Guest Mr Pieman Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 Dear all, This year has been particularly bad for me. As most of you know I lost my father earlier this year and found it particularly hard to come to terms with . Mr Pieman Snr was a great influence on my life as both an adult and a child. My sister has also been ill for some months, again with cancer which, at the age of just 33 must have been very difficult for her to deal with. She also has a young 12yr old daughter. Sis has been a right grumpy cow for the last few months and has caused no end of rifts and tears in an already tatty family. She and I have fallen out on a number of occasions and haven't spoken for a number of days. I often wonder why siblings fight, probably a growing up thing. I have always loved my sister and been very close to her, so our recent upset and arguing has been rather unpleasant. On Sunday afternoon, with no real warning, she died. I feel retched that we didn't make peace with each other and it will play on my mind for many days I have no doubt. Don't end up feeling like I do today. For those in relationships, always part or fall asleep with a kiss or a tender touch. No matter how naughty they are, always kiss your children goodnight and tell them that you love them. Hug friends before you part. Don't leave things unsaid - if they are important, say them. Do these things for me, and then I know you won't feel as bad as I do if the worse happens........ These are testing times in my life. I hope to be a better, stronger person after the dust has settled but can't help but feel I have had more than my share of difficulties in 2004. Best wishes to all PP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barrie0 Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 Best wishes Mr Pieman , lets hope 2005 is kinder to you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimdfish Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 PP Condolences and all that jazz. Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
red_stag88 Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 I'm very sorry to hear that PP. Best Wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rifleman56 Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 my condolences pp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ollie Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 Oh my god you must obviously be devestated. But don't beat yourself up about it because it will only make you feel worse. I hope you don't mind me saying but your sister (god rest her soul) wherever she is will have forgiven you, as I'm sure you have. My thoughts are with you and your family in this very testing time and remember think of the good times. My deepest sympathy Oliver Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 Sorry for your loss pieman . deepest sympathy yis yp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vulcha Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 My thoughts are with you Mr.P. You must be devistaed now. Reading this made me feel really sad because i remembered about your dad. I hope things get much better. Something bad always happens around this time of year. My friend (aged 16) died friday last week of meingites (sp) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kdubya Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 a few years ago my 1st grandaughter was very ill in hospital! my wife and I where visiting her when she started bleeding from her stoma I was very worried and called the nurses they reassured us it was ok? my wife said pick her up and give her a kiss?i said no leave her she does not need messing about? she will be ok I looked at her face and said goodbye to her, my wife bent down and kissed her/ two hours later we recieved a phone call that no one should recieve? yes she had died? to this day I will never forgive myself for not picking her up and kissing her? I am in tears typing this it gets no better? your words are ooh so true you have my deepest sympathies. Keith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aled_cky Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 so very sorry to hear about your sister PP.. and also on the matter your father aswell. my prayers will be with you tonight and once again i am very sorry to hear that you have lossed another in your family. lets just hope now that 2005 will be a brilliant year for you and all you know. Aled Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vermin Dropper Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 My deepest sympathy to you and your family pieman, x It is always a difficult time of year in our family too, It would be my late Brother's Birthday today. Every year in my mother's house the decorations don't go up until after 14th and we have been to the crem'. No one should have to console their mother while at the crematorium grieving for their Brother, Father and Grand parents. As you say pieman, I make it a policy not to leave arguments until they are sorted, (takes bloody hours sometimes) but if anything should happen to me or a member of family I know that we would have parted on the best terms possible. I know you were serving Fire fighter, as I am now and how hard it is sometimes if you have been in a sticky situation, thinking that you might not have made it home to loved ones. Once again my condolences Mr P, take care, x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hammergun Posted December 14, 2004 Report Share Posted December 14, 2004 I am verry sorry to hear that PP. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teal Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 I am greatly saddened to read this PP. I can not add much to what has already been said, but your family will once again be in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the last engineer Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 sorry to hear of your sisters passing Mr P. my depest sympathy to you and your family. im familiar with the falling out problem having family back in the U/K 2 sons a brother and sister mum and dad , i dont see them enough and the phone dont cut it all the time ,some time's tempers flair ,and strong words cut like a knife. i know we all learn from our mistakes ,but i sometimes wonder why we need to make so many ,a learning curve i guess. Mr P ,im sure good time's are ahead ,and a stronger person you will be ,so season's greetings and a prosperous new year to you and your family from the last engineer Martin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyni Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Christ man thats been one tough year, and there was me feeling sorry for myself for what seems a trival thing compared to your grief. Thoughts are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fisherman Mike Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Wise words indeed Pieman. I am sure we all hope that 2005 brings you some good fortune and happiness. FM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PEREGRINE Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Sympathies pp I also lost my father this year, and my mother is coming for her frst christmas without him. Boxing day would have been there 60th wedding anniversary. Good luck Peregrine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Country_est Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Lost my dad last year and mother is still not quite over it. Hopefully some of the better news I had yeaterday will pass your way too. Condolences to you and your family at this time of year. Trev Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fisherman Mike Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Echoeing the earlier sentiments of Pieman There is a particularly poignant recording by Mike and the Mechanics called "Living Years" The lyrics of which are particularly appropriate. I remember about 10 years ago they played the song on Breakfast TV in the presence of Rolf Harris who had become accrimoniously detached from his own father who subsequently died with out Rolf having the chance to make the peace and tell him how much he really loved him. It was all too much for poor Rolf.. on listening to the song he broke down and cried unconsolably, There was nothing the presenters at the time could do. Rolf said "it was the one regret he had in his life.." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeon master Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 PP, I’m very sorry to hear about your great loss, your story brought tears to my eyes, as I’m sure it did yours. We all get caught up in little arguments within families and its not until a tragedy happens that we realise how silly these fallouts can be. Your family will be there to greet her, and she will be with you when you ask of her in your time of need now, and in the future. I hope 2005 graces you with more smiles mate because you need it, god rest their soles. Thoughts and condolences go to you and your family. Justin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TX Sniper Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 Deepest sympathies Hope the new year brings more joy for you. Stay strong Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mel b3 Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 hi pp .id like to say something profound that would ease your troubles but the only thing that can help is time .be strong. regards mel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dazza Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 hope 2005 is a lot better for u Mr.P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeon buster Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 deepest sympathy for you and your family. and i hope 2005 is a better year for you mr.p jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob G Posted December 15, 2004 Report Share Posted December 15, 2004 PP my familys thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time in your lives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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