nobbyathome Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 (edited) thats not a mid life crisis tt thats just feeling sorry for yourself a midlife crisis is getting a fast motorcycle when you are to scared to ride it skydiving when you are scared of heights trying to collect your own harem etc normal life is hard sometimes and it does get harder enjoy your camping with the kids make the most of it they grow up quick and leave you if you have got your health and a good family around you you have done well Edited July 22, 2019 by nobbyathome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stumfelter Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 40 minutes ago, team tractor said: I think I miss not doing things. I have a wife who’s 26 and I’m encroaching 38 and a great family life. I’ve Started remembering things from my younger years( I know I’m not old) and listening to Phil Collins and bananarama lol 😂. I think I’m sick of working 6 days a week but 4 kids demand a lot of money so I’m stuck there. I’m going camping soon with the family in Porthmadog but I think I just miss having a few quid to do it often. I watch others and wish I’d done more. Maybe I’m just being silly This is a simple one to answer, just ask yourself if you'd sooner have four kids or more holidays and toys. If it's the latter you've got problems and if it's the former just crack on and enjoy what you've been blessed with.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 1 hour ago, nobbyathome said: thats not a mid life crisis tt thats just feeling sorry for yourself a midlife crisis is getting a fast motorcycle when you are to scared to ride it skydiving when you are scared of heights trying to collect your own harem etc normal life is hard sometimes and it does get harder enjoy your camping with the kids make the most of it they grow up quick and leave you if you have got your health and a good family around you you have done well I have actually thought about another bike but then I realised I can’t afford it 😞 I looked at bikes I always wanted at 18 like an old Honda MTX 200 2 stroke but I still can’t afford that £500 bike as it’s £3000 now lol 59 minutes ago, stumfelter said: This is a simple one to answer, just ask yourself if you'd sooner have four kids or more holidays and toys. If it's the latter you've got problems and if it's the former just crack on and enjoy what you've been blessed with.... I love my family 100% more than any possessions and wouldn’t swap them for anything in the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 1 hour ago, team tractor said: I think I miss not doing things. I have a wife who’s 26 and I’m encroaching 38 and a great family life. I’ve Started remembering things from my younger years( I know I’m not old) and listening to Phil Collins and bananarama lol 😂. I think I’m sick of working 6 days a week but 4 kids demand a lot of money so I’m stuck there. I’m going camping soon with the family in Porthmadog but I think I just miss having a few quid to do it often. I watch others and wish I’d done more. Maybe I’m just being silly Plenty of others will look and and wish for what you have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 2 minutes ago, figgy said: Plenty of others will look and and wish for what you have. I do realise I’m a lucky man don’t get me wrong but I have an empty feeling inside. It’s a strange feeling . I have an awesome wife and I mean awesome, beautiful kids, house, my perfect van I dreamed about but feel empty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 (edited) 5 minutes ago, team tractor said: I do realise I’m a lucky man don’t get me wrong but I have an empty feeling inside. It’s a strange feeling . I have an awesome wife and I mean awesome, beautiful kids, house, my perfect van I dreamed about but feel empty. All work and no play sometimes make you wonder why you do it. You know how you feel about your parents and spending time with them. Be same for your kids, hope your empty feeling passes soon. Edited July 22, 2019 by figgy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 Just now, figgy said: All work and no play sometimes make you wonder why you do it. You know how you feel about your parents and spending time with them. Be same for your kids, hope your empty feeling passed. Just been out delivering a leg of venison to a very good customer ( he drove into my van and have been friends ever since 😂) I took my 4 year old and I love time with her. I know how I feel about my parents , I work with them. I wouldn’t wish that on my kids lol 😂 . Poor things Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 It's weird sometimes because we have all felt that way, my wife has said to me give your head a shake. You'll soon be right enough again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith RW Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 7 minutes ago, team tractor said: I do realise I’m a lucky man don’t get me wrong but I have an empty feeling inside. It’s a strange feeling . I have an awesome wife and I mean awesome, beautiful kids, house, my perfect van I dreamed about but feel empty. Sounds like what I'd call a worker and provider blessed with a great family, enjoy them my friend and wait for the grandkids to come along, you'll not feel empty then and all will be revealed as to how fortunate you really are...all the rest is just material possessions gathered along the way ...health is the main gift to see it all fall into place..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 1 minute ago, Keith RW said: Sounds like what I'd call a worker and provider blessed with a great family, enjoy them my friend and wait for the grandkids to come along, you'll not feel empty then and all will be revealed as to how fortunate you really are...all the rest is just material possessions gathered along the way ...health is the main gift to see it all fall into place..... Health is what I worry about, I’ve gone from 17st to 15st 6 in 18 months thinking of my kiddies . Grand kids Ha not yet I hope as my oldest is only 13 . I thought I needed material but I’m realising I don’t Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
