Del T Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Send him a bill for your time posting it out and the postage cost. The guy sounds a tool, he can't possibly phone a lowly garage mechanic! He's too posh for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STOTTO Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Let it pass. To expect ones high moral standards to be reciprocated is alas to be forever rewarded with disappointment! However a very well done to you and your mechanic and remember it is much harder to earn respect than money, you have parted with merely a little loose change while he has now lost any and all respect you might have had for him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scully Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 The man is obviously a prize ****. I'd contact his wife and explain the situation to her and politely, (because being polite and reasonable when others aren't, always has more impact I've found) express my disappointment in her husband. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaun4860 Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 I echo most of the comments above, but I think in your position now I would telephone his home, at a time I guess he is out and tell the story to his wife, explaining how you are keen for the mechanic to have some independant acknowledgment that you actually returned the ring. A telephone call, or visit, from her or her husband would do that (plus be common curtesy). I wouldn't let it rest. This ^^ Years ago I wrote my car off and before it went away I forgot to take my Mothers memorial card from the sunvisor, I thought it had gone forever, but, about 3 months later it arrived with a nice letter from a lady in Scotland, she thought it might be important to me (it is), She got my name and addy from the logbook, they bought it as a write off and put it back on the road. I still had the spare key (credit card type) and locking wheel nuts and spares, I rang and asked for her address and said I would post them, (about £150 to replace all) she asked if she could pay postage, I declined, She thanked me and let me know when they arrived. THATS how it should be done. Do as Cranfield said Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest rimotu66 Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Let it pass. To expect ones high moral standards to be reciprocated is alas to be forever rewarded with disappointment! However a very well done to you and your mechanic and remember it is much harder to earn respect than money, you have parted with merely a little loose change while he has now lost any and all respect you might have had for him! + 1. Mungler you and the mechanic did the right thing , the cretin has money and 'fame' but obviously no morals class or standards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jega Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Yep another example of the old saying ,"Money has absolutely nothing to do with class " Well done to Mungler and his mechanic . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLuke Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 (edited) The question here really is what was she doing with her hand on the drivers side that meant it was moving so quickly the ring came off.... But that aside, you can sleep easy you have done the right thing and I am a big believer in karma. I found £4000.00 cash on the floor in a Tesco once - I handed it with name and number. The store called and said it was claimed by a regular (who they suspected the cash belonged to when handed in) but I never got a call from the actual owner. I really needed the cash at the time and was miffed not to hear but it does mean I have slept easy ever since that I didn't pocket someone's life savings/money for first car/etc Edited August 25, 2015 by LondonLuke Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jbob Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Let it pass. To expect ones high moral standards to be reciprocated is alas to be forever rewarded with disappointment! However a very well done to you and your mechanic and remember it is much harder to earn respect than money, you have parted with merely a little loose change while he has now lost any and all respect you might have had for him! +1 here too. Trying to deal with a complete ****** like that will only waste your time and stress you out. You and your mechanic can sleep at night knowing you have done the right thing and thats all that counts at the end of the day. You have a clear conscience. Id have done the same thing as you as its how I was brought up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grrclark Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 I found a lovely gold wrist watch on the floor of a John Lewis store and handed it in to the customer service desk along with my name and address, because they asked for my name and address. About 2 weeks later I received a lovely letter from the lady whose watch it was thanking me for handing it in. Although it was heartening for the lady to write to me to express her thanks I was a bit miffed with the store for giving my name and address away without asking first. I didn't hand it in for the thank you, i simply handed it in because it was the right thing to do. The chap in question in the OP is obviously an ill mannered oaf, pestering him or his wife benefits nobody as obviously any thanks that may be passed on subsequently would not be genuine. You did the right thing, don't turn an act of generosity and kindness into something bitter for the sake of wasted principle. You said thank you to the mechanic and you meant it, that means much more than some faceless gesture by someone shamed into doing something. Although I completely understand your feelings towards Mr Holland Park you have let this niggle you for 3 months whilst he has not given a toss, don't waste any more emotion on the clown. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vince Green Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 (edited) He is probably just an AH, of which there many. LondonLuke's story about finding money in Tesco. About ten years ago I too found some money in Sainsbury's, also in West London, not a lot, just a few small notes. I handed it in at the customer service desk, next time I went in I asked at the desk if it had been claimed. The woman on the counter (who was not who I handed it in to) looked in the lost property book and said. "Theres nothing in here about any money being handed in last week" I didn't persue it but I should have Some idiot put his job on the line for £15 Edited August 25, 2015 by Vince Green Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oxon T Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Just show the mechanic your texts then he will know that you did the right thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Al Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 (edited) He sounds like an egocentric *****. He has got what he wanted so he THINKS he can wash his hands of it. Arrogance or snobbery in any form really aggravates me, and this smells shockingly like it. I wouldn't let it lie solely out of principle. Cranfield 's idea is a good one and I would make it clear that as you did the right thing for him then reciprocation would be greatly appreciated. And well done for having the decency to do the right thing. I don't think he would have done it. Edited August 25, 2015 by Big Al Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mentalmac Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 You'll find those who work in PR for others likely aren't brilliant at their own Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mel b3 Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Fair play to you and the mechanic for doing the right thing mung. Now send him a very official looking solicitors letter asking for the return of, or, payment for, your ring, you bought the car and its contents from him, it belongs to you. I dont reckon it would get you very far but it would knock the smile off his face lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sitsinhedges Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Keep us informed as to what happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
