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3 minutes ago, Doormat said:

Not sure if that’s the correct title?

55 fast approaching 56

son now 17 no longer needs mum and dad…except for taxi and money

most of my mates have either moved away or drifted apart or passed away

Still work FT, finish early on Fridays

Every Monday morning I just have tunnel vision for Friday, nothing else crosses my mind, Friday rolls up and the weekend is boring as ****!! 
spent so many years scrimping I’m stuck in my ways and can’t be frivolous with money, the problem is everything…absolutely everything now costs money. Everyone is out to line their own pockets…or so it seems. So each weekend we do the same dull dreary stuff we did weekends before.. go for walks, bit of gardening, binge watch on Netflix…rinse and repeat.

Honestly if this is what my life is going to be from now on, then…….

Note, partners parents are dead, no family, I went NC with my family over 10yrs ago… father an abusive pisshead mother a narcissist. 
 

The nights are drawing in, 6mths of utter misery looming ahead.

I’m not a boomer, didn’t get all the perks that generation had, cant’ afford to retire, I’d be even more bored if I did!! My job is physical, tires me out, but if I did an easier job my body would start to rot, plenty I see in my age group that are rotting slowly . 
 

so, is this what growing old looks like??…because it’s dull as ****. 

Would give anything to turn the clock back 17yrs and start over again. Fatherhood was the best most interesting years of my life…from here on its ****. 
 

I’’m not into drinking, the male macho ********ters boasting, being loud  and acting the alpha male bores me to death. 
 

Most hobbies now cost quite a lot of money.. behind every hobby there a million businesses eager to sell you **** you never even knew you needed, forums  almost always make you feel you need more or better, that you are missing out.. it’s getting tedious. 
 

guessing I’m alone in my views??

Just wait till you really do get old. I think you need help.

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You certainly paint a grim picture of what lies ahead , when I was 55 I had made my mind up that I was going to take early retirement when I reached 60 , I had a manual job and I was getting worn out well before my time , true to my word I finished work on my 60th Birthday which was on a Friday , the next day I was back out there as I drove the guns about on a shoot day but it was far different than being a jobbing bricklayer  , this was in November and it got me through the Winter nicely , come early March my late wife retired as well and looking back now they were the best years of my retirement which will be 17 years this November , I can honestly say with my hand on my heart that I have never been bored , we went everywhere on the buses , in my car and days out at all the places on my doorstep that we never had the time when we were both working , life doesn't last forever and I would sooner do something and maybe regret it afterwards , rather than regret not doing it when we were both here , it have now been just over nine months since my wife passed away and yes there were one or two things we didn't get round in doing them but there were a hell of a lot of things we did plan and carried them out while we could , would I do the same again ? , you bet I would and knowing what I know now I would had finished a few years earlier than when I did , you sound like you need to get your life sorted out and look on the bright side rather the doom and gloom you seem to forecast .

GOOD LUCK               MM

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30 minutes ago, Doormat said:

Not sure if that’s the correct title?

55 fast approaching 56

son now 17 no longer needs mum and dad…except for taxi and money

most of my mates have either moved away or drifted apart or passed away

Still work FT, finish early on Fridays

Every Monday morning I just have tunnel vision for Friday, nothing else crosses my mind, Friday rolls up and the weekend is boring as ****!! 
spent so many years scrimping I’m stuck in my ways and can’t be frivolous with money, the problem is everything…absolutely everything now costs money. Everyone is out to line their own pockets…or so it seems. So each weekend we do the same dull dreary stuff we did weekends before.. go for walks, bit of gardening, binge watch on Netflix…rinse and repeat.

Honestly if this is what my life is going to be from now on, then…….

Note, partners parents are dead, no family, I went NC with my family over 10yrs ago… father an abusive pisshead mother a narcissist. 
 

The nights are drawing in, 6mths of utter misery looming ahead.

I’m not a boomer, didn’t get all the perks that generation had, cant’ afford to retire, I’d be even more bored if I did!! My job is physical, tires me out, but if I did an easier job my body would start to rot, plenty I see in my age group that are rotting slowly . 
 

so, is this what growing old looks like??…because it’s dull as ****. 

Would give anything to turn the clock back 17yrs and start over again. Fatherhood was the best most interesting years of my life…from here on its ****. 
 

I’’m not into drinking, the male macho ********ters boasting, being loud  and acting the alpha male bores me to death. 
 

Most hobbies now cost quite a lot of money.. behind every hobby there a million businesses eager to sell you **** you never even knew you needed, forums  almost always make you feel you need more or better, that you are missing out.. it’s getting tedious. 
 

guessing I’m alone in my views??

you've got it bad............and you dont know when you are well off

i had a brilliant well paid job until my mrs developed dementia...packed the job in to care for her for 10 years...no help from govt so spent all my money........i became very ill and she died 3 years ago....

my advice to you is GET A DECENT SHED and learn to use your hands and make things...........

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Surely it’s about finding something that really floats your boat. It doesn’t cost money timed everything. Shoots looking for beaters, voluntary work, community work. I am nearly 68 fit and my life is full, possibly over full. I work one day a week and field sports in all its guises keeps me so busy. I’m don’t sit still for long. As Ditchy says learn to make things there will be loads of demand for what you do!