islandgun Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 Im having a getting on for end of life not giving a s-----t crisis. I cant be bothered in being polite or nice, I haven't got time to listen to people lying, or whingeing. i dont bother with fools or people that haven't thought it through, I have no time for pretentious - - - -, I spend as much money as i can afford on things for memorable times with my family. This approach is derived from knowing so many people that have died in various nasty ways and the realisation that these nasty ways always happen when you least expect it.. get on and enjoy your life, while you can Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandalf Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 Haven't had one yet and I clocked up 80 a couple of weeks ago. Presents included a ticket for a pop concert, 12 bottles of malt, a thermal imager and lots of rumpy bumpy. Haven't got time for these crisis things... Too busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Boggy Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 1 hour ago, islandgun said: Im having a getting on for end of life not giving a s-----t crisis. I cant be bothered in being polite or nice, I haven't got time to listen to people lying, or whingeing. i dont bother with fools or people that haven't thought it through, I have no time for pretentious - - - -, I spend as much money as i can afford on things for memorable times with my family. This approach is derived from knowing so many people that have died in various nasty ways and the realisation that these nasty ways always happen when you least expect it.. get on and enjoy your life, while you can This to my mind is the best post so far on this subject and one that I can totally relate to. Good for you Islandgun. OB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moondoggy Posted July 22, 2019 Report Share Posted July 22, 2019 3 hours ago, team tractor said: Just been out delivering a leg of venison to a very good customer ( he drove into my van and have been friends ever since 😂 ) Let me have your address and I will come and drive into your van! 😋 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 23, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 6 hours ago, moondoggy said: Let me have your address and I will come and drive into your van! 😋 Ha ha but you have to spend £10,000 a year with us too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raja Clavata Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 10 hours ago, islandgun said: Im having a getting on for end of life not giving a s-----t crisis. I cant be bothered in being polite or nice, I haven't got time to listen to people lying, or whingeing. i dont bother with fools or people that haven't thought it through, I have no time for pretentious - - - -, I spend as much money as i can afford on things for memorable times with my family. This approach is derived from knowing so many people that have died in various nasty ways and the realisation that these nasty ways always happen when you least expect it.. get on and enjoy your life, while you can Wise words indeed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smokersmith Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 Re-reading this ... I can't help but think that some posts are a bit harsh. It's clear that TT is having a few negative thoughts, and has turned to this community in the hope of people sharing similar experiences/coping mechanisms etc. It's also clear that in the cold light of day, he knows' where his priorities are. It's good to talk. In these times when folks are suffering from all sorts of psychological issues, the advice is to speak up, and share ... so BRAVO!! A shooting buddy of a similar vintage to me has just taken his own life .. no-one I have spoken to saw it coming. At least us younger folks can look forward to the grumpy old man phase and really not give one anymore!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 23, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 4 hours ago, Smokersmith said: Re-reading this ... I can't help but think that some posts are a bit harsh. It's clear that TT is having a few negative thoughts, and has turned to this community in the hope of people sharing similar experiences/coping mechanisms etc. It's also clear that in the cold light of day, he knows' where his priorities are. It's good to talk. In these times when folks are suffering from all sorts of psychological issues, the advice is to speak up, and share ... so BRAVO!! A shooting buddy of a similar vintage to me has just taken his own life .. no-one I have spoken to saw it coming. At least us younger folks can look forward to the grumpy old man phase and really not give one anymore!! Cheers I’ve lost over a dozen