old man Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Just a ******? Insurance scam? Not his wifes? Endless scenarios? The main thing is that the OP took the honorable path. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rodp Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Just a ******? Insurance scam? Not his wifes? Endless scenarios? The main thing is that the OP took the honorable path. Yep, doubtless it will have been claimed for Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
figgy Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Is try contacting his wife and go that route is her grandmothers ring with so much sentimental value. The very least she could do is ring and thank him in person. Funny how he found the time to pester you by text till it arrived. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Grrrrr. some people eh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hamster Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 You did the right thing, don't turn an act of generosity and kindness into something bitter for the sake of wasted principle. You said thank you to the mechanic and you meant it, that means much more than some faceless gesture by someone shamed into doing something. I wouldn't call Sienna Miller either it's trying to make a right out of two wrongs, if she doesn't know about the ring (or another woman) it isn't really your calling in life to let her know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lord_seagrave Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Let it pass. To expect ones high moral standards to be reciprocated is alas to be forever rewarded with disappointment! However a very well done to you and your mechanic and remember it is much harder to earn respect than money, you have parted with merely a little loose change while he has now lost any and all respect you might have had for him! This. Be the bigger man. LS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spanj Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 I'm with Cranfield on this. & I'm with Dougy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thunderbird Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 I once found a digi camera under the seat in a hire car and rather than trust the hire company to send it to the owner I managed to trace the owner from pictures of their yacht being anti-fouled and getting a glimpse of both the name of the boat and the yard from one of the pics. I got a murmured 'thank you' and that was it. I wasn't expecting a reward but the guy could have been a little more effusive or at least bought me a pint. To Mungler, it's the big hair that's the hardest to stomach, isn't it? It's got Steiner School written all over it, so they'll grow up as vegan champagne-socialists and as such their species will perpetuate. Ugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spanj Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 So, this is just getting something off my chest. At the end of May this year I bought a second hand Merc SL off a posh bloke in London. Before parting with the cash I checked him out to make sure all was what it should be - I Googled the chap's name and found out he was something big in PR (and there were a few Google images of him on the telly, off the politics show and so on). The property address in London was Holland Park and last changed hands for something around the £2m mark when he bought it. The car needed work, but it was priced to sell and the deal was done. Indeed, the bloke was selling it to make way on the parking permit for the brand new Range Rover Vogue sitting outside. He was typical West London and the Mrs was the West London Sienna Miller "oh yah, hi there" look a like and the children all had big hair. Fast forward to the first trip to the garage; now this isn't heading where you think it is. The car was in for an MoT and to free a stuck seat runner on the driver's seat. I took the car to the garage next door and the lead mechanic (who is employed and who doesn't own the place) is good and he's been there forever, well he comes out and says "I found a lady's gold ring in the seat mechanism, I've left it in the centre console". Low and behold he's found a very pretty and very nicely engraved gold band; it's heavy but small and looks antique. It's £500 to £1000 of gold ring, all day long (as we say in Essex). So, I get in contact with the previous owner and establish that the ring belonged to his wife's grandmother and she (the wife) lost it the first time they met in that very car. They thought the ring was lost to the world etc. and had massive sentimental value because it was his wife's grandmother's. And yes, he's a very happy bunny. Now, it takes me maybe 3 or 4 days to get to the post office to send it Special Delivery and I cough the £8 or so - it's not a problem. Throughout those days, he pesters the life out of me by text to make sure it's on it way; he's anxious that I am going to do the right thing and clearly the ring is important. With the ring, I enclose a covering letter which broadly says: "no one knew the ring was there, the mechanic could have trousered the ring" and neither he nor me would be any the wiser, so it would be nice if he said thank you to the mechanic - I then give the details of the off license opposite the garage, the full name of the mechanic and the garage's contact details (address, phone, email). A week goes by and I text to see if the ring has actually arrived safely because I've heard nothing - the track and trace says it's been delivered. Chummy comes back and says that it has but he's busy and has been abroad. I give it two weeks and give him a gentle reminder to say thank you to the mechanic. The texts are met with lots of "Great, wow and yes I really should". The last text I sent said "if you don't do anything else, please at the very least phone the mechanic just to say thanks" - in part, this is to cover me with the mechanic whom I am now worried may think that I've trousered the ring! Alas, 3 months later and yesterday I bump into the mechanic. Yep, you guessed it, nothing by way of word of thanks from Mr. Holland Park. I was thinking about printing off the texts, the royal mail receipt and sending it to the bloke's wife to see if she wanted to pick up the phone and take 2 minutes out of her day to say thank you to the mechanic. I am genuinely amazed at the way some people go through this life. There is only one thing to say............ ask yourself what Chuck Norris would have done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadkill Posted August 25, 2015 Report Share Posted August 25, 2015 Mungler at least you did the right thing my friend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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