to borrow. I get by on £500 a month in wages, but only just.

 

In the past I have helped family, giving away 2 cars to my sisters husband, who needed transport to get to work. A mazda 323, and a 2.5 V6 mondeo in showroom condition. I have also gave away fishing gear, airguns etc. It's a nice feeling when you realise you can help others.

 

I have loaned out small amounts of cash too. £25 here and £5 there for people to shop with or fuel to go to work etc. Do it in the hipe ONE day the favour MAY be returned. Or even payed forward! You help them, they help someone else!

 

Respect .

 

I too would rather give than lend money to a friend. Years ago a colleague behaved very poorly on a deal between a few of us which at the time made us all quite upset but a few years later he turned up out of the blue at a different place of work (which meant he'd had to find out) and handed me the money and apologised saying he was under pressure at the time. There are good ones out there too.

[zx10mike]

don't change who you are (kind person) i love shooting its my world and would not want to spoil it.but if a friend took the **** like that i would remove his front door and **** off with his telly and shoes and toilet roll and anything else out of the house i wanted.

[Michael.b]

I did not kick off in front of him as he had his kids with him and he did not see me knowing ive seen him with the game thingy. so ive just got back from popping round. the look on his face was weird he went white. so i said what's up with you and he would not let me in the house. hmmmmm something not right here i thought. then it happened his partner shouted from his kitchen ( Babe with you do something with the box from the new tv please its getting in my way.) SKINT MY **** he then admitted to buying a new tv yesterday with the black friday thing on. so i said oh whats up with your other tv. his anser made my blood boil. ( there 's nothing wrong with it just wanted a bigger one to play my xbox on.)

I swear had his kids not of been there he would of been eating the pavement. ive told him i dont care how you get it but i want my money back on friday next week with out any B**L ****.

 

Weird thing is i thought i knew him after these past fer year. Re-think time.

[mel b3]

I know that youre wound up about it buddy but dont be, it may or may not come back but whatever happens you will have learned a lesson without being hit too hard, weve all been in your position and it doesnt feel great, just try not to let it spoil your weekend.

[team tractor]

I lent a girl £5 when I was 16 until she was paid the next day and I remember asking for it back. After asking for 2 weeks she shouted at me " it's only £5"

The thing is it's my £5 not hers .

 

Some people really stupid

[four-wheel-drive]

The problem is dealing with people like that press him for the money but if it is not forthcoming do not start hitting him or braking his things up as he will be the type of person who would call the police and you could well end up being charged with something for such a small amount of money it really is not worth it I have had people take advantage of me in the past and it makes you feel like getting back at them but is it worth it best just to ignore him after all he is loosing a good friend you are loosing nothing.

[kyska]

I feel the same as a few on here, I have very few real friends, lots of acquaintances, not many friends.

 

I also give money if it's needed, I don't expect it back, the few people I've helped are real mates though, they couldn't do more for me when I need a leg up.

[STOTTO]

“Catch me once shame on you, catch me twice shame on me”

 

If it is any consolation to you, all of my best learned lessons have been my hardest but still came cheap at the price”

 

Regards

[Mentalmac]

I know a guy who was in dire need of help, he had no money and got temporary accommodation etc.. (Some pretty silly choices in his life). As much as I would have just given him the money, he wouldn't ask, so I made him food hampers every couple of days. Now, he's got himself a good job (nearly a year later) and has been round plenty of times and brought the beers in. Sometimes it's not money that helps, in fact, money sometimes doesn't help.

Ironically he's the father to my step child, so nost people in my situation wouldn't wish to help, but he's a human just like me and he also goes out of his way to help with my youngest kids too if we need urgent babysitters.

[loriusgarrulus]

Food hampers are a good help. We did this with one of our children when he was out of work. He said it was exciting and a big boost just unpacking the box.