friends the past 10 years including one taking his life. Happiest man I knew too. 15 hours ago, islandgun said: Im having a getting on for end of life not giving a s-----t crisis. I cant be bothered in being polite or nice, I haven't got time to listen to people lying, or whingeing. i dont bother with fools or people that haven't thought it through, I have no time for pretentious - - - -, I spend as much money as i can afford on things for memorable times with my family. This approach is derived from knowing so many people that have died in various nasty ways and the realisation that these nasty ways always happen when you least expect it.. get on and enjoy your life, while you can You can’t be bothered in being polite Or nice ? Thats the most worrying thing on here. I often work helping others for nothing and help out where I can. I’ve given loads of munty away for free to people that would like some . I help fit disability handles etc for old people for free. I just try to be the best person as I can . Being polite is free you know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
islandgun Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 8 minutes ago, team tractor said: Cheers I’ve lost over a dozen friends the past 10 years including one taking his life. Happiest man I knew too. You can’t be bothered in being polite Or nice ? Thats the most worrying thing on here. I often work helping others for nothing and help out where I can. I’ve given loads of munty away for free to people that would like some . I help fit disability handles etc for old people for free. I just try to be the best person as I can . Being polite is free you know Theres a difference in being polite and nice and helping people, which i do on a regular basis. perhaps i should have said being polite to people that don't deserve it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 23, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 24 minutes ago, islandgun said: Theres a difference in being polite and nice and helping people, which i do on a regular basis. perhaps i should have said being polite to people that don't deserve it Sorry I misunderstood Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
button Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 I do wonder what some people expect in life, and this is just an observation and not aimed at any individual, but life doesn't always run smooth and when it doesn't you have to just get on with it, I do believe that people give up too easy and bail, citing all sorts of reasons other than the fact they didn't like it when things got tougher than expected! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derbyduck Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 I enjoyed it ! mine lasted 10yrs LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walker570 Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 (edited) 23 hours ago, islandgun said: Im having a getting on for end of life not giving a s-----t crisis. I cant be bothered in being polite or nice, I haven't got time to listen to people lying, or whingeing. i dont bother with fools or people that haven't thought it through, I have no time for pretentious - - - -, I spend as much money as i can afford on things for memorable times with my family. This approach is derived from knowing so many people that have died in various nasty ways and the realisation that these nasty ways always happen when you least expect it.. get on and enjoy your life, while you can 100% Hopefully in another 40 odd years TT you will just wonder where it all went to but still like me wish it would continue for ever. It ain't a rehearsal boy...ENJOY!!! Edited July 23, 2019 by Walker570 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vampire Posted July 23, 2019 Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 8 hours ago, islandgun said: Theres a difference in being polite and nice and helping people, which i do on a regular basis. perhaps i should have said being polite to people that don't deserve it With you entirely on this and previous post and I am 55. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
team tractor Posted July 23, 2019 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2019 1 hour ago, button said: I do wonder what some people expect in life, and this is just an observation and not aimed at any individual, but life doesn't always run smooth and when it doesn't you have to just get on with it, I do believe that people give up too easy and bail, citing all sorts of reasons other than the fact they didn't like it when things got tougher than expected! I haven’t given up trust me but I’m feeling weird . I’ve suffered more than my share of bad luck but I always bounce back. 1 hour ago, Walker570 said: 100% Hopefully in another 40 odd years TT you will just wonder where it all went to but still like me wish it would continue for ever. It ain't a rehearsal boy...ENJOY!!! 40 years . Steady on there. I’ll be doing well with my luck 😂 . I think this is the problem about the speed of life. My parents are getting old and dads health isn’t what it was. My kids are a few years away from leaving school almost and I can’t remember where it went. I’m suddenly realising it’s going quicker than first thought. We say our new kit is paid for in 2-3 years but then I think my dads going to be 70 and I’ll be 40 . It’s a scary thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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