Getting older is boring

[JKD]

20 minutes ago, Rim Fire said:

Not enough  hrs in a day for me shooting  fishing  and keepering haven't been up later than 5 pm since the poults arrived 3rd week in July 

Does that mean going to bed reeealy early, or getting up reeealy late ? 🤔 😆

[bruno22rf]

Some harsh but honest replies here - life IS what you make it. Being positive is not always easy and to some it needs time and experience to realise your worth and capabilities. Never seen much point in putting myself down cos there's a world of half wits out there that will make a better job of it so don't add yourself to the list.You may be suffering from a bit of depression but be careful who you talk to if you think you need help and you are a shooting man, don't ever dwell on the past if it causes you to feel worse - you had that time and only you decided what to do with it - pretty much the same with your time to come.   

[Mungler]

3 hours ago, Doormat said:

Not sure if that’s the correct title?

55 fast approaching 56

son now 17 no longer needs mum and dad…except for taxi and money

most of my mates have either moved away or drifted apart or passed away

Still work FT, finish early on Fridays

Every Monday morning I just have tunnel vision for Friday, nothing else crosses my mind, Friday rolls up and the weekend is boring as ****!! 
spent so many years scrimping I’m stuck in my ways and can’t be frivolous with money, the problem is everything…absolutely everything now costs money. Everyone is out to line their own pockets…or so it seems. So each weekend we do the same dull dreary stuff we did weekends before.. go for walks, bit of gardening, binge watch on Netflix…rinse and repeat.

Honestly if this is what my life is going to be from now on, then…….

Note, partners parents are dead, no family, I went NC with my family over 10yrs ago… father an abusive pisshead mother a narcissist. 
 

The nights are drawing in, 6mths of utter misery looming ahead.

I’m not a boomer, didn’t get all the perks that generation had, cant’ afford to retire, I’d be even more bored if I did!! My job is physical, tires me out, but if I did an easier job my body would start to rot, plenty I see in my age group that are rotting slowly . 
 

so, is this what growing old looks like??…because it’s dull as ****. 

Would give anything to turn the clock back 17yrs and start over again. Fatherhood was the best most interesting years of my life…from here on its ****. 
 

I’’m not into drinking, the male macho ********ters boasting, being loud  and acting the alpha male bores me to death. 
 

Most hobbies now cost quite a lot of money.. behind every hobby there a million businesses eager to sell you **** you never even knew you needed, forums  almost always make you feel you need more or better, that you are missing out.. it’s getting tedious. 
 

guessing I’m alone in my views??

It’s the loss of summer and the misery of knowing that things won’t get any better until next May and the knowledge that chances are we’ll have another totally rubbish summer. If I wasn’t glued to my business and office premises, I’d have bailed by now just for a better climate. 

Ive never had a bad day when the sun is shining and it’s a solid 22 degrees outside.

I’m 52, my job is challenging and exhausting and I never switch off from it. I never get a clear whole night’s sleep / sleep through a whole night - must be 20 years now.

I’ve joined a whole load of retirement groups on Facebook to research retirement just to understand more. Retirement at 55 is viable but the ‘what then’ is a problem - as much as I hate being flat out at work, I’m not happy unless I am flat out and have a project or two running on the side. 

Life also goes in phases. Kids are 22, 20 and 18 and sliding off hand. The next phase will be grandchildren and helping kids out with kids. 

[marsh man]

I find if you enjoy going out in the countryside then you will never get bored as it never stay still and is constantly changing , thankfully there were not many replies that mentioned money , of course you need a certain amount of money but the trump card is getting everything sorted out before you do retire , as long as you have got enough to pay the on going bills and a few bob for the rainy days and the unexpected then what more do you want , the day I finished work was the day I stopped saving money , I haven't got a load of money but apart from our first mortgage I have never been in debt and still got enough for the forseeable future , I sometimes think about money but never worry about it , you can still live a healthy lifestyle without spending the earth , these last two weeks might be the same around your way with free entry on Heritage Open Days , over the last two weeks I have been to several museums , stately homes , windmills and tomorrow I am off to the Museum Of The Broads near Stalham ,  a bit later I pop in a very good pick your own garden centre and end up at Waitrose for a free coffee and any decent reduced items .