Good luck and call on us all for help if you need it!

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If I'm bored, I've got a cookery book that lists in an annex all (or at least many) traditional British feast days and the associated meals - so I start planning for the nearest one of those.

Cookings a great way of dealing with a lack of something to do, because you get to enjoy it twice (or thrice if you've shot or caught it yourself)

My advice is - cook a good meal, open a bottle of wine or two (not a macho drink) and invite some friends around to share in your labours.

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I got made redundant at 55 years old in 2020 just before lockdown. I never went back to work because I had just about enough of corporate nonsense to last me a lifetime. I took a private pension and decided that I would retire. Financially it has been a little tough, but we have learnt to manage our money so much better. Otherwise it’s fantastic. I turned 60 today and I am having a ball. I really don’t know how I found time to go to work. Life really is what you make it. Sure it would be nice to have more money but a stress free life is riches beyond compare.

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Hello, I am one of those Baby Boomers but I certainly  did not come off well !!!!, 

2 minutes ago, la bala said:

I am 81 and just started weight training again. :lol:

Hello, Oh well done !!!! not for me as by biceps are like a soft ball stuck on a stick😀, PS, Am missing you Engineering Projects

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25 minutes ago, Sussexboy said:

I got made redundant at 55 years old in 2020 just before lockdown. I never went back to work because I had just about enough of corporate nonsense to last me a lifetime. I took a private pension and decided that I would retire. Financially it has been a little tough, but we have learnt to manage our money so much better. Otherwise it’s fantastic. I turned 60 today and I am having a ball. I really don’t know how I found time to go to work. Life really is what you make it. Sure it would be nice to have more money but a stress free life is riches beyond compare.

Hello, The big 60 !!!!!! Have a great day or whats left🥳

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33 minutes ago, PeterHenry said:

If I'm bored, I've got a cookery book that lists in an annex all (or at least many) traditional British feast days and the associated meals - so I start planning for the nearest one of those.

Cookings a great way of dealing with a lack of something to do, because you get to enjoy it twice (or thrice if you've shot or caught it yourself)

My advice is - cook a good meal, open a bottle of wine or two (not a macho drink) and invite some friends around to share in your labours.

bloody superb advice..:good:

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I can understand what you are saying, particularly about work. I struggle getting up on Monday mornings as I'm sure many others do on the daily grind, and I'm only about half way through my working life, that's if I will be able to retire at all which I doubt.

Modern life has a lot to ask for, social and mainstream media paint an unrealistic picture of what life should be like, what folks should be doing/have accomplished and it's made many people feel inadequate and hard done by. But no one should feel this way as we are all different and judging someone by how wealthy or accomplished they are is stupid. We all have different priorities, and they will change and develop over time.

Money won't buy you happiness and neither will envy of those better off. The richest person I know is probably also the most miserable. A farmer in his late 70s, whose only joy is pinching pennies. His attitude and demeanour have alienated him from his children and his wife left him a long time ago. He'll be the wealthiest person in the grave yard and all his lifes work will be for nothing.

Learn to enjoy what you have, spend money on the things that make you happy, and if that's your family or children then so be it. Find other hobbies and things to occupy your free time that don't cost too much, and there are literally millions of things you could do. Work while you can and don't worry too much about the future, life will work out OK most times. I hope you find a way to get through this period in your life.

 

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Doormat, whilst you are probably not on your own, you would appear to be a in a very small minority. You need to get an interest. Hobby's don't necessarily cost an arm and a leg - ditchman's shed suggestion is a starting point. I seem to spend retirement sorting out other people's problems. I could live in my garage and toyed with the idea of knife making. Inexpensive hobby, with something to give you a sense of achievement. My garage may look untidy, but is has also been better and far worse. Two Honda CR500 AFs , plus a Beta and Gas Gas trials bike are buried in the left corner. I can always find something to occupy my time, albeit mainly putting all the tools back in their proper place.

I spend some days working at my daughter in law's children's nurseries doing building work. I do friends and relatives cars - servicing, brakes / suspension etc. Never charged a penny and never will. 

This morning I was out and about sorting out my grandson's I-phone screen and his front tyre. 8.00pm last night he phoned. He was 10 miles away and his front tyre had blown. Told him to put the spare on. He didn't know if he had a spare. After checking, I got a further phone call - he hadn't got a jack. I told him where it was and thought that was it. 50 minutes later, another phone call - spare was flat and he had no pump. I drove to find him and his girlfriend and picked them up near Turton Tower. I would have gone to the car, but neither could say exactly where they were. Drove them back to his car and showed him the built in compressor. Today, I showed him where to check his water, oil and brake fluid. If time permits today, we will try to locate his brain.

Tomorrow, I am taking the pair clay shooting.

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Well don't be a doormat. 

I think its called mid life crisis. 

I'm 73 this year out every dry day and wet ones if the weather catches me out. Retired at 61 i could have done it earlier gutted after i found out i could have taken my final salary pension at 55. Chin up get out force yourself to do something different this ain't a rehearsal. 

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