spandit Posted July 20, 2017 Report Share Posted July 20, 2017 My in laws live with us in an annexe. My wife called for me in distress this evening and I rushed through to find my father in law dead on the sofa. Did CPR and first responder got here quick but they stopped working on him and he died. I've never seen a dead body before. He had had a triple bypass some years ago but had just had a glowing report from the cardiologist within the last week. He was 62. My 7 year old daughter is distraught Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuddster Posted July 20, 2017 Report Share Posted July 20, 2017 So sorry to hear that- clearly a disturbing matter. I'd just say be a little kinder to yourself,you did all you could for the man and you tried your best. I've done CPR twice to no avail but you've got to do what you can. Sorry again for your family's loss. F. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shoot and be safe Posted July 20, 2017 Report Share Posted July 20, 2017 Sorry for your loss. You did your up most to save the chap and shoul be proud that you tried. All you can do now is be strong for your wife and daughter to help them through these difficult times. Don't be worried about shedding a tear your self. All the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scolopax Posted July 20, 2017 Report Share Posted July 20, 2017 My condolences to you and your family. You did everything you could, I believe CPR is at best only ever a means of buying time until the professionals arrive so do not be hard on yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gonna Shoot a Wabbit Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 So sorry for your loss. Well done performing CPR. You did everything you could in the circumstances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spandit Posted July 21, 2017 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 I'd only ever done it on a dummy before. He would have been sore the next day... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clakk Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Sorry for your loss ,you did your best and thats all you can do in this situation condolences to your family ,been through similar with my grandad .Remember the good times and the laughter atb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loriusgarrulus Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 At least you know how to do CPR. Many would not know where to start. Well done for taking the trouble to learn and for being able to try to revive him. I am sorry for you and your families loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old farrier Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 So sorry to here off your loss My thoughts and sympathy to you and your family Be strong for your family in these difficult times Deepest condolences Of Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnfromUK Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Very sorry to hear, and 62 is not old. These things are a nasty shock. My mother died suddenly of heart failure and I know from experience that it takes time to get over the shock of a sudden death. My sympathy to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rimfire4969 Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 My condolences to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mice! Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 As said above first aid has no guarantee, you do your best till the professionals arrive, that's what they always tell you on any courses. I'm like you done first aid through work for years but never done more than plasters and eye rinses, well done for trying to help him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddy Galore! Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 I'm so sorry mate, puts all our problems into some sort of perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WelshAndy Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Sorry to hear your sad news. It'll be the second anniversary of my dad's death in November - he died suddenly after a massively heart attack, aged 57. It doesn't get any easier...... RIP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silver pigeon69 Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 So Sorry for you. I am a First Aid instructor and part of what we are taught/teach is to be aware of how the First Aider may feel after something like this. People feel that they didn't do something or didn't do it right. Everyone does it right as such, because if they did nothing then the chance of any change would be zero. Also the success rate for CPR is less than 30%. Keep an eye on yourself and watch out for depression. Well done for having the training and having a go. You definately did the right thing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshwarrior Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 (edited) Sorry for your lost you did all you could Edited July 21, 2017 by welshwarrior Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnphilip Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Sorry to hear your sad news. It'll be the second anniversary of my dad's death in November - he died suddenly after a massively heart attack, aged 57. It doesn't get any easier...... RIP But the pain eases give your self time. To be feeling the way you are is natural, and shows you loved and cared, and keep doing so. Our body does things to help us that we do not even realise, there is a reason for tears, when we cry, within the tears there is a chemical that is released that is a soothing chemical that your body has made to help you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WelshAndy Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 But the pain eases give your self time. To be feeling the way you are is natural, and shows you loved and cared, and keep doing so. Our body does things to help us that we do not even realise, there is a reason for tears, when we cry, within the tears there is a chemical that is released that is a soothing chemical that your body has made to help you. Thank you for your kind words Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Mighty Prawn Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 I'm deeply sorry for your loss - My brother did CPR on my sister in law for a long while and also couldn't save her, the paramedics said CPR very rarely works even in hospital and it's important not to beat yourself up over it. Wishing you and your family the best at this hard time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ips Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Condolences My father died of heart attack at 57 in 1991 he died in our office my brother tried but to no avail. GP said cpr rarely works other than on tv...you have to try though, which you did, you can do no more than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aled Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family. Aled Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnphilip Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 Thank you for your kind words Your most welcome any time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobbyathome Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 you tried your best spandit that is all you could do be strong for your wife she will need it for a while as most people have said cpr rarely works it is just a buying time aid and you gave him that chance keep your chin up rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spandit Posted July 21, 2017 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 I'll be OK after a proper night's sleep, house is crammed with family and friends now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
subsonicnat Posted July 21, 2017 Report Share Posted July 21, 2017 You tried your best mate,that is all you can do.. Sorry to hear it all the same.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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