Around this way is a lovely day and I am just back from a walk along the river , really enjoyed it , plenty of fresh air and all for free.

These are the free open days , well worth going to some of them , no excuse in not having anything to do and won't cost you a arm and a leg , a small donation if you want ,your choice .     MM

[islandgun]

56 is no age. most on here can only just remember it [including me] lots of things to do out there that don't cost money and they usually offer more satisfaction than something that needs paying for. chin up..👍

[welsh1]

I think maybe you should have a chat with your GP, tell them how you feel.
 

[Jega]

[team tractor]

6 hours ago, la bala said:

I am 81 and just started weight training again. 

This is what I was going to say . It doesn’t matter what shape you are as it’s just great for mental health 

[team tractor]

Ok I’m only 42 but while the internet man was at mine this morning we were chatting. He was 52 .

He commented on how many hobbies I have and questioned where I find time . 
cycling , shooting, fishing , foraging , working on my house , going away to the static in Somerset 12 times a year , touring on my motorbike. 
 

Im an only child ( now ) I lived on my own for a couple of years and have no one but my kids and parents. Kids are all under 16 .  I used to get lonely and found the gym helped my head . 

Hobbies is where it’s at from DIY to model making at night . 
 

[Doormat]

Bye

Edited September 15 by Doormat

[Gordon R]

When I read the original post, I accepted you were bored. The sentiments you pour out in this last post go way beyond that. I think you need help.

[Dougy]

Got 97 days left till I put away all my work thoughts for good. No more having to reply to other people's problem emails. Can't wait, in fact it might be less than 97 if anyone upsets me at work. Got a new puppy on the cards for next spring, high seats ready to put out. 

Bring it on I've looked forward to the day since I started work. 

[12gauge82]

It's normal to feel life isn't what it should be at times and many people feel life is one long grind. I'm sure few of us have achieved what we thought we would when we were children wondering what we'd do when we were older. 

If you've felt like this for a long time you probably do need to change something up, but it's also important to remember happiness often comes from a positive state of mind. It very much sounds like your in a negative rut. Try to focus on the things in your life you can control. Migrants, the work shy, how our economy is run, is far outside your control. Give yourself a goal, something realistic to achieve and focus on that, boredom although part of life, if overdone can be very damaging to one's mindset. 

[marsh man]

I don't think us telling the op what we do or done would be helping much in fact it could even make matters worse , he come over as a hard working guy who is very independent and hopefully he get himself sorted out either with help from his doctor or take a different direction in life , GOOD LUCK 

[Dave at kelton]

Some interesting replies here but nearly all,are about you grasping control of the situation. At your age I started planning my retirement. That was not just in financial terms but time. Firstly I was not and would not be beholden to kids and grandkids. The first have had their share of my time and I wasn’t going to be unpaid child minder to the second no matter how much I loved them.

Next I decided I didn’t want to carry on doing what I was doing but I looked at my skills and decided which were transferable to something I might want to do. I planned out the scenario I wanted and how much I wanted or needed to work. That was 3 days a week.

It was then a matter of working out how to make it work and where. So here I am in Scotland, loving life, now working just one day a week, picking up,three days a week and wildfowling. I chair two organisations and am Trustee for two charities . There is nothing boring in my life because I don’t let it!

In short it’s up to you.

[marsh man]

6 minutes ago, Dave at kelton said:

Some interesting replies here but nearly all,are about you grasping control of the situation. At your age I started planning my retirement. That was not just in financial terms but time. Firstly I was not and would not be beholden to kids and grandkids. The first have had their share of my time and I wasn’t going to be unpaid child minder to the second no matter how much I loved them.

Next I decided I didn’t want to carry on doing what I was doing but I looked at my skills and decided which were transferable to something I might want to do. I planned out the scenario I wanted and how much I wanted or needed to work. That was 3 days a week.

It was then a matter of working out how to make it work and where. So here I am in Scotland, loving life, now working just one day a week, picking up,three days a week and wildfowling. I chair two organisations and am Trustee for two charities . There is nothing boring in my life because I don’t let it!

In short it’s up to you.

For most people if they have got a hobby or pastime before they retire then most of them will spend more time in pursuing what they like doing when retirement finally arrive , but we have to remember that not every one is looking forward to it , where I used to live a lot of them were working , come a Friday night there motor would be parked outside there house and wouldn't be moved until Monday morning when they went back to work , all there friends were at work and work was there interest , when retirement finally loomed up then they could not adjust , there interest was gone and no longer had the same contact with there friends , some of them more or less became reclusive and rarely went out , life was only going in one direction and that was downhill and sadly now , most if not all are below ground level .    MM

[Dave-G]

I get where you are coming from but think its somewhat premature, maybe a bit of overtime or a part time job might help?

[Doormat]

11 hours ago, Dave-G said:

I get where you are coming from but think it’s somewhat premature, maybe a bit of overtime or a part time job might 

Bye

Edited September 15 by Doormat

[TIGHTCHOKE]

Don't apologise, get some help, soon.

[retromlc]

I read the OP and I get exactly what he's saying, and it's easy to feel the same, everything is really expensive except apparently the work I do so I have to pay the companies more to allow me to do my job, which apparently isn't worth more to charge for.

I have definitely walked a difficult path ( I lost my 17yr old boy to Cancer,it was 12 yrs ago)

 

BUT 

life goes on, I make the most of it, shooting is expensive, but I enjoy it and have a good set of buddies, I'm 59 and still race enduro off road, not at the same level I used to, but still having a blast with my riding buddies,and still get a top3 in my new old **** class.

I ache/moan/ complain, but thats age/experience but I really try to enjoy life.

My 22 yr daughter is finally beginning to communicate with us, we were boring to her from about 17 so kids do come around once they grow up.

Would I go back to being 20? Nope, it was a blast and I was pretty crazy (who wasn't eh)

You gotta enjoy the little things.

The fresh morning walks.

Your friends 

Hobbies when you can afford it .

Watching telly with the dogs plastered all over me.

Sometimes offering old years advice and it helping.

Life is like a boxing match, you're going to get punched, and we all go down in the 12th round , but enjoy getting the jabs and hooks in.

[TIGHTCHOKE]

Yes to the above, be positive whenever you can.   

[Doormat]

4 hours ago, retromlc said:

I read the OP and I get exactly what he's saying, and it's easy to feel the same, everything is really expensive except apparently the work I do so I have to pay the companies more to allow me to do my job, which apparently isn't worth more to charge for.

I have definitely walked a difficult path ( I lost my 17yr old boy to Cancer,it was 12 yrs ago)

 

BUT 

life goes on, I make the most of it, shooting is expensive, but I enjoy it and have a good set of buddies, I'm 59 and still race enduro off road, not at the same level I used to, but still having a blast with my riding buddies,and still get a top3 in my new old **** class.

I ache/moan/ complain, but thats age/experience but I really try to enjoy life.

My 22 yr daughter is finally beginning to communicate with us, we were boring to her from about 17 so kids do come around once they grow up.

Would I go back to being 20? Nope, it was a blast and I was pretty crazy (who wasn't eh)

You gotta enjoy the little things.

The fresh morning walks.

Your friends 

Hobbies when you can afford it .

Watching telly with the dogs plastered all over me.

Sometimes offering old years advice and it helping.

Life is like a boxing match, you're going to get punched, and we all go down in the 12th round , but enjoy getting the jabs and hooks in.

My heart goes out to you, so sorry for your loss.

 

Edited September 15 by Doormat

[Rim Fire]

15 hours ago, JKD said:

Does that mean going to bed reeealy early, or getting up reeealy late ? 🤔 😆

🤣🤣 yes meant to say AM 

[JKD]

Just now, Rim Fire said:

🤣🤣 yes meant to say AM 

Obviously 🤦‍♂️😆😂

As for the thread topic,,,,, this member needs help ASAP, and IMO shouldn't be saying some of the things he is on an open shooting forum.

[Rim Fire]

1 minute ago, JKD said:

Obviously 🤦‍♂️😆😂

As for the thread topic,,,,, this member needs help ASAP, and IMO shouldn't be saying some of the things he is on an open shooting forum.

Was thinking  the same in my area you would have your ticket taken